Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40

Reclaiming eros can impact every area of your life!  In this episode of  Practicing Love , Shana James is joined by Erotic Wholeness Guide Darshana Avila, whose work has been featured on Netflix's  Sex, Love & goop ,  The Guardian ,  The New Yorker , and more. Together, they explore an expanded understanding of eroticism — not as performance or sexuality alone, but as the life force energy of Eros...

A Conversation on Real Connection & Ecstatic Intimacy What do we actually long for in love? In this episode, Shana James is joined by  Joanna Shakti , founder and facilitator of  Ecstatic Intimacy , for a rich conversation about authentic connection, emotional depth, and intimacy that doesn't require shrinking, over-giving, or shape-shifting to be loved. Joanna introduces the concept of  ecstatic...

On today's Practicing Love podcast, Shana James is joined by divorce coach and NLP practitioner Rachael Sloan for a powerful conversation about how relationships break down — and how they can be repaired before it's too late. Rachael works primarily with men navigating separation and divorce and is the creator of the Better Beyond Divorce program. Together, Shana and Rachael explore emotional regu...

Why does connection and communication break down in long-term relationships, even when love is still there? In this episode of  Practicing Love , Shana James and Hannah Chapman explore the hidden dynamics that cause couples to talk past each other, shut down, or feel chronically misunderstood. Drawing from vulnerable relationship experiences and decades of coaching, this conversation illuminates h...

Dating feels brutal for so many relationship-ready singles, especially over 40. In this episode, Shana James talks with Adam Cohen Aslatei, CEO of Three Day Rule, about how AI is reshaping modern matchmaking and how AI makes it easier for people to date and find real, emotionally available love. They explore dating burnout, why the apps are failing people, the power of intentional dating, and how...

Passion doesn't fade because "that's just what happens." Passion fades because couples are missing a few essential skills. When you learn them, you can create spark and reignite it in long term relationships. In today's video, I break down some deeper reasons passion fades in long-term relationships and marriages, based on 20 years as a dating and relationship coach and the teachings from my book...

How do you have a relationship that feels peaceful and loving, rather than feeling like a rollercoaster? In all phases, from dating to long term relationships, this is something clients tell me they want most. Therapist and author Jessica Baum joins me to explore why safety is essential for real love, and what the foundations of a healthy relationship are. We dive deep into attachment theory, nerv...

We explore what happens when being "the one who saves" starts costing you connection with yourself and others. Brent Perkins joins me to unpack how overgiving and self-abandonment can masquerade as love, and what it really takes to move from trying to be the hero to letting yourself be human. You'll learn to give without depletion, create agreements instead of expectations, and practice the art of...

Trust can break in small ways, or shatter completely. Craig and Michelle Pera, founders of The Mindful Habit , join us to talk about how they help couples navigate trust challenges — from minor breaches to sex and porn addiction. Drawing on their professional experience, and own healing journey, they give you practical tools to rebuild trust, deepen connection, and restore intimacy in your relatio...

If you want to feel more loved and respected in your relationships, this episode is for you. Shana talks with Karen McMahon, founder of Journey Beyond Divorce about how claiming your self-worth and setting healthy boundaries can transform your love life. The more you stand in your truth, protect your heart, and create deeper, more fulfilling connections Find out how to have the best love and sex o...

Most of us never got the "emotional potty training" we needed as kids. Instead, we learned to hide, suppress, or ignore our feelings, which often wreaks havoc in our adult love lives. In this Practicing Love episode, I talk with therapist Rachel Kaplan, author of Feel, Heal, and Let That Sh*t Go , about why learning to feel our emotions is the missing key to deeper intimacy, resilience, healing, a...

If you think shared values are the key to making a relationship last, think again. Shana James talks with Nick Brancato, author of Prioritize Us: Unlock Lasting Love with One Simple, Proven Test , about why relationships fall apart despite shared values. We discuss the real keys to lasting love and intimacy. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life!   Music from #Uppbeat (free for C...

