PSR Podcast

Why are boundaries necessary for marriage restoration after sexual betrayal? And how does a couple navigate establishing and enforcing such boundaries in a redemptive way? Today we have back with us Karla Downing to help us answer these important questions. Karla is the founder of ChangeMyRelationship.com. She offers Christian marriage help and Christian relationship help as a speaker, author, cou...

Why does most “accountability” not work in recovery from unwanted behaviors? Is there a better way to engage others in recovery that does work? My guest today is Chandler Rogers. He is the creator of Relay, an online platform that helps you discover a team of support. It is built on two key principles that are foundational to recovery: Connection Teamwork In our conversation, Chandler shares his o...

“ Most married Christians cannot answer the question, ‘What does God say a good sex life is supposed to look like ?’” This statement is made by our special guest, Dr. Juli Slattery. Juli is an author, speaker, and co-founder of Authentic Intimacy, a ministry dedicated to reclaiming God’s design for sexuality.  In our conversation we discuss how Juli answers this question about a good sex life from...

Is all fighting in marriage bad? Don’t most of us hate conflict and try to avoid it at all costs? What if, however, there is good to be found in conflict and disagreement? In today’s episode, Stephen and I are going to unpack the positive dynamics of fighting in marriage. Discover what anger often means, how conflict is revealing what your spouse truly wants, and how to develop gratitude for the p...

Originally Aired on February 22, 2022 View this episode on Youtube In this episode, Stephen and I unpack what we are calling the 3 Levels of Sobriety, especially focusing on the third level. These categories are broken down into 1) real people, 2) media, and 3) thoughts. If that doesn’t quite make sense to you, that’s exactly why you need to listen to this episode. If you are a man who wants to gr...

Originally Aired on March 8, 2022 View episode on Youtube LAST WEEK to make your generous year-end donation at Bebroken.org/give . Thank you for your partnership! Today’s guest is Matt Cline, the Director of Restored Ministries in Edmonton, Alberta. He is a speaker and coach who considers it an honor to tackle the epidemic of pornography and help individuals and marriages be restored from the dest...

Make your generous year-end donation today at Bebroken.org/give ! How does brokenness fit with wholeness in Christ? Are these contradictory or might they be explained as a paradox that actually unlocks the door to experiencing God’s grace and transformative work in our lives? On today’s episode, I’m flying solo to help unpack this amazing paradox between brokenness and wholeness. I will share thre...

Pastors are not immune to sexual temptations and sexual strongholds. But many pastors feel isolated and “trapped” from reaching out for help with their private sexual struggles.  On today’s episode, we have Mark Denison join us to share with us some key principles from his new book, Broken Vessels, on how pastors can get help to break free from sexual strongholds and even still be used by God for...

Today’s guests are Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith. They are the directors of The Raabsmith Team, coaches and therapists that love to help individuals, couples, and families create life-giving change in themselves and in their relationships. In today’s episode, Matthew and Joanna will help couples understand the ins and outs of rebuilding a healthy marriage after betrayal. There is hope and thriving...

For nearly two decades we have been inviting men to embark on an emotional growth mission, not merely a sexual purity mission (as good as that is). But what is an emotional growth mission and what are the challenges and possible stumbling blocks to emotional growth?  In this episode, Stephen and I define the emotional growth mission and share over 10 thoughts and ideas that could stunt this missio...

Porn is not victimless. In other words, porn use has consequences that negatively impact the viewer.  This may seem obvious, especially to those who have developed an addiction to porn. But it’s important to state the impact of porn bluntly and clearly in order to help you see it for what it really is: dangerous and harmful. In today’s episode, Stephen and I will help you see multiple ways in whic...

Thousands of men over the past 20 years have reached out to our ministry to get help in overcoming unwanted sexual behaviors. Our desire is to help them experience long-term freedom, not merely short-term abstinence. So, what are the keys to long-term freedom from unwanted behaviors? Our guest is Jason Martinkus. He is the founder and president of Redemptive Living, a coaching and speaking ministr...

