Pure Desire Podcast

We hear Ernie and Jackie's story of healing and redemption of their marriage. They talk through their marital tension caused by Ernie's sexual addiction and how they began their healing journey. They also share with us how their relationships with each other and their community changed through the process of healing. GET STARTED Summit 2026!: Register Now Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betray...

We discuss maintaining sobriety during the oftentimes difficult summer months. We talk about things to avoid, helpful guardrails, and how to maintain accountability during the summer. We also discuss the opportunities that the summer months possess for finding sexual integrity. RESOURCES FASTER SCALE COMMITMENT TO CHANGE GET STARTED Summit 2026!: Register Now Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Be...

We talk to two of our Regional Group Leaders (RGL's) about the RGL volunteer position. We discuss what an RGL is, why they exist, and how they help churches with Pure Desire groups. We also talk through mistakes churches make when it comes to utilizing their RGL. RESOURCES FIND YOUR REGIONAL GROUP ADVISOR (RGA) GET STARTED Summit 2026!: Register Now Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Tra...

We talk about the reality of porn/sex addiction in pastoral ministry. We discuss best ways to admit there is a problem, how much pastors should share, and how a church should respond to an admission of addiction from their pastors. We also give encouragement on how to get help and how to best support your pastors in this arena. RESOURCES PURE DESIRE LEADERS (PDL) PROGRAM COUNSELING REQUEST FORM SE...

We talk through Pure Desire's Group Guidelines. We talk about the importance and reasoning behind each guideline. We also discuss some misconceptions about the group guidelines and some common ways we break guidelines. RESOURCES GROUP GUIDELINES MEMO OF UNDERSTANDING GET STARTED Summit 2026!: Register Now Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn...

We talk through our Betrayal & Beyond (B&B) groups and group resources. We discuss why groups are needed for betrayed spouses and reasons why churches tend to not offer these groups. We talk about what it means to find healing from betrayal and how the Betrayal & Beyond group resource helps betrayed spouses on their journey to healing. RESOURCES BETRAYAL & BEYOND KIT COUNSELING REQUEST FORM GET ST...

We talk about common mistakes churches can make when addressing the topic of sexual addiction. We discuss the common approach that churches take when diving into this topic and the issues that it often times creates. We also talk about how to best start this ministry in your church in a way that is inviting and welcoming to people in all seasons of healing. GET STARTED Summit 2026!: Register Now F...

We talk about family dynamics and how they play out in our daily lives. We discuss how to identify, address, and change the unhealthy dynamics in our families. We also talk through how discuss unhealthy dynamics in a beneficial way and what it looks like to create healthy dynamics in our families. GET STARTED Summit 2026!: Register Now Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook...

We talk about Love Addiction. We discuss how to identify if you are a love addict. We talk through why being a love addict is detrimental in life and how to address love addiction. We also give encouragements on how to find freedom from love addiction. RESOURCES LOVE ADDICTION EVALUATION SEXUAL ADDICTION SCREENING TEST (SAST) COUNSELING REQUEST FORM RECOVERY ACTION PLAN – ADDICT RECOVERY ACTION PL...

We talk about Love Addiction. We talk through how it differs from sex addiction and also discuss causes and factors that cater to a love addiction. We also talk about if it is just a women's issue, or if men can struggle with it as well. RESOURCES LOVE ADDICTION EVALUATION SEXUAL ADDICTION SCREENING TEST (SAST) COUNSELING REQUEST FORM RECOVERY ACTION PLAN – ADDICT RECOVERY ACTION PLAN – SPOUSE 8 P...

We talk through more Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ). The questions on today's episode cover topics like why masturbation is harmful, how to get buy-in for starting the Conquer Series, who can struggle with love addiction, when to pursue counseling, and more. Email your question to:  podcast@puredesire.org Use the subject line:  PD PODCAST DM/Message us GET STARTED Summit 2026!: Register Now Free...

We talk about the reality and nature of having difficult group members. We discuss ways to avoid being a difficult group member and mistakes frequently made when dealing with difficult group members. We also talk through ways we've found success in handling difficult group members and what support is offered to group leaders. RESOURCES FIND YOUR REGIONAL GROUP LEADER GROUP REFERRAL FOR COUNSELING...