If you've ever found yourself replaying childhood wounds in your romantic relationships, this episode explores how parent-child dynamics often show up in love. And how you can break the cycle and create a relationship rooted in wholeness, sovereignty, and joy. We look at the path from codependency to conscious connection — and what it takes to truly heal the mother and father wounds. Find out how...

The relational patterns you learn in childhood shape your romantic relationships, often without you knowing it. In this episode, we dive deep into how early experiences influence adult love — and what it takes to unlearn those patterns to build real, lasting connection. Host Shana James and executive coach Jake Fishbein explore emotional resilience, trust, and the courage to embrace vulnerability...

A big reason many relationships fall apart is because most couples don't make clear, conscious agreements. In this episode, I talk with Krista and Will VanderVeer ( hosts of The Art of We podcast ) about how relationship agreements can profoundly deepen intimacy, support emotional repair, and help couples navigate the ups and downs of love with more grace and clarity. Find out how to have the best...

We talk about the moments when anger builds within us, moments when a partner pulls away in anger, the downward spiral that can ensue, and how to find your way back to connection — even in the heat of the moment! Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life!     Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burble License code: IHVPCN3F5C1BO2Q0

How do you stay in love when you disagree? In any relationship, disagreements are inevitable — but where do you draw the line? Can you love someone whose beliefs or values differ from your own? In this deep conversation, Sean Harvey (author of Warrior Compassion) and I explore how to stay connected even across painful divides. We talk about meeting the unmet needs beneath defensiveness, bridging p...

Perimenopause isn't just challenging for women — it impacts relationships and intimacy in powerful ways. In this vulnerable and eye-opening episode, men's mentor Kenny Mammarella-D'Cruz shares how he navigates fear, emotional triggers, and trauma to create deeper connection, intimacy, and love. We explore men's emotional growth, midlife relationships, and how to stay connected through hormonal cha...

What do you do when you've lost yourself (or parts of yourself) in love? In this heartfelt conversation Megan Walrod, author of It's Always Been Me , explores how to reclaim your voice, stop giving away your power, and stay true to yourself in your relationships. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life!     Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burb...

On this episode of Practicing Love, we talk about spiritual intelligence, which can make relationships stronger — and hotter. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life!     Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burble License code: CNP489SMTIUXHOMC  

Dr. Elliot Justin, a pioneer in men's sexual health, has developed innovative wearable technology to improve erectile function, sexual fitness, and intimacy. Having tracked over 70,000 erections, he's transforming how sexual health supports lasting pleasure and deeper connection as we age. Whether you're a man experiencing fading erections or a partner seeking greater sexual satisfaction and close...

What does it really take to satisfy a woman these days? In this conversation with Dr. Alanna Kaivalya, we explore the emotional, spiritual, and relational keys to true feminine fulfillment — and how both women and men can create more satisfying, connected love. Listen to this one if you're looking for more depth, and a partnership that actually works in today's world! Find out how to have the best...

True Freedom is what allows us to have real love and supportive, healthy relationships. But freedom can be confusing when it's seen as an external rather than an internal quest. Today's guest talks about the surprising connection between freedom and commitment, and how you can be free in romantic relationships.  Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life!   Music from #Uppbeat (free f...

One of the keys to healthy, strong, connected relationships is emotional intelligence. Learning to listen and love from a deeper place doesn't come easy to many of us, but it can be learned! An expert in the field of awareness and relationship skills, Daniel Ellenberg brings powerful wisdom to have stronger and more satisfying relationships. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life!...

Love can feel complicated. When I meet someone who sees the simplicity of love, and really knows how to love someone, I am quick to strike up a conversation to learn more. Whether you want to know what is true love in a relationship, or to bring more love to your entire life, Shaun helps you see how to get there. Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life!   Music from #Uppbeat (free...