P.S. Younger Self

If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking, “I know better… so why do I keep falling back into the same patterns?” — this episode is for you. In this conversation, host Chris Oh, walks through a few real, recent moments where she didn’t like how she showed up — not because she wasn’t self-aware, and not because she didn’t know her standards — but because she still reacted in ways that didn’t fully al...

Your standards aren’t failing because you lack clarity or discipline. You struggle to uphold them because you haven’t built the internal capacity to live by them when it actually counts. In this final episode of the Living By Your Standards series, host Chris Oh reveals how everything she shared in the series, defining your values, releasing unconscious expectations, cultivating discernment, build...

Why You Know Your Standards — But Still React the Old Way You know your standards. You’ve done the inner work. So why do you still find yourself reacting in ways that don’t match who you’re becoming? In Part 11 of the Living By Your Standards series, host Chris Oh breaks down why knowing your standards is just the beginning. The real transformative change actually happens in the moment, not in the...

Most women think having high standards means expecting someone else to meet them. But the real test of your standards isn’t how someone treats you — it’s whether you abandon yourself to keep the connection. In Episode 10 of the Living By Your Standards series, host Chris Oh breaks down the psychology of unconscious self-abandonment, emotional safety, and what high standards actually look like in r...

Most people talk about “protecting your peace,” but few understand how your quiet decisions reveal your personal values, emotional boundaries, and standards. In Episode 9 of the Living By Your Standards series, host Chris Oh shares a recent real-life moment where she instinctively protected a relationship she deeply values— not out of fear, not out of judgment, but out of integrity. And that momen...

Do you say yes when you mean no ? Feel anxious, over-responsible, or disconnected from your true self? In this episode, host Chris Oh sits down with Beatriz Victoria Albina , Certified Somatic Life Coach, Nurse Practitioner, and author of End Emotional Outsourcing , to explore how so many of us—especially women—unknowingly give away our emotional power in the name of love, peace, and belonging. Bé...

Raising your standards sounds empowering, right? But here’s the truth no one talks about: it doesn’t always feel good at first. Growth can feel messy, awkward, even lonely, and that’s exactly when most people start to doubt themselves. In this episode, host Chris Oh shares why you will experience these uncomfortable  shifts when you begin raising your standards, and how courage becomes the anchor...

Why are so many romantic relationships emotionally disconnected and sexually unfulfilled, even when love is still there? Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, founders of the Connection Codes framework, uncover the emotional patterns behind disconnection and what truly builds lasting intimacy. In this episode, we explore the emotional root of sexless relationships, how emotional safety unlocks physical conn...

Most people think accountability is about punishment or pressure. But what if it’s actually the key to self-trust, clarity, and emotional strength. In this episode, host Chris Oh explores the real reason accountability matters. It is not just for achieving goals, but for staying in alignment with your values, honoring your integrity, and becoming the version of yourself you’re proud to be. It´s es...

Naturopathic doctor and bestselling author Lara Briden breaks down what every woman should know about her hormones, menstrual cycle, and metabolic health. From your first period to perimenopause and beyond, this conversation challenges the idea that women are “broken” and instead empowers you to understand and work with your female body. Learn how hormonal birth control impacts your natural cycle,...

You finally set the boundary. But instead of feeling peace, you feel anxious. Guilty. Exhausted. Overthinking every interaction and second-guessing your decision. In this episode, host Chris Oh shares a personal story and walk you through what actually happens emotionally after setting boundaries, the part few people talk about. You’ll learn: Why your nervous system still feels activated even afte...

What if your identity is the reason you keep attracting the wrong people? In this episode, Master NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) Practitioner Damon Cart reveals how your unconscious self-concept shapes your relationships — and how to reprogram it for deeper connection, lasting transformation, and authentic self-belief. Trained and mentored by NLP pioneer Steve Andreas, Damon now teaches the po...