The father-son relationship is vital to boys learning how to grow up into manhood. And part of maturing into manhood is understanding sex and sexuality. But how can fathers and sons talk about sex and sexuality?  Our guests today are John and Lucas Fort, the father-son duo who wrote the book Father-Son Accountability: Integrity Through Relationship. They share their story of how they learned to ta...

Everyone in life has struggled with something. Struggle is part of being human. Here we see it in all forms of sexual brokenness. We have staff and ministry partners who are trained in helping such strugglers. But what if you wanted to help someone who is struggling? Do you know what to do or what to say? Have you ever given bad advice? Does it scare you when someone shares their pain?  In today’s...

Failure is part of life. But how many people have a “Failure and Rejection Management Plan”? I would guess very few. In today’s episode, Stephen and I will help you examine failure from a new perspective and give you some practical principles for managing failure and rejection in hopeful ways. More Resources: First 7 Days programs By Grace, Failure Turns to Opportunity (blog post) Sex & Anxiet...

Today’s guest is Sheila Harkins. Sheila was on the podcast a couple years ago, May 19, 2020, to talk about how to help teens talk about difficult topics. If you’d like to listen to that conversation, it is Episode 749 . But on today’s episode Sheila is here to talk about her own healing from betrayal trauma and divorce. She shares about the long journey of trying to restore a broken marriage and t...

In today’s final episode in our 4-part series on Whole Man Recovery we will explore the Spiritual element. We will attempt to answer the following questions about this element: What is the element? What effect does it have: On addiction, On relationships, On identity How does recovery address this element? What might health and wholeness look like for this element in one’s life? Matt Wenger is the...

In today’s episode we will explore the Emotional element of Whole Man Recovery. We will attempt to answer the following questions about this element: What is the element? What effect does it have: On addiction, On relationships, On identity How does recovery address this element? What might health and wholeness look like for this element in one’s life? Matt Wenger is the clinical director of Bould...

In today’s episode with Matt Wenger we will explore the Physical element of Whole Man Recovery. We will attempt to answer the following questions about this element: What is the element? What effect does it have: On addiction, On relationships, On identity How does recovery address this element? What might health and wholeness look like for this element in one’s life? Matt Wenger is the clinical d...

Earlier this year I had today’s guest, Matt Wenger, Clinical Director of Boulder Recovery, on the program and we touched on the four elements of Whole Man Recovery: Intellectual, Physical, Emotional, and Spiritual. I thought it was so good that we should dedicate four separate podcasts to break down and dig deeper into these four elements. Today is Part 1 in the series and we will explore the Inte...

What is the connection between theology and sexuality? And why does this matter? My guest today is Jonathan McLatchie. He is a biologist by training, but also a Christian apologist and founder of TalkAboutDoubts.com , a website that allows anyone to ask questions about the Christian faith and receive answers from Christian experts in various fields of study.  In our conversation, Jonathan defines...

When a wife discovers that her husband has been unfaithful, it is devastating and life-changing. No woman wants to experience betrayal trauma.  Today’s guest is Debra Wallace, author of In His Grace: Embracing Your Worth After Sexual Betrayal . She shares her personal story of healing from betrayal and how that led to her writing this book for other wives facing a similar path.  If you are a wife...

Every day we are inviting men to embark on a journey of personal growth, especially in the area of emotional growth. This is an essential part of breaking free from unhealthy, unwanted sexual behaviors and pursuing a life of integrity and joy. On today’s program, Stephen brings lots of statements from men who are stunted on their journey of emotional growth, such as, “I have a good life and I’m st...

Kids today of all ages are influenced by sexual messages coming in every direction from screens all around. The most impressionable ages are 7-11. Many parents feel ill-equipped for preparing their children to navigate these topics well.  My guest today is Kristen Jenson. She is the founder of Defend Young Minds and #1 best-selling author of the Good Pictures Bad Pictures series of books. She is a...

Every day we are helping wives who are experiencing the devastating effects of sexual brokenness and sin. It is always a mess and it is always traumatic.  On today’s program, we have two guests who will help us understand these effects and how a wife can heal. They are Cat Etherington and Cindy Bajema from Naked Truth Recovery.  Key issues we cover in this episode are where to start the healing pr...