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Stop Shoulding Yourself. Words That Keep Us Stuck: The “Should” Series How often do you catch yourself saying, “I should have known better,” “I should be further along,” or “I should say yes” —even when something inside you is telling you no? In this episode of Real Adult Wisdom , Becky Shaffer explores the emotional weight behind the words “I should” and “I should have.” Sometimes these phrases p...

In Episode 1 of the Life 2.0 series, Becky Shaffer opens the door to the honest, raw, and deeply human experience of starting over in midlife. This episode is not about having it all figured out. It is about what happens when the life you built shifts, the roles you played begin to fall away, and you are left asking, “Who am I now?” Through empty nesting, heartbreak, loss, healing, and reinvention...

Becky Shaffer , author of The Why Not Me? Concept  and  Solari , author of  The Sacred Undoing , bring raw, honest conversations to the podcast as they sit down with guest Paula Mathias , author of Speak Up . Together, they unpack why so many women struggle to advocate for themselves, the conditioning that keeps women silent, and the powerful steps women can take to reclaim their voice in their ca...

In this episode of Real Adult Wisdom, we’re talking about what actually has to shift neurologically before your habits, boundaries, confidence, and clarity can shift in real life. Dr. Lisa Riegel has spent over two decades studying how the brain drives behavior, and more importantly, how we can work with it instead of constantly fighting against it. She’s an educator, researcher, author, and someo...

We are excited to have Kim Costa, AS FEATURED on HGTV, ABC, Atlanta Magazine, and Opeal, join our show. Growth isn’t just about mindset; it’s about alignment. When your living environment doesn’t match who you’re becoming, your body feels it first. On Real Adult Wisdom, we’re exploring how aligning your space, routines, and daily life with your soul creates real, sustainable change—not just motiva...

“What if card reading wasn’t magic—but a mirror? On Real Adult Wisdom, we explore tarot, intuition, and personal growth in a real, grounded way. No hype. Just reflection, awareness, and the courage to ask better questions. Tune in.”

In this episode of Real Adult Wisdom, we sit down with Dr. Lee for a thoughtful discussion on education, systems, and student-centered learning. Drawing from lived experience and professional insight, the conversation explores how education can better recognize diverse pathways, support real-world readiness, and respond to the needs of students, families, and educators. While perspectives may diff...

When change is rooted in self-rejection, it becomes a form of punishment rather than growth. Growth that starts in shame rarely lasts. (And Why Shame Is a Terrible Life Coach) Let’s start with a hard truth:Most people don’t fail at change because they lack discipline. They fail because they try to build a better life on top of self-rejection. And self-rejection is not a strong foundation. It’s qui...

This episode of Real Adult Wisdom is not about overnight success or perfectly packaged stories. Becky Shaffer and Deborah Yager come together to speak candidly about where they began, what they endured, and how they built their lives one piece at a time. There were doubts, detours, setbacks, and moments when quitting would have been easier—but they didn’t. They are self-made, but not untouched by...

Tonight feels special. I’m sitting down with Scott Neff, and together we’re talking openly about what it really takes to write a book—the fear, the healing, the courage, and the moments that cracked us open. This isn’t just about the pages we wrote. It’s about the lives we lived to write them.

Jen Hendershott, world champion athlete, coach, and now author — "Life In One Shott", bringing raw honesty, resilience, and real-life wisdom. Becky Shaffer, educator, coach, podcast host, founder of www.liveinconfidence.com , and author of "The Why Not Me? Concept", a transformative book on healing, worthiness, and reinvention. Together, they sit down to talk about what it mean...

We all know the script: Holidays are supposed to feel warm, familiar, and comforting. We see it on the Hallmark movies, we hear it in the carols. But what happens when that script no longer matches your reality? Perhaps your life has undergone a significant change—a divorce, a profound loss, a major relocation, or an unexpected shift in identity. When that happens, the holidays no longer feel like...

