Quality Coffee Podcast

To celebrate 50 episodes we listened back to some of our earliest episodes. It feels incredible to already be celebrating such milestones together. We are two midlife elder millennial sisters-in-law who are best friends and business partners navigating all of life together. Tonia is married to Vanessa's brother and the two spend all of their spare time talking about generational healing, plann...

When it comes to taking care of ourselves in our midlife era as Elder Millennials, reaching into the fridge for a balanced, healthy, already prepped meal is a kind of self-love that is next level. There’s only so long where we will ignore the symptoms we feel from eating the foods we know aren’t great for us. The unfortunate thing, which has been true for both Tonia & Vanessa, is that food int...

Tonia & Vanessa packed a lot of goodies into episode 48 of the Quality Coffee Podcast including gems like the spoon theory and how others offer us their spoons in compassionate ways when they have enough to share, helpful and insightful tools from the great Brené Brown amongst some anecdotal stories from our own lives.  We break down the realizations we come to in our midlife era as Elder Mill...

Following the theme of made up constructs, family systems come with all kinds of labels and expectations unique to you. Simply because you grew up in your family does not limit you to their previously held beliefs if they are incongruent with your life path. Your life is demanding you to live it completely so when one construct feels out of alignment, it’s up to you to be brave enough to take the...

What felt super uncomfortable also ended up being a very natural and interesting conversation. The whole point of Quality Coffee Podcast is to start taboo conversations so our community can feel more comfortable existing as we do in unison with the world around us as it exists. We love life, we love each other and we love you. It's why we are here and with a full, open and vulnerable heart we...

One of the most important themes in this episode was so many of us Elder Millennials gave up our authenticity for approval and acceptance. Think about the first time you were conditioned to have this belief? When you learned to walk and we cheered for you and you learned that was how you can seek and earn approval. In this episode Vanessa talks about how she was always taught to live for approval...

We women have a tendency to make to do lists and forget to add ourselves to it. Have you ever noticed your to-do list consists of work and kids and errands ... but none of it includes read one chapter of your book or call your sister to tell her your funny story from this morning. In our midlife we are working on slowing down if our autoimmune diseases haven't beaten us to the punch. We need s...

Having a podcast is a little bit like having a public online journal available to anyone to read through. Of course we knew that getting started but what we didn't realize was we'd have a way to witnessing scale our growth as humans week by week. Sometimes we edit episodes and are already different people than the two elder millennials who recorded it. Like anything, starting a new project...

Us Elder Millennials are lucky to have the awareness we do to see bullshit for what it is but even we get trapped in the wild when we are preyed on for our insecurities. Girl, we are not broken. Perimenopause is not a disease, it is a transition. Our bodies are not failing us, they are doing everything in their power to protect and nurture us. It's time to put work and effort into our mindsets...

It is true that making friends becomes a more difficult task as you get older. Is it as simple as commenting on someone else's shoes? The ice-breakers are great but then the small talk that happens after is what we all are dreading. Grab your quality coffee and join us for an honest talk about what social settings look and feel like in our current stage of mid-life. Tonia and Vanessa dive into...

We sure do love a good interview episode where we take turns asking some burning questions we've been wanting to know about each other. It's a great way to get to know your favourite elder millennial podcast hosts and we cover all the bases on today's show. Serious, silly and everything in between. If you're a 40-something woman entering your midlife we will break your heart and cr...

This episode is for the 40-something women who are entering their midlife era and are awake to the bullshit noise that is the shaming, dismissive media burying the wise women we worked for the first half of our lives to become. We are not over the hill. Our mid-sections do not need fixing. We are not wearing the wrong clothes for our age.  Our bodies are not supposed to look TWENTY! WE ARE WILD AN...

What could we possibly have to say about love languages? Tonia and Vanessa have put a lot of work into understanding their own love languages and talk a lot in this episode about meeting others' love language needs also. Which love language speaks to you? Do you know the love languages of your spouse? Do you know the love languages of your kids? Do you know the love languages of your friends?...

Tonia and Vanessa discuss ways we can support up-and-coming generations, setting them up in ways where healing is basic decency. Instilling a standard level of being treated and accepting the treatment of other people means teaching our kids to say, "that’s not ok that you said that to me" or "that's strange that you said that out loud". Dehumanizing conversations, as the g...

Tonia and Vanessa deep dive into what regret means as 40-something women and how to view life through the lens of aging as a privilege and opportunity. They believe authenticity plays a huge role in making sure the decisions you make align with your core values. If you're always making decisions from a place of clarity you might find a deeply rooted sense of peace about how your life unfolds....

This conversation is an extension of so many we've had in previous episodes where we deep dive into how women process information and emotions. We recognize in our forties so many of the things we're scorned for or made fun of about.. is a function with great purpose. Women talk to work out their thoughts (get it? Thought process....) and often it takes a few runs through to finally find t...

Listen as Tonia and Vanessa talk through the lessons they’ve learned as midlife unravels the intricacies of relationships. Throughout this transformative time in our lives we begin to understand how to have healthy adult relationships with the friends and family in our lives. We stop strangling out of fear and anxiety because we are no longer living in survival mode. We can see things more clearly...

As forty-something women entering our midlife era, it's time to get real about our expectations. For ourselves, for our people and for our careers. Do we constantly raise the bar? Is the bar high enough? When we think about our standards, our core values and our beliefs about our own capabilities, are we gracious? Are we raising ourselves up? Or are we skipping the celebration of transformatio...

One of our strategies to stay ahead of your own self-doubt is to put other successful people’s voices in our ears when we’re striving for more in our lives or careers. Who has what we want? Who can we learn from? Who has set a very high standard example we can follow as a roadmap? We’ve all met Imposter Syndrome in our lives if you’ve ever pushed yourself out of your comfort zone. Tonia & Vane...

The most important thing you need to remember about life is everything is made up! All of it! Tonia is an author and wrote a book about wine because she couldn’t find literature that actually helped to bridge the gap between wine drinker and wine expert. Now it exists because she made it up! Vanessa couldn’t find the quality skin care she needed so she did the research and made her own! It didn’t...

Just a couple of sisters sharing real life stories and laughs about midlife maturity, self love and acceptance. Loving yourself after life's experiences is what the Quality Coffee Podcast is all about. Honest millennial talks. It's a life upgrade podcast. Join us for weekly taboo subjects women have been apprehensive to talk about... until now. Tonia and Vanessa are conversation starters,...

Plenty of our conversations have been rooted in change and this episode is no different. We are moving from an old idea where we're over the hill and looking in the rearview mirror staring back at 'the good old days'. We're forty-something women bringing truth to old sayings and ways of life that were meant to make us feel small, insignificant or as though there wasn't much of...

What does healthy communication mean and how is it achieved? When we think about the approaches we have in conversation, especially when it’s a heated chat, we are getting curious and asking more questions. “When I said _____, what did you hear?" There is a lot of instances where we find ourselves feeling attacked when conversations get a bit heated but the truth is... It’s about the god damn...

A topic of the times! You can’t un-see healthy relationships so let’s join the conversation and share what those are and why they’re so important to the 40-something woman! Mid-life doesn’t have to be a crisis when you’re emotionally in tune with yourself and your circle. Are you ready? Let’s go!

"This movement, I suppose that this new 'aha' realization, has created open space for our marriages to grow and expand where we were once taking up all of the space with our unmet needs." If you've ever felt tension in your marriage in any way shape or form when trying to express your thoughts and feelings about your day... maybe what you need is a solid group of 40-something...