Clarity should bring peace… but what if it feels heavy instead? Learn what it’s really costing you — and how to respond with self-trust. In this Part 5 of the Living By Your Standards series, host Chris Oh dives into the hidden emotional and psychological costs of clarity — the part of personal growth no one talks about. Clarity is essential if you want to live by your own standards. But what happ...

💬 “It’s the communicator’s responsibility to be understood.” — wisdom from my 70-year-old friend In this episode, we explore life lessons on love, adult friendships, and communication skills — including how to be heard and understood, how to ask better questions, and how to build meaningful, lasting relationships. Chris Oh sits down with her dear friend — a vibrant, curious, and thoughtful woman...

If you find yourself stuck overthinking every decision — questioning your gut and feeling guilty after saying "yes" — this episode is for you. You might be overlooking one of the most powerful tools for personal growth: discernment. In part 4 of the “Living By Your Standards” series on P.S. Younger Self, host Chris Oh shares a vulnerable personal story of overriding her truth — and intro...

Are you clear on your values — but still find yourself looking for outside validation? The missing link might be self-assurance. In Part 3 of the Living By Your Standards series, host Chris Oh breaks down what true self-assurance looks like and why it’s essential for setting and holding personal standards — without needing others’ permission or praise. 🎙️ In this episode, you’ll discover: Why self...

Do you know your core values — and are you actually living by them? In this part 2 of the Living By Your Standards Series of P.S. Younger Self , host Chris Oh guides you through a grounded process to identify your core values and turn them into non-negotiable personal standards. It’s the first step to living in alignment — and protecting your energy, peace, and self-worth. 🎙️ In this episode, you’...

When you hear the word "intimacy," do you only think of sexual connection? Intimacy in a relationship goes far beyond the physical—it includes emotional, intellectual, spiritual, experiential, and physical without sexual intimacy. These six intimacy tanks are the foundation of deep, meaningful connections, but here’s the thing: expecting one person to fill them all isn’t sustainable. In...

Are unmet expectations leaving you frustrated? Do you find yourself clinging to the idea that people or circumstances should be a certain way? In this first episode of 2025, host Chris Oh unpacks how deeply ingrained expectations are often confused as personal standards, leading to a cycle of disappointment and frustration. This episode is part of a new P.S. Younger Self monthly series, Living By...

What happens when the need for self-expression clashes with deeply rooted cultural traditions? In this profoundly personal episode, host Chris Oh shares her journey of growing up Korean American, navigating familial and cultural expectations, and finding peace in accepting that prioritizing a relationship with her mother means letting go of the hope for full understanding—but grounding herself in...

Struggling to hold yourself accountable and uphold your high standards? In this episode, we dive into the essential role of accountability in setting and upholding your personal standards. Without accountability, it's nearly impossible to stay aligned with your core values and principles. Join Host Chris Oh as we explore practical steps on how to be accountable to yourself, from self-reflecti...

Did you know that there are over 180 documented cognitive biases that can subtly influence our decision-making? In this episode, host Chris Oh delves into five common cognitive biases—confirmation bias, anchoring effect, halo effect, availability heuristic, and WYSIATI (What You See Is All There Is)—drawing insights from Daniel Kahneman's best-selling book, Thinking, Fast and Slow. She explor...

As social beings, we are fundamentally wired to connect. The quality of our lives depends on the relationships we create and foster. Yet, in a world that's growing more divided and ego-driven, where attention often outweighs genuine connections, how can we forge deep, meaningful bonds? What does that truly mean, and how does it look in various relationship dynamics—from friendships to romanti...

Did you know that 90% of our communication is non-verbal? It's not just about what you say, but how you say it that can completely change how the receiver perceives and interprets your message. This episode underscores the importance of communicating your standards primarily through mastering key non-verbal communication nuances. Discover how your actions, presence, and even your energy can c...

Forget what you thought you knew about emotions—they're not predetermined reactions triggered by external stimuli, nor are they universal and imprinted in us. Instead, they're constructed by your brain, drawing from sensory input, cultural influences, and past experiences. This episode draws on the groundbreaking research and findings of Lisa Feldman Barrett, a venerated neuroscientist,...