Raising Daughters

Children’s childhood is not all about joyfulness and playfulness, but a couple of dangers as well. There are two fears that drive parents to push and micromanage their children: The fear that their kids are going to fall behind their peers and not keep up with the Jones’s kids. Fear of how do I prepare my child for a future that is so much different than my experience. So, parents fill kid’s sched...

Show Notes: And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about. Haruki Murakami We are far enough along in the pandemic to zoom out and take a broader look a...

Show Notes: Dr. Jordan’s interview with author Dr. Clare Fieseler about inspiring girls through stories of real life, modern day women who forged their own paths in science and exploration. STORIES FROM THE NEW BOOK, NO BOUNDARIESUsing stories from Dr. Feiseler’s new book, No Boundaries: 25 Women Explorers and Scientists Share Adventures, Inspiration, and Advice, girls will learn about what it’s r...

Just because our intentions are good doesn’t mean we aren’t doing anything wrong. We all want the best for our daughters but there might be ways we’re being ineffective parents. Dr. Jordan offers 3 more ways that parents may parent that will cause their daughters to become miserable adults:Ruminate worst-case, live in future, focus on grades and results vs focus on the process; creates stress &amp...

Show Notes: Dr. Jordan offers 7 ways that parents may parent that will cause their daughters to become miserable adults: Part 2 next week will describe 3 more habits that are unhealthy for kids, parents, and families Contact Dr. Jordan: www.drtimjordan.com Thank you for listening to my podcast.  Please join our community on our social media platforms and share with yours to help us grow!

We can’t control life’s storms, but we can find stability, appreciate the present, and be kind. In doing so, we rise above turmoil, finding contentment and cultivating connections despite life’s chaos. Dr. Jordan uses Edgar Allan Poe’s story, Descent into the Maelstrom, as a metaphor for how people feel stressed, and out of control in turmoil. It’s hard to feel quiet and grounded because everythin...

Young girls tend to overthink and derail themselves from the smooth journey of life and growing up. Therefore, we as adults must help them understand why they ruminate and learn tools to handle it and their anxiety. Ruminating, i.e., making mountains out of molehills, causes much anxiety in girls & can be tamed with awareness & tools Dr. Jordan shares real stories from six girls whose life...

My interview with author Dr. Kelly McGonigal is about the upside of stress and how to harness it. People who reported high levels of stress but did not view it as harmful had the lowest risk of death of anyone in the study. It wasn’t stress that was killing people, but the combination of stress and the belief that it is harmful. Do you have a toxic relationship with stress? When stress feels again...

SHOW NOTES: A 13-year-old Japanese girl in 1955 shows us a model for lasting peace Express gratitude for those who have and are “packing your chute”, i.e., people who have shown you kindness, mentored you, and been there for you in thick and thin During WWII, compassionate people on board a transport ship sing Christmas carols to captured German prisoners. At that moment, everyone on both sides of...

There are a lot of things that are contagious, and kindness is one of them. Today, Dr. Tim Jordan talks about mirror neurons and the benefits of spreading kindness and peace, because what you give, you get back. Show Notes: Mirror neurons keep track of what other people are thinking, feeling, and doing. We are hard-wired to connect; alone = death. Individual choices are powerfully shaped by what o...

Our girls face a lot of pressures in their social lives. Sometimes, especially when they are the type who gives in the relationship, they can easily become their friend group’s “therapist.” While this is great, when left unchecked, they could be absorbing these feelings which are often draining. How do we, as parents, help keep our girls from feeling overwhelmed with this role? How do we instill i...

Young women today are facing multiple challenges, all the while breaking barriers. From COVID to education and relationships, their stories reveal resilience, hopes, and the changing world they’re shaping. Four 21-year-old women candidly share about their lives, future, & the effects of COVID. Here are some questions they answered: How has COVID affected your education? What is it like to be 2...

Your daughter might want to be a phone or a TV set because that’s all you’re paying attention to. It’s time for that to end. Stop being a distracted parent and be more present! Show Notes:·        Kids feel unimportant, not cared about, and unloved when they are around distracted parents.·        Dr. Jordan relates why your daughter might want to be a TV set:§ They would have their family all arou...

