Practically Married with Paula Holt

If you or your partner is in need of urgent mental health support, call the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline at 9-8-8 or go to the nearest emergency room. Today, I welcome back psychiatrist Dr. Lisa Benton-Hardy to the show. Dr. Hardy is Board Certified in child, adolescent, and adult psychiatry and has been practicing for over 20 years.  In the second of this two-part discussion of mental health, we...

If you or your partner is in need of urgent mental health support, call the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline at 9-8-8 or go to the nearest emergency room. Today, I welcome psychiatrist (and close friend) Dr. Lisa Benton-Hardy to the show. Dr. Hardy is Board Certified in child, adolescent, and adult psychiatry and has been practicing for over 20 years. In the first of this two-part discussion of menta...

In this solo mini episode, I'll explain my unexpected extended break in Season 2 before touching on what Practically Married has had me thinking about and working on over the last couple months. I'll share... Some thoughts about weddings The marriage book I'm reading - 'Til Stress Do Us Part by Elizabeth Earnshaw A promo of my upcoming discussion on couples and mental health Pr...

If you've ever wondered about the feelings you or your partner have when spending money, listen to this episode with Scott Rick , Associate Professor of Marketing from the University of Michigan, and author of the book Tightwads and Spendthrifts: Navigating the Money Minefield in Real Relationships . In our conversation, Scott explains his definition of a tightwad and spendthrift before we mo...

So this episode is a bit different because today, I'm answering the questions! A few months ago, I was fortunate to be a guest on the Price of Avocado Toast podcast with hosts Haley and Justin Brown-Woods. Haley and Justin are a married millennial couple who want to normalize conversations about money, and they demonstrate that by sharing their own financial journey. I enjoyed talking with th...

Just a quick episode about the upcoming season...and it's probably not the one you think! If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources! Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your exper...

On today's episode, we're joined by Aaron Thomas, Founder of Prenups.com and author of The Prenup Prescription , to discuss the role a prenup can play in supporting your marriage. After defining what a prenup actually is, Aaron shares some of the things a prenup can accomplish during three stages of marriage: Before - disclosure of assets and debts During - how bank accounts will be stru...

In this solo mini-episode, I describe what I mean by the name "Practically Married" and I list the 10 subjects that make up the Practically Married approach to marriage preparation, which are: Communication & Conflict Careers & Goals Money  Home Life Sex & Romance Leisure Time Family & In-laws Physical & Mental Health Spirituality & Culture Children Join us next w...

In this episode, I welcome author, entrepreneur, and coach Abby Davisson to the show to talk about the intersection between careers and relationships. Abby is a Fortune 200 leader-turned-founder of the Money and Love Institute whose mission is to help people turn daunting decisions into achievable action. She's also the co-author of Money & Love: An Intelligent Roadmap for Life's Big...

Today, we're going back to Season One to hear clips from the two-part conversation we had about sex. Our guest, Sex, Intimacy & Relationship Coach Keeley Rankin provided an overview of various topics that couples can expect to encounter in the context of a long-term committed partnership. The first half of this episode corresponds to "Conversations About Sex (Part One): Sharing Sexua...

In this episode, we revisit the key points from the two episodes on money from Season One. First, you'll hear clips from my conversation with Ed Coambs, CFP and therapist from Healthy Love & Money. Ed joined Season One to discuss the emotional side of money and the need to learn our partner's money history. He explained attachment theory and described how a person's attachment s...

Practically Married with Paula Holt was specifically created to help dating, engaged, and newly married couples create a firm foundation for a long successful future together.   Join us to hear conversations with relationship experts as we address topics such as communication, money, sex, in-laws and more. You'll learn strategies to navigate the typical challenges couples encounter, and how t...

This is a wrap on Season One, but we're working on Season Two and looking for dating, engaged or newly married couples who would like to talk to our experts. Please complete the form on the PracticallyMarried.net/podcast if you and your partner are interested. Thanks for listening and we'll talk to you in the fall! If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt...

Having a child is a joyous yet extremely stressful experience for most couples. So, this week I’m talking to Nikki Lively, LCSW (Licensed Clinical Social Worker) about some of the conversations couples should begin having years before starting a family.  We cover a wide range of topics including: Deciding if and when to have children Fertility issues Considerations for how many kids to have Gender...

Today, we welcome therapist and author Shemiah Derrick, LCPC, CADC back to the show to discuss the role conflict plays in your relationship. Shemiah brings her Gottman Method training and extensive experience working with couples to our conversation covering: How conflict presents an opportunity Why we shouldn't avoid conflict Perpetual and solvable problems How to apologize Forgiveness To le...

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I'm joined by Clutter Coach and Professional Organizer Amelia Pleasant Kennedy of A Pleasant Solution to discuss why creating a fair division of labor is essential for maintaining a harmonious household. Amelia and I discuss: Why challenges arise when it comes to division of labor The trap of gender-based responsibilities in straight couples The "chore gap" The Fair Play method for...

Communication Style quiz from Shemiah Derrick Attachment Style quiz from Ed Coambs Sexuality Conversation Starter download from the two-part Sex episode with Keeley Rankin If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and reso...

Keeley Rankin is back to continue our in-depth conversation about sexuality in committed relationships. Today, we discuss: Monogamy & consensual non-monogamy Unmatched levels of desire ( known as "desire discrepancy") Pornography's benefits & pitfalls Sexual desires & fantasies Sexual  performance challenges Mental health & sexuality Sex therapy Keeley Rankin has a p...

Sex and relationship coach Keeley Rankin joins me for the first of two conversations about sex. In Part One, we discuss how you  can deepen your relationship by sharing your sexual history. Before diving into the topic, we discuss what sex is and why it's important. (If you think you know what sex is, listen to Keeley explain an activity she has couples do to expand their definition.) Keeley...

Christie Kim, therapist and co-host of the Beyond the Couch podcast joins us to discuss the various ways culture and identity impact our intimate relationships. We start the conversation by emphasizing the importance of self-reflection and how using a social identity wheel is useful in determining which aspects of our identity we prioritize. Christie goes on to to explain differences in collectivi...

The ability to communicate so that both partners feel heard and understood is the foundation for a successful long-term relationship. So this week, I wanted to briefly circle back to clarify a point from the interview with therapist and author Shemiah Derrick, where we dissected  communication into the roles of talker and listener. I hope this break from a new interview gives you time to try more...

Today, we’re joined by Natalie Slagle, Certified Financial Planner(TM) and co-founder of Fyooz Financial Planning, a company specifically created to help couples manage their finances together.  Natalie tells us what it’s like to run Fyooz with her husband Dan and describes the step-by-step process the two of them use when they work with a new couple. They start with a “discovery process” which is...

We’re joined by Ed Coambs, a Certified Financial Planner and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who owns a company offering Therapy-Informed Financial Planning™ for couples. We start our conversation talking about financial intimacy and getting "financially naked" with our partners. We discuss the importance of talking about childhood money memories and how even our early experiences...

Author and licensed therapist Shemiah Derrick, LCPC, CADC joins the show to discuss how we can improve communication by using specific steps when we’re talking and other steps when we’re listening. Shemiah shares information about the Gottman Method and how a “gentle start-up” can help when we share feelings with our partner. She also discusses listening with curiosity, pausing a conversation that...