Porn and The Gospel

What gets in the way when men fight pornography? In this episode, Spencer shares the five mistakes he sees most often after years of coaching and walking alongside men in this struggle: staying silent, looking for an easy solution, refusing to see it as all-out war, believing it will go away "when…," and failing to guard the heart with vigilance. Along the way he draws on Scripture (1 John 1, Gala...

Why do we keep giving in to the same sins? Because we've believed a lie. Spencer walks through Hebrews 11:13-19 and lands on one word: considered. It's the same Greek word Paul uses in Romans 6:11 when he says "consider yourselves dead to sin." It means to take an inventory. To deliberately think through what's true. Three things every man needs to consider daily. Then Spencer gets practical about...

I go straight at something I talk about with every man I walk with: you are at war. I start in 2 Corinthians 10:3-5 and unpack what Paul meant when he said our weapons aren't fleshly but carry divine power to destroy strongholds. Then I tell a story from the San Diego Zoo that reframes the whole thing. Our tour guide pointed out that the zoo's lions had no scars, no hunger, no enemies. "Showcase l...

Spencer reflects on a friend who called him nearly 100 days ago in crisis, and how that one act of raising his hand to say "I need help" changed everything. From there, Spencer looks at the Apostle Paul's prayers across his letters, specifically how often Paul asked others to pray for him. Three things emerge from Paul's prayer requests that every man needs to hear: the faith of Paul, the humility...

In this episode of Porn and the Gospel, Spencer returns after a long break with a personal update about leaving Evernest and stepping back into work with neverthirst. He reflects on God’s providence, answered prayer, and the importance of walking in truth. The main focus of the episode is simple: truth and prayer belong together. A life of secrecy, deceit, and hidden sin will hinder prayer, but wa...

In this episode of Porn and the Gospel, host Spencer Sutton invites brothers in Christ to take the first step on the ladder of blessing—becoming “poor in spirit.” Drawing from Matthew 5:3 and insights from Jerry Bridges, Charles Spurgeon, and Dane Ortlund, Spencer explores what true humility before God looks like for men striving for purity and holiness. Through Scripture, reflection, and prayer,...

Episode Summary In this episode of Porn and the Gospel, Spencer unpacks one piercing verse from Jesus’ Sermon on the Mount — Matthew 5:20 — and shows how it cuts through our pride and performance to reach the real issue: the heart. Jesus said, “Unless your righteousness exceeds that of the scribes and Pharisees, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.” Most of us try to fix our behavior — to s...

In this episode, we will dive deep into the events surrounding the assassination of Charlie Kirk — not just the headlines, but what believers can learn from his life, his faith, and his example. Charlie Kirk wasn’t perfect (none of us are), but his clarity of purpose and devotion to Christ left a mark. From his candid admission of past struggles with pornography to his unwavering conviction that f...

In this episode of Porn and the Gospel, we tackle one of the most dangerous threats to a man’s walk with Christ...deception. From James 1 to Colossians 2, we uncover why every man is prone to believe lies and how those lies can quietly shipwreck your faith. You’ll learn: Why it’s easier to justify sin than to dig for God’s truth How to identify the “plausible arguments” Paul warned about The daily...

In this week’s raw and honest episode, we’re going deep. Deeper than porn. Deeper than behavior. This is about the heart and the eternal battle between comfort and calling. You’ll hear a powerful story about Alexander the Great and how his army’s success became their greatest hindrance. And how that same pattern plays out in the lives of Christian men today. Spoils become shackles. Comfort becomes...

Here's the truth: “You don’t need another strategy. You need surrender.” In this episode, Spencer unpacks what the Word of God reveals about overcoming sin, walking by the Spirit, and living with power in a world designed to defeat you. We start with a battle scene—one king, 580,000 soldiers… facing an army of over 1 million. And what unfolds becomes a divine blueprint for anyone locked in a fight...

