Primas Pero Not Really

The kids moved out. The “Mom, help!” calls didn’t stop. 😂 From laundry emergencies to cooking way too much food, the Primas catch up on what life feels like after sending their kids off to college. They’re learning to live on their own—and we’re getting used to a different routine back home. Then the conversation gets personal: a breakup, a layoff, and the decision to finally take a chance on a b...

How do you know when it’s time to leave the path you were expected to follow and take a chance on yourself? Illiett Ojeda, founder of Chasing Balance, joins the primas for an honest conversation about shifting careers, pursuing a nontraditional path, and trying to create balance while managing work, family, and personal ambition. Illiett shares how her experiences in education, corporate life, and...

After 24 years together and 16 years of marriage, Jay and Janelle Montalvo still don’t agree about everything—and maybe that’s part of why their relationship works. The hosts of In the Middle join Ayeisha and Yvette for an honest conversation about evolving together, working with your spouse, men’s mental health, emotional support, and opposing parenting styles. They also explore raising boys with...

Are you compromising in your relationship or are you settling? And how do you know where to draw the line? In this episode of Primas Pero Not Really, Ayeisha and Yvette sit down with clinical psychologist Dr. Luz Maria Berrio for an honest conversation about the relationship patterns we accept, the boundaries we struggle to set, and the lessons we sometimes learn the hard way. They get into red fl...

Your child going off to college is exciting. But it also involves a much bigger emotional shift than people admit. In this episode of Primas, Pero Not Really , we react to some of the wildest responses we received on social media, including the assumptions people make about women, single moms, dating, and the things they somehow hear in a 30-second clip that were never actually said. Then we get i...

Dating After 40: Men, Midlife Dating & Modern Relationships Is a man in his 40s who's never been married a red flag, or is that one of the biggest misconceptions in modern dating? In this episode of Primas Pero Not Really , they sat down with Charles Timoneda to get an honest male perspective on dating after 40, relationships, and navigating today's dating world. They discuss what it's really...

After years of marriage, divorce, co-parenting, and building lives of their own, the primas find themselves asking a question they never thought they'd revisit: Would you ever get married again? In this catch-up episode, Aisha, Genise, and Yvette share where life has taken them since their last dating conversation. Two of the primas are now in new relationships, which sparks an honest discussion a...

This one is for the parents… and honestly, for all of us. How do you know when attention becomes control? This week on Primas Pero Not Really, we sat down with clinical psychologist Luz Maria Berrio to talk about the relationship conversations more families should be having earlier. We get into: 🚩 Red flags vs pink flags ❤️ Love bombing vs genuine interest 📍 Why teens share locations 🧠 Narcissi...

Rebecca aka “The Dude” joins Las Primas for one of the most honest conversations we’ve had yet. From raising a nonverbal autistic son to navigating dating as a single mom, this episode dives into the realities people rarely talk about out loud. We talk about parenting, co-parenting, relationships, emotional safety, friendship, identity, and what it really means to show up for the people you love....

We all try to be gentle parents… until we’re not. In this episode of Primas Pero Not Really, Las Primas get real about parenting in today’s world, what works, what doesn’t, and the moments no one talks about. From trying to help kids regulate their emotions, to losing patience, to realizing every child needs a different approach, this is real mom talk, unfiltered. We get into: Gentle parenting vs...

Going from two incomes to one changes everything. In this episode of Primas Pero Not Really, Las Primas talk about what it really looks like to adjust financially after separation and major life changes. From learning how to live large on a smaller budget, to rethinking everyday spending, to figuring out what’s actually necessary… this conversation is honest, relatable, and very real. They get int...

What men carry isn’t always visible—and most of the time, they don’t talk about it. In this episode of Primas Pero Not Really, we sit down with JC Perez—husband, father, and co-founder of Cultura Media House—to talk about men’s mental health, fatherhood, and the pressure of being “the man” in today’s world. From marriage and communication, to raising boys in a different social landscape, to why me...

