Pressing Pause

When we 'what if' we're usually thinking about what if it went wrong, what if I messed up, what if I can't do it, what if it's awful… but there are two sides to what ifs and there's power in allowing ourselves to imagine what if it went right. In this episode we look at: Our beliefs around what choices and power we think we have The flipside of our standard what ifs The magic in the possibility of...

It can be a real struggle to feel able to take care of our own needs and wants when we feel we should be putting others before ourselves so here we tackle it head on. In this episode we look at: The problem with self-care The story that looking after ourselves is selfish A different approach and what it looks like Resources: The Calm Mind Club is open to join until Saturday 3 October, check it out...

During the upheaval and radical changes to our lives that the pandemic has brought about there's also been time for reflection and realisation of what hasn't been working for you in the old 'normal'. In this episode we look at: What you may have been tolerating in the past Identifying what you've had enough of now What to do next with this realisation Resources: Download your free 7 Steps to Overc...

The podcast returns after an unexpectedly long break where the world turned upside down. This is a quick catch-up and preview episode where I share about the long break and what to expect from future episodes. Resources: To find out more about how you can bring down the overwhelm and feel, calmer, more in control and happier, go to gabrielletreanor.com Come say hi to me on Instagram, I'm @gabriell...

This is an unusually long episode because we're experiencing an unusual time in the world right now. There are a lot of feelings and thoughts about Coronavirus and all the uncertainty and the lack of feeling in control can feel overwhelming. In this episode we look at: What's fuelling the overwhelm How we can reduce our feelings of overwhelm Practical steps we can take to still feel connected with...

For the first time in the podcast's history I reshare seven ideas for how you can bring down the overwhelm and create some calm, and even feel a little more joy, during Christmas and the New Year. In this episode we look at: How your expectations impact your enjoyment of Christmas What small, practical actions you can take to ease the stress What to do if you don't feel full of festive spirit How...

When you have too much to do and too little time to do it, it feels impossible to do it all. We get tense, stressed and feel overwhelmed by the pressure and expectation. But there is something we do have control over that helps us to deal with the overwhelm. In this episode we look at: Why feeling overwhelmed is not your fault The three common reactions to feeling overwhelmed How your thoughts and...

Think celebrating is only for big occasions? You're doing yourself a disservice and the chance to build your resilience, feel stronger and experience more joy, comfort and hope. In this episode we look at: A different way to look at what's celebration-worthy How and why the voice in your head stops you celebrating What we're really doing when we celebrate How to gain the benefits from celebrating...

Comparison is something we all do in everyday life but when comparing yourself to others makes you feel bad it's time to do something about it. In this episode we look at: How we compare What is confirmation bias and its role in comparison What our judgements about others tells us about ourselves What you can do when you get into comparison   Resources Break the Overthinking Loop online workshop i...

If you feel like you're not in charge of your own life, or mind, that there's always so much to do, people to please, expectations to meet, your mind never stops whirring with all the things to remember and worrying what people think of you, you're not alone. In this episode we look at: What the voice in your head is telling you when you feel this way Why your inner critic is shouting so loudly Ho...

"Whether you think you can or you think you can't – you're right" – do you believe that? What we believe is possible for us, what we think we're capable of can see us making progress or keep us feeling stuck. In this episode we look at: The power our beliefs have over us How our beliefs create our world The antidote to a lack of belief What you can do when you only believe a little bit Resources I...

The feeling of being backed into a corner and having little say in our own lives has been coming up in coaching conversations so I'm focusing on the topic of choice in this episode. Do you feel like you have a choice? In this episode we look at: What we don't have any control over in life Where we can fail to recognise we have a choice The power in making micro choices in everyday life How to feel...

As an overthinker it's all too easy to get stuck replaying a conversation or a situation and thinking up all the different ways you could have handled it and how that could have changed things. So what do you do with all these thoughts? In this episode we look at: What continuing to go over and over something in the past is doing for us When rehashing the past is helpful and when it is not What yo...

When you've spent years, decades, worrying and overthinking it can feel like you're stuck that way and you're destined to always be an overthinker. So is it really possible for you to learn how to overthink less? In this episode we look at: What the label 'overthinker' means What overthinking is and what it's not What positive psychology research has discovered that impacts how possible it is to l...

In our first new-style episode where I answer listener questions we have a brilliant one to start us off with. In this episode we look at: How to treat ourselves when we're what if-ing Different ways to deal with this particular worry When distraction is helpful and when it is not Resources Find out about The Calm Mind Club where overthinkers find calm, confidence and community, and join, at theca...

The break was a lot longer than I anticipated but finally the podcast is back and I have plans… In this episode we look at: What's been happening that caused the break to be almost four months long The (over)thinking that I was doing during that time The new project I've been working on that is now at the heart of what I do to help you worry less and enjoy life more How I want you to be involved i...

By taking just a few seconds or minutes to hit the pause button in your daily life you can calm your overthinking, tend to your own needs, be more intentional and so much more. In this episode we look at: What pressing pause in your own life can look like How it can help you mentally and physically Ten different ways you can gain by taking a moment to be still Resources: There are lots more resour...

Stopping ourselves from doing what we want, being successful and happy, doesn't make sense and yet we all do it. Overthinkers are particularly good at self-sabotaging as we overthink and talk ourselves out of so much. But when we pay attention to ourselves we can start to address it. In this episode we look at: How self-sabotage shows up in life What impact it has on our lives How we can start to...

We can lose the sense of awe and wonder we had as children as we get bogged down with the responsibilities and worries of grown-up life. But feeling awe brings us out of ourselves, it reminds us that we're not the centre of the universe and helps us to get perspective on life. And it feels good too. In this episode we look at: The surprising benefits of spending more time in awe How to take a wond...

Feeling like you couldn't cope if things went wrong, if life became super challenging, is a fear overthinkers share. It's behind a lot of the What If-ing and the need to overplan and be in control at all times. There's a skill we can all develop and strengthen to help us feel able to cope – resilience. In this episode we look at: How the fear of not being able to deal with life keeps us scared of...

Wanting to please people, to be kind or helpful, isn't in itself a bad thing. But when your desire to please others, make them happy and life you interferes with how you live your life, it's no longer kind or helpful to yourself. In this episode we look at: What's behind people-pleasing What it looks like Why it doesn't have to be pleasing everybody or nobody How to be compassionate and supportive...

To some the idea that you'd be afraid to feel happy sounds absurd but not to the overthinker. The fear of being utterly content and joy-filled is real because it's accompanied by the thought of what if this all goes away? In this episode we look at: Why we feel so scared to be happy How we think we're protecting ourselves by reining in how joyful we feel What foreboding joy is really doing What we...

We all experience change throughout our lives but that may not stop us overthinking and resisting it. How can we cope with change better so that it causes us less upset, grief and stress? In this episode we look at: When we can influence imminent change and when it's out of our control What we can learn from changes we've already experienced How we can take care of ourselves when change feels chal...

We give ourselves messages all the time, often negative ones, through our internal monologue so why not harness these powerful messages to help ourselves build self-belief? In this episode we look at: The belief statements or affirmations you already use, even if you haven't realised it How to create new powerful, positive belief statements What affirmations can and can't do for you How to use aff...

Being busy has become our default but why are we so busy? What does it mean for our self-worth if we're busy or, if we're not? What impact does our busyness have on us and what can we do to reduce our busyness and increase the joy we feel? In this episode we look at: What fears lie behind our busyness The 'little' ways we make our lives busier The difference between real work and busy work Five st...