In this soul-stirring episode of Porn and the Gospel, Spencer dives deep into one of the boldest prayers ever recorded in Scripture—the moment Moses stood between God and a rebellious people and said, “Blot me out of your book.” What gives a man such courage? What kind of intimacy with God allows you to pray not just for yourself—but with fire and urgency for others? You’ll discover: Why your free...

In this episode, we'll discusses the struggles many men face in breaking free from destructive habits like pornography and masturbation. Based on scripture, we'll outline three key conditions for achieving spiritual fulfillment and joy: recognizing one's deep thirst and desires, believing in the truth and promises of the word of God, and asking the Holy Spirit to dwell in one's life. 

In this raw and timely episode, Spencer speaks straight to the soul of every man walking the path toward purity. He shares how sexual sin doesn’t start in the bedroom, but in the heart. Drawing from Proverbs 4:23, he explains why guarding your heart is not optional—it’s spiritual life support. You’ll hear the story of a brother facing deep relational brokenness because of compromise. You’ll hear h...

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In this episode of 'Porn and the Gospel,' we look at John 15:9-10 and explore how the principles of Robert Sternberg's Triangulation of Love theory can illuminate a deeper, more fulfilling relationship with God. I want to challenge you to evaluate your own relationships with God. Is willpower enough? Or does it require something more? Does it require deep emotional intimacy and passionate desire?...

The Morning Hours - Prayer, Power, and Purity Psalm 5:3 ~ O LORD, in the morning you hear my voice; in the morning I prepare a sacrifice for you and watch. Let me begin this by saying, I understand that some men believe that they work and think and get energy mostly in the evening. And in doing so, they don’t give much thought to how they spend their mornings. If this is you, I want to challenge y...

Join our free group at www.themanofvalor.com . In this episode, I'll be speaking specifically to a message from a brother who was looking for help and encouragement. This is what he said: "I feel so hopeless, I say I want to be free, ive confessed to friends and even to family. Set up accountability but I somehow end up isolating from them and going back into porn. I know it requires commitment to...

In this episode, we'll explore the three characteristics of a man who experiences the presence of God. We'll be diving into Psalms 15:1-2 for much needed encouragement because, as men of God, there should be nothing more we desire than to live with integrity before the Lord in our daily lives.

In this episode, Spencer shares a deeply personal story about the recent tragic death of his brother-in-law, Mark Meadows, a police officer and Army veteran. Sutton reflects on the fleeting nature of life and the importance of cherishing relationships over material pursuits. He emphasizes the urgent need for men, especially in the church, to engage in spiritual warfare against the schemes of the d...

Satan's first trick to lure people into sin is to show them the bait while hiding the hook; to offer the golden cup but conceal the poison inside; to highlight the sweetness, pleasure, and benefits of giving in to sin, while hiding the inevitable suffering and misery that follow.   This is how he deceived the first humans. The serpent said to the woman, “You will not surely die. God knows that whe...

In this episode, we will reflect on the importance of identity and faith by examining the story of Moses in Exodus 2:11-15. We'll contrasts Moses's actions with the approach Jesus displayed in Matthew 9:36-38. We must embrace their true identity in Christ, turn away from sinful temptations, and continuously look to God for strength and guidance. Join the community at themanofvalor.com to engage in...

In this episode of Porn and the Gospel, we dive into the deep struggle many believers face with pornography and masturbation. Drawing from John 11, I discuss the importance of aligning our lives with God's perspective and purposes, even when it seems impossible.  We explore the duality of the Christian life—both surrender and war—showing how true freedom comes from submitting to God’s will and wag...

There's nothing more hopeless than being stuck in the patter of habitual sexual sin. The broken promises, the secrecy, the shame, and the struggling relationships.  In this episode we walk through the struggle and look at what God's Word and I'll share three helpful suggestions for any brother struggling. 

We all have habits. These habits either help us or hurt us. They either move us toward a life pleasing to God or aid in drifting into a life of powerful and painful regrets. In this episode, I'll share 8 helpful habits that anyone can start that will significantly impact your life over time.