Is it just us, or did everyone forget to mention the massive identity crisis that comes with parenthood? In this episode, the Primas are getting raw and real about the "Parenting Transition"—that jarring shift from being a spontaneous individual to a 24/7 manager of a tiny human. We aren't talking about diapers or sleep schedules; we’re diving into the psychological toll of mourning your "pre-kid"...

Real life doesn’t follow a script…and neither do these conversations. In this special compilation of Primas Pero Not Really, we bring together the most powerful, funny, and honest moments from Episodes 5 to 8. From co-parenting challenges and putting ego aside for your kids, to dating, relationships, and the everyday chaos of motherhood, this episode captures what real life actually looks like. We...

Dating, divorce, relationships, co-parenting, and real-life Latina conversations, this episode brings together the best moments from Episodes 1–4 of Primas Pero Not Really . From rushed engagements and bad proposals to healing after divorce, dating struggles, boundaries, and cultural moments that hit close to home, Las Primas keep it honest, unfiltered, and relatable. This is a mix of humor, hard...

If you’ve ever heard your kids say something and thought, “Should I be concerned… or is that just slang?” — this episode is for you. In this Season 1 finale of Primas Pero Not Really , we reflect on the podcast's unexpected impact, the feedback that truly moved us, and how sharing our stories has changed our relationships — especially with our kids. From daughters of divorced moms saying “okay, so...

In this episode, the Primas unpack Valentine’s Day, traditions, pressure, self-love, and intimacy — and how the holiday changes as you grow. From solo dates and Galentine’s to social media comparisons and “required” romance, Ayeisha, Genise, and Yvette reflect on what still feels meaningful — and what feels performative. They also touch on intimacy and why a calendar shouldn’t dictate sexy time. W...

Co-parenting isn’t easy. In Episode 6, the Primas talk about co-parenting challenges, parenting styles, kids’ activities, and the mental load that comes with raising kids across households. From juggling calendars and kids’ activities to navigating different parenting styles, discipline, and egos across households, the Primas unpack why co-parenting often feels harder than expected. They talk abou...

Infidelity isn’t always obvious — and in this episode, the Primas unpack the gray areas people don’t always recognize until it’s too late. Ayeisha, Genise, and Yvette dive into emotional cheating, blurred boundaries, secrecy, and the moments that quietly erode trust long before anything physical happens. They explore whether cheating is truly black and white, or if emotional attachment, intent, an...

In Episode 4, the Primas dive into the wild, messy, and often unbelievable world of modern dating. From dating apps and red flags to first-date disasters and hard boundaries, Ayeisha, Genise, and Yvette share unfiltered stories and real opinions about what dating actually looks like right now. They rank dating apps, unpack their worst experiences, and talk honestly about what they will — and won’t...

In Episode 3, Ayeisha, Genise, and Yvette dive into one of the most meaningful—and chaotic—topics for Latina moms: the holidays. From Christmas traditions and Nochebuena to co-parenting logistics, evolving family routines, Elf on the Shelf fails, and Whoville-level décor, the Primas explore how celebrations shift as life changes. This episode is warm, honest, and genuinely funny—perfect for anyone...

Ayeisha, Genise, and Yvette open up about their divorces and the unexpected lessons that came with them. From losing themselves in marriage to rebuilding confidence, setting boundaries, and redefining who they are today, the Primas share the honest truths that shaped their lives. In this episode, we explore: • What divorce teaches you about boundaries and self-respect • How emotional, mental, and...

In their debut episode, Ayeisha, Genise, and Yvette open up about divorce, motherhood, identity, and the unexpected friendship that pulled them through their hardest seasons. With humor, honesty, and zero filters, they share the stories of marriages ending, new beginnings, raising kids through chaos, and healing out loud. Primas (Pero Not Really) is a Latina-led podcast about resilience, womanhood...