We talk about our group Eight Pillars to Freedom. We discuss who the group is for and what the group time looks like. We discuss the differences between sex addiction and love addiction. We also give some tips on some do's and don'ts in an Eight Pillars group. RESOURCES SEXUAL ADDICTION SCREEN TEST (SAST) LOVE ADDICTION EVALUATION (LAE) GET STARTED Summit 2026!: Register Now Free eBook: 7 Keys To...

We talk about the importance of healthy habits on the road to freedom from sexual addiction. We talk through what makes a habit healthy, how to implement lasting habits, and when a habit becomes another addiction. We also give personal examples of healthy habits that have worked in our lives. GET STARTED Summit 2026!: Register Now Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma Free eBook: 5 S...

We talk to Ben Bennett and Jake Kissack about being single and battling sexual addiction. We discuss ways to educate and help young people address this issue, while also unpacking ways that married couples can encourage and support single friends and what resources are available for single people stuck in addiction. RESOURCES BOOKS: BEHIND THE MASK TOP GUN LIVING FREE WEBSITES: BEGGARS DAUGHTER BE...

We talk to Ben Bennett and Jake Kissack about being single and battling sexual addiction. We talk through what it looks like to find sexual freedom as a single person and when it's ok to be in a relationship. We also talk about how to best reach the single demographic with the message of hope and freedom, and what resources are available for single people struggling with addiction. RESOURCES BOOKS...

We talk about our event called Pure Desire University (PD-U). We discuss what the PD-U is and who can attend these conferences. We also talk about what churches will benefit from hosting or attending a PD-U. We talk through how to host or attend a PD-U and why we encourage churches to pursue a PD-U. RESOURCES Interested in hosting an event:  events@puredesire.org GET STARTED Summit 2026!: Register...

We talk to Ben Bennett about his resource for college-aged men, Living Free. We talk about how the resource came about and what is at the core of its message. We also discuss why reaching the younger generations with freedom is so important and the benefits this freedom brings the church. RESOURCES LIVING FREE KIT GET STARTED Summit 2026!: Register Now Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal...

We talk to the CEO of KingdomWorks Studios, Jeremy Wiles, about their 10-week cinematic study on sexual addiction called the Conquer Series. We talk about the backstory/history of the Conquer Series and Dr. Ted's involvement in the project. We discuss how the Conquer Series works and what it does. We also discuss the new rollout of Conquer Series 2.0 and all the updated/new tools added. RESOURCES...

We talk through more Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ). The questions on today's episode cover topics like handling relapse in group leadership, who can/should watch the Conquer Series, timeline of full disclosure, healthy habits for engaged couple preparing for sexuality in marriage, and more. Submit your questions for future FAQ episodes: Email your question to:  podcast@puredesire.org Use the su...

We talk about our Seven Pillars of Freedom groups and group material for addicted men. We discuss what the Seven Pillars are, how often groups meet, and what men need to get Seven Pillars groups going. We also talk through what men need in order to lead Seven Pillars groups. RESOURCES SEVEN PILLARS OF FREEDOM KIT GET STARTED Summit 2026!: Register Now Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal T...

We talk about our Seven Pillars of Freedom groups and group material for addicted men. We discuss the history of Seven Pillars and how it compares to your run-of-the-mill bible study. We also talk about the commitment level required to benefit from Seven Pillar groups. RESOURCES SEVEN PILLARS OF FREEDOM KIT GET STARTED Summit 2026!: Register Now Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma...

We talked to Debby Flanagan, a clinician on staff, about when a spouse suspects that their husband/wife is struggling with porn/sex addiction. We discuss what first steps should be taken and what to avoid when addressing the suspicion. We also talk through about what support and resources are available for men or women in this situation. RESOURCES Ashley JamesonInternational Women’s Groups Coordin...

We talk to Rodney Wright, pastor at Lake City Church in Idaho, about the struggles and hurdles pastors face when addressing sexual addiction in their church. We discuss what level of pastoral involvement is appropriate, why sexual addiction is a taboo topic, and why it is so important to have groups for people struggling in the church.  RESOURCES PD-LEADERS PROGRAM GET STARTED Summit 2026!: Regist...

We talk to Tyler Chinchen, our Clinical Director, about a situation where an addicted husband/wife sees the need for healing but their spouse is not supportive. We discuss some initial steps for the addict in this scenario and types of resources available to them. We also talk through why a supportive spouse is important in the recovery process and how to include a spouse in that journey. GET STAR...