Rarely Said

Meeting your boyfriend's parents can feel like one big test... even when nobody is actually testing you. In this episode of Rarely Said, Harper talks about what it was really like meeting her boyfriend's family just two weeks into their relationship. From the awkward first meeting to slowly feeling more comfortable, she shares what helped calm her nerves and why trying to make a genuine...

A clean room isn't supposed to change your life. But for Harper, it kind of did. In this episode of Rarely Said, Harper talks about the surprisingly simple habit that helped her feel more motivated, productive, and in control of her life. What started as cleaning her room turned into waking up earlier, working out more, eating better, and taking better care of herself overall. This isn't...

Freshman year, Harper had a 1.5 GPA. Not because she wasn't smart. Because she was too scared to ask for help. In this episode of Rarely Said, Harper gets honest about what it actually feels like to be drowning and too proud — or too afraid — to tell anyone. She talks about the moment things started to shift, what finally made her reach out, and how everything changed when she stopped trying...

Harper is back with her mom Tera — and this time they're tackling the big one. Do you actually need a college degree to be successful? Or is that just something everyone says because it's what everyone does? Tera went to college, felt completely lost, dropped out, built a hair salon from the ground up, and then went back to school at 50 — on her own terms. And she has a lot to say about...

A few months ago Harper was all in on college. Now? She's questioning everything — and she's talking about it out loud. In this episode of Rarely Said, Harper gets honest about why the traditional college path stopped feeling right for her, what she actually wants her life to look like, and why success doesn't have to come with a diploma and a mountain of debt attached to it. This i...

Not sad. Not happy. Just... there. Harper is talking about one of the most disorienting feelings she's experienced — the in-between. That weird emotional flatness where nothing is technically wrong, but nothing feels fully real either. Like you're watching your own life happen from a few steps away. She's been there. She talked to her therapist and her mom Tera about it. And this ep...

She used to be the life of the party. Then she got alcohol poisoning at a festival. And everything shifted. Harper is being completely honest in this episode — about what partying actually looked like, what it cost her, and the moment she realized that the version of her life she actually wanted didn't include any of it. This isn't a lecture. It's just her story, and what came after...

What do you do when you haven't had a falling out — you've just... grown apart? Harper gets into one of the quietest, most confusing feelings in high school: outgrowing someone who's still right there. No drama. No big fight. Just two people slowly becoming different versions of themselves and realizing their paths aren't really going the same direction anymore. It happens. And...

What if the most freeing thing you ever did was just… stop performing for other people? Harper gets personal in this episode of Rarely Said. She's taking it all the way back to middle school — feeling left out, chasing trends she didn't even like, and changing pieces of herself just to feel like she belonged somewhere. And how slowly, then all at once, she stopped letting other people&ap...

Harper's mom Tera is here — and she had a lot to say. This episode is a full-on generational conversation about love, dating, and whether our generation is doing it completely wrong. Tera grew up dating before social media existed, and her take on how things have changed is honest, hilarious, and kind of hard to argue with. They played games. They debated. Tera did not hold back. We talk abou...

This episode was requested — and Harper went there. Someone asked her to talk about what happens when your best friend chooses a guy over you. Except Harper didn't just give advice. She shared her own story, the moment she found out, and exactly how it felt to realize someone she trusted had been keeping a secret that changed everything. Real story. Real feelings. No sugarcoating. We talk abo...

Okay, can we be honest for a second? Some of us have let genuinely good guys go because they didn't feel exciting enough. And then turned around and chose someone who gave us anxiety instead. Harper is talking about it — the nice guys she should have kept, why she didn't, and what that actually says about where she was at the time. This one stings a little. In the best way. We talk about...

He's here. And he's answering everything. Harper brought her friend Colt on the podcast and asked him all the things girls are too scared to ask guys directly — and he actually answered. Do guys reread your texts? Do they talk about you with their friends? What does it mean when he leaves you on delivered for four hours? Spoiler: you're not as crazy as you think you are. We talk abo...

Does girl code actually apply to someone you've never even had a real conversation with? Harper is setting the record straight. In this episode of Rarely Said, she breaks down what girl code actually means, where it genuinely applies, and why loyalty to a stranger isn't the same thing as loyalty to your best friend. Because there's a difference between having each other's backs...

What happens when your best friend gets a boyfriend? In this episode of Rarely Said, Harper sits down with her best friend Ava to talk about balancing friendships and relationships in high school without losing yourself. We discuss: Canceling plans for your boyfriend Friendships vs romantic relationships Communication between best friends Not revolving your life around one person Healthy boundarie...

Are red flags always obvious in teenage relationships? In this episode, we break down red flags and green flags in high school dating. Harper shares her personal list of relationship red flags, green flags, and how to trust your intuition when something feels off. We talk about: Inconsistent texting Being kept a secret vs keeping things private Emotional maturity in teen dating Respecting boundari...

Why is it so hard to leave a toxic relationship in high school? In this episode of Rarely Said, Harper talks about staying in relationships and friendships that feel unhealthy, confusing, or controlling — and why walking away can be the healthiest decision you ever make. We discuss: Toxic teenage relationships Feeling controlled in high school Emotional manipulation Building self-confidence after...

Are you a teenage girl who feels everything deeply and overthinks relationships, friendships, and life? Welcome to Rarely Said — a teen relationship and self-worth podcast hosted by Harper, a 16-year-old navigating high school, friendships, crushes, and emotional growth in real time. This episode introduces the heart behind the show: creating a safe space for teenage girls who want advice that act...