Endings have a way of shaking everything we thought we knew about ourselves—our roles, relationships, routines, and identity. In this episode, Becky Shaffer dives into the emotional and psychological terrain of reinvention seasons —those in-between chapters when who you were no longer fits, and who you are becoming isn’t fully clear yet. We explore what it really means when: An identity ends A rol...

The holidays can feel magical… but they can also magnify the cracks we work so hard to hide. Grief doesn’t just come from loss through death — it shows up in endings, distance, changed traditions, kids growing up, and the versions of ourselves we had to let go. Tonight, we’re talking about the hidden spaces of holiday grief — the ones no one warns you about but so many of us live through. If this...

Ambition can be a coping mechanism. Many of us were taught to achieve our way into worthiness, to produce our way into safety. So we become leaders, healers, entrepreneurs, top students—pushing ourselves to excel while abandoning our own bodies and inner child in the process. Beneath the applause is often anxiety, emotional exhaustion, loneliness, and a deep longing to be seen beyond what we do. W...

In this deeply honest episode of Real Adult Wisdom , Becky sits down with author Pete Colter for a raw and unfiltered conversation about mental illness, survival, and the art of turning suffering into story. Pete opens up about his lifelong battles with manic depression, the surgeries that shaped his childhood, and the trauma that nearly broke him — and how writing became both his refuge and his r...

Tonight on Real Adult Wisdom: SOLARI and I continue The Rise & Rewrite Series with a powerful conversation on Identity Shattering as Initiation. We’re talking about the moments that break us open—burnout, betrayal, illness, divorce, or spiritual awakening—and how they become the doorway into who we’re meant to be. If you’ve ever felt your life fall apart so something truer could begin, this ep...

Becky and SOLARI come together for an empowering conversation filled with practical tools for healing and self-growth. Two women, two powerful stories, and two transformative books — sharing the lessons, lived experiences, and insights that shaped their journeys. This series pulls back the curtain on what it really takes to rewrite your story, rise from what broke you, and step into the life you’r...

This podcast is for the person who survived, the person who carried the weight, the person who learned to be strong because life left them no other choice — and who is now ready for something more. Hosted by author Becky Shaffer, who turned their pain into purpose , this show blends real, raw storytelling with empowering tools for growth. Through personal experiences, healing conversations, and in...

Today, we’re diving into the beautiful, brutal, and often misunderstood world of forgiveness because forgiveness is not one-size-fits-all. It comes in many forms. Join Becky Shaffer and Leslie Brooks as they dive deep and share personal stories of forgiveness.

Becky Shaffer and Leslie Brooks are back on Real Adult Wisdom for another powerful conversation—this time, diving deeper into “Boundaries.”Becky Shaffer and Leslie Brooks are back on Real Adult Wisdom for another powerful discussion—this time, diving deeper into “Boundaries.”These two dynamic life coaches break it all down: Why we struggle to set them, how somatic awareness plays a role, and what...

Today we’re talking about something we all do—but don’t always recognize: carrying the past into the present like an overstuffed emotional carry-on. Whether it’s childhood wounds, relationship trauma, or that one rejection in seventh grade that still stings… the past doesn’t always stay in the past.  There are Triggers that brings it out of that bag.   So let’s open the bag and see what we’re lugg...

Today, we’re diving into the good, the bad, and the “Are you kidding me?” moments —the ones that cracked us open, called us higher, and forced us to grow in ways we never saw coming. These are the moments that don’t always make sense when they happen… The moments that leave us breathless, heartbroken, or humbled—but become the turning points we didn’t realize we needed. The good reminds us of what...

"We grew up learning math, history, how to parallel park... but no one handed us a real guide for relationships. No one sat us down and said, 'Here’s how you recognize healthy love. Here’s how you set a boundary without guilt. Here's how you survive heartbreak without losing yourself.' " "So today, we’re starting that conversation. This is about unlearning the myths we a...

We are talking real talk—why boundaries matter, how they build you rather than box you in, and what it looks like to set limits that actually liberate you. Tune in and start drawing the lines that honor your energy, your values, and your worth. You hold the line—because that’s what the most empowered version of you does. liveinconfidence.com Lesliebrooksclc.com