The perception of body image we have today was not developed overnight nor caused by our longer exposure to the digital word. Instead, it involved a long history of culture shifts, advertising approaches, and fashion trends to get us where we are now. Girl’s dissatisfaction with their bodies didn’t start with Instagram and social media; the real culprit was bathroom mirrors and home scales. Just l...

How important is it to support our kids' passions and motivations? Today, we’re talking about motivation, and how we can support our kids' passions and help them find their own internal intrinsic motivation for doing things they love, even when our children's interests are different from our own.  SHOW NOTES:     It is the parents’ job is to offer encouragement and resources to support their daugh...

As parents, we naturally want the best for our daughters. But sometimes, the ways we motivate them can be stifling. Instead of motivating them, we end up limiting them. If you want to know how to motivate your daughter, then perhaps it is time we reflect back on ourselves and realize that maybe we are asking the wrong question. Dr. Tim Jordan enlightens us in this episode. A better question is: Ho...

Many individuals in their twenties perceive this period as a time for enjoyment, but this perspective is flawed. Meg Jay joins Dr. Tim Jordan to discuss the concept of identity capital and explores how those in their twenties can gain awareness of their self-discoveries during this phase of life. SHOW NOTES:·        A lot of 20-somethings view 20s as a time for fun, but that is faulty thinking. 80...

It’s important to listen to our daughters, especially their emotions. Today, Dr. Tim Jordan looks into a girl’s emotional life and shares stories from his retreats and camps of the different kinds of losses girls experience. SHOW NOTES:·        Girls need safe spaces to express all of their feelings, especially during the roller coaster of emotions during the teen years·        Dr. Jordan shares s...

On a mission to help parents build a happier, healthier, more heartful world one kid at a time, Christy Keating joins us to dive into the topic of consent. As a Certified Parent Coach and Positive Discipline Educator, she shares insights on incorporating safety lessons into family conversations, implementing protective measures at home, and guiding children and teenagers in understanding the conce...

Who are doing your child’s homework – your children or you? Parents become too involved in their children’s homework, robbing them of the chance to develop self-responsibility and self-motivation Start of the school year is the perfect time to establish agreements about schoolwork and homeworkBegin by discussing what intentions she has for this school year, i.e. let her tell you what she wants to...

Going to college is certainly an overwhelming and arduous undertaking – especially for young girls. If they are to excel not just in their studies but also in their personal growth, they need the right support and guidance in one of the biggest touchpoints of their lives. 3 young women who are about to begin college open up about the following issues: Describe the mixed emotions you are going thru...

HBO’s sports documentary, "Weight in Gold," delves into the hidden mental health challenges of athletes. In this episode, we discuss the impact of youth sports, overuse injuries, and the critical role parents play. Dr. Tim Jordan shares insights on fostering balance and supporting children's mental health, offering a compelling exploration of the unseen struggles in the pursuit of success. Join us...

The stories of fictional characters like Moana and the Wizard of Oz’s Dorothy can help your daughter reframe her adolescent challenges as a normal part of her heroine’s journey and to relax and enjoy the process. Every adolescent girl must embark on this journey to discover new depths of courage, strength, hope, and resolve within herself that she can draw upon to overcome the challenges of growin...

Explore the societal pressures on children to excel, early specialization, and the race to define success. Join Dr. Tim Jordan as he shares insights on a healthier path, emphasizing early sampling, self-discovery, and the importance of diverse experiences. Through the Dot Theory and the wisdom from his recommended books, Dr. Jordan challenges conventional definitions of success, urging us to prior...

Resilience is one of the most important traits that helps a person succeed throughout their life and career. How do we set our children up early so they can thrive from adversity? Dr. Jordan interviewed Meg Jay, Ph. D., author of Supernormal: The Untold Story of Adversity and Resilience. Nearly 75% of people experience adversity by the age of 20 (loss of a parent to death or divorce; bullying; alc...