Real Conversations about Aging Parents

Welcome! In this episode we take a deeper look at the terms "willing" and "able". What does it mean to be "able" to take care of someone else? What does it mean to be "willing"? What are the various combinations of those terms, and what are the implications? Let's talk about transitions home, life after rehab, and the physician perspective. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shou...

Welcome! Oh Boy. This is the big one. This is an in-depth interview of my own Grandmother, my inspiration for all things Aging Parents. We deep dive her history, her views of growing older, aging in place, and end of life. She is a wonderful human and I'm excited to share her with our audience today. Have a blessed Thanksgiving! Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed...

Welcome! In this episode we walk through an aging parent journey with a unique perspective.... what if we interviewed a mental health professional who has been through this? And what if she has tons of great info and tips to share? Can't wait for you to listen to this interview with Edla Prevette!! Find more about Edla's project, "One-Eighty: When Parental Roles Reverse". https://www.edlaprevette....

Welcome! Boy do we have a fun one today, I chat with an old friend and fellow entrepreneur Mr. Clinton Haby. He has crafted his own brand around the art of extracting stories and compiling them into priceless high quality legacy films. We discuss the "ethical will", end of life reflections, and tips on how to engage loved ones this upcoming holiday season. Find out more about Clinton: https://stor...

Welcome! In this episode I talk to Jackie (my Mom) again, focusing on her strained and difficult relationship with her father and how that played out in his final years. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is not intended as formal legal, financi...

 Welcome! What a treat we have for your. In this episode we talk to psychiatrist Dr. Keyashian about the true meaning of self compassion, how to practice this as it relates to supporting yourself and aging parents. More information on Dr. Keyashian can be found here: https://amindfulmd.com/ And she has a retreat coming up, more info here: https://coaching.amindfulmd.com/retreat Caveats: This is a...

Welcome! In this episode we discuss my fantastic weekend spent with top interior designers... next we take a deep dive into 5 areas of design with some practical tips on aging in place. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is not intended as forma...

Welcome! In this episode we look at the other end of the spectrum. What if you are the hyper-prepared or hyper-responsible type and you are the one more worried than anyone else? How do you approach your parents? How do you navigate these difficult topics? Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This...

Welcome! In this episode I pass the mic to Liz as we discuss the podcast itself, how it's meant to connect with others and where we are heading in the future. Want to be a guest? contact me at story@rebeccatapiamd.com Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes o...

Welcome! In this episode we talk to Craig about his Midwestern upbringing with his "mountain" of a Dad and "strongest person ever" Mom to learn more about how they are navigating this current chapter of health issues and aging. We talk about balancing responsiblities with a sibling, dealing with incontinence, and what boundaries are in place. Thanks Craig for such a great episode! Caveats: This is...

Welcome! In this episode I share a quick story from a podcast listener then take a deep dive into the concept of seasons throughout life, ups and downs, and how to use our brains to better engage in the here and now by being clear about the coming and going of seasons in our lifetime. Send me a story!! story@rebeccatapiamd.com Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed,...

Welcome! In this episode I borrow from a recent presentation I was invited to create for the "Demystifying Inflammation Summit", a free three day online event next week. I talk extensively about the concept of a "zero sum game" and how it applies to our finite resources of time, attention, money and health. This is a concept borrowed from my course, unSandwiched , which is currently LIVE and 15% t...

Welcome! In this episode I have the exciting opportunity to pick the brain of an Elder Law attorney, and turns out she is super nice and ready to answer all the questions! This is jam-packed with great lessons and insights, and I'll be sure to do a Part 2 in the future. Please enjoy and have those tough conversations! Find more about Lisa here: https://www.harrisbeach.com/people/powers-lisa-m/ Cav...

Welcome! In this solo episode I explore the Swedish tradition of "death cleaning" or "dostadning" and how it is relevant in all stages of life. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes only; it is not intended as formal legal, financial or medical advice Heads...

Welcome! In this episode I talk to my three children about what their current (early) concept is about taking care of aging parents. Turns out, it largely maps back to what they have seen on the Simpsons. Yup. Anyway, I explore the topics with them with modest success. Thanks for listening! Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works...

Welcome! In this episode we speak again with Esther Greenhouse, but this time about her personal journey with her own mother. We explore relationship dynamics, living next door, vascular dementia, and much more. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purposes only; i...

Welcome! In this episode I explore three different factors that have produced the modern sandwich generation... 1) extension of life expectancy 2) career and economic opportunities 3) assisted and senior living communities Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational purpo...

Welcome! In this episode we speak with Alexis about the dementia journey with her Dad and recent life changes she has made in order to support her mother. We talk about taking the keys away from her father, the stressors of inflexible physician careers, and deep dive the delicate decisions made when weighing out a life on pause. Alexis can be found on Instagram: @alexisgopalmd Caveats: This is a j...

Welcome! In this episode we hear the story of a lifelong journey of supporting an aging parent through multiple complications and cognitive impairment. We also discuss the complexity of divorced parents, geographic distance, and the importance of self-care. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This...

Welcome! In this episode we have an expert guest, Esther Greenhouse, talking all things environmental gerontology (how cool is that?). We talk about design challenges, caregiver labor shortages and tips/tricks for aging in place. Find out more about Esther... Esther Greenhouse, CEO of Silver to Gold Strategic Consulting , is a strategist and environmental gerontologist bringing a unique...

Welcome! In this episode we continue the discussion I started last week about my great Aunt Margie. We get my Mom's perspective on the entire experience, and deep dive the relationship history along with some lessons learned. Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in curiosity Take what works well for you, leave the rest! This podcast is for informational pu...

Welcome! Triggers: death/dying discussion In this episode we talk about the last few years of life for my great-aunt Margie. I go in depth of my experience being at her bedside as she passed, and highlight some of the difficult decision making about that time. I also touch on my Mom's role in her life, how it grew over time, with a promise to dive deeper in a later episode. Caveats: This is a judg...

Welcome! In this episode we step through breathtaking moments of Cecilia's life with her father. We talk about the pain of abandonment and the tough decisions she made as her father got more and more ill. Join me for this fascinating story of overcoming adversity to find peace in your own mind. If you are interested in working directly with Cecilia - please check her out! Dr. Cecilia Minano is a p...

Welcome! This is a conversation with my oldest brother, Josh, that followed the one you may have heard published on Father's Day. We talk about how he thinks of aging and the role of his daughter, and more on living with an aging parent (from the male perspective). It was so unique I figured it should be it's own episode. You can find out more about Josh at his website. Also - check out my course...

Welcome! In this episode I am talking about the concept of reasonable risk and how it applies to our mindset with significant elders or aging parents. How does risk calculation change over time? How does quality of life factor in? How do we approach this topic? Want to check out the video - it's posted on YouTube . Caveats: This is a judgement free zone There are no "shoulds" allowed, we live in c...