Polyamirite

G is for Grief & Gratitude What do we do when love breaks our hearts and fills them at the same time? When grief sits beside gratitude — both insisting on being felt? In this episode of The ABCs of Polyamirite, Chelle explores the quiet relationship between two truths that shape every polyamorous life: love changes, and love remains. Grief arrives when a relationship ends, when compersion doesn’t...

F is for Fear What happens when our hearts race, our stomachs drop, and our minds spin stories that keep us awake at night? In this episode of The ABCs of Polyamirite, Chelle unpacks one of the most primal, misunderstood, and unavoidable parts of nonmonogamous life: fear. Fear isn’t just panic or terror. In relationships, it can be the quiet hum beneath jealousy, the sharp edge behind anger, or th...

The Art of Bendy Love - Relationship Anarchy IRL What happens when we strip away the scripts we’ve inherited about love, commitment, and connection? In this episode of Polyamirite, Chelle sits down with Liam Powell, non-monogamist, relationship anarchist, and board member of Love Fest Events, to unpack the radical, intentional framework of Relationship Anarchy. RA often gets misunderstood as chaos...

E is for Empathy What happens when multiple hearts, stories, and emotions intertwine? In this episode of The ABCs of Polyamirite, Chelle dives deep into an emotional core of polyamorous relationships: empathy. In non-monogamy, empathy isn’t just a nice-to-have; it is a lifeline. It’s how we stay connected through joy and jealousy, connection and conflict. But how do we practice empathy when we’re...

New Life Energy In this episode, Chelle and her QPP Michelle have a heartfelt conversation exploring the meaning of “new life energy”... that sense of renewal, vitality, and possibility that can transform the way we live. They reflect on what it means to them personally, the subtle and surprising ways it shows up in their lives, and how practices of joy and gratitude help to strengthen and sustain...

D is for Dismantling Default Scripts What if the way we’ve been taught to do love… was never designed for us to thrive? In this episode of The ABCs of Polyamirite, we travel through the tender and transformative process of dismantling the default relationship scripts we’ve inherited — and writing new ones rooted in autonomy, intention, and truth. Whether you’re exploring polyamory, reclaiming your...

C is for Community What happens when love refuses to fit inside one box? In this episode of The ABCs of Polyamirite, Chelle explores the transformative power of finding — and creating — community in polyamorous and relationship-diverse lives. From the loneliness of not being “understood” to the joy of feeling fully seen, we journey through the real barriers to building community (including shame,...

B is for Boundaries and Belonging What happens when our need for connection collides with our need for self-protection? In this deep, vulnerable, and truth-packed episode of The ABCs of Polyamirite, Chelle unpacks the complex tension between boundaries and belonging in polyamorous relationships. From self-abandonment and unmet needs to practical tools for setting—and receiving—boundaries with clar...

A is for Accountability Ever find yourself stuck in a cycle of apologizing but not quite changing? Or maybe you've been on the receiving end of a “sorry” that felt more like a brush-off than a repair. In polyamory, where our actions impact more than one relationship, accountability isn't just important—it’s foundational. In this episode of Polyamirite, host Chelle kicks off the ABCs of Polyamory s...

Episode 011: Imposter Syndrome Ever feel like you’re faking it in your polyamorous journey? Like you’re not “poly enough,” too jealous, or just not measuring up to the highlight reels you see online? You’re not alone-and you’re not an imposter. In this episode of Polyamirite, host Chelle dives deep into the tender, often unspoken experience of imposter syndrome within polyamory. Chelle unpacks why...

Episode 010: Expectations and Romance Welcome to Polyamirite Episode 010: Expectations and Romance In this episode, Chelle and Denis discuss their initial perspectives of romance, including: - Separating romance and love (the ability to show romantic gestures to those that you are not “in love” with) - Intellectualizing romance - Chosen wounds and how wanting to be chosen shows up in relationship...

Episode 009: Navigating Opening Up Welcome to Polyamirite Episode 009: Navigating Opening Up In this episode, Chelle and Denis discuss Denis’ story of opening up in non-monogamy, including: - Navigating opening up, prioritizing commitments, and NRE - Navigating open up when you have observed non-monogamy from the outside into leaning into it with your own experiences - Learning how to navigate the...

Episode 008: Embracing Varying Relationship Depths Welcome to Polyamirite Episode 008: Embracing Varying Relationship Depths In this episode, Chelle shares her reflections and explores the complexities of navigating relationships at varying emotional depths. Key topics include: Understanding your relational ecosystem and recognizing the unique contributions of each relationship The importance of i...

Episode 007: Poly-authentic (Part Two) Welcome to Polyamirite Episode 007: Poly-Authentic (Part Two) In part two of this episode, Chelle and Denis continue their conversation related to their experience of developing their authenticity in the realm of polyamory, including: - Showing up as yourself/authenticity to show others the “best version of yourself” - Navigating when you notice others in the...

Welcome to Polyamirite Episode 006: Poly-Authentic (Part One) In part one of this episode, Chelle and her close friend Denis share their experiences of developing their authenticity in the realm of polyamory, including: - Identifying authenticity in polyamory - Creating an understanding of cultivating how we add value to others lives vs being “needed” in others lives - Identifying your own sense o...

Welcome to Polyamirite Episode Five: Afterships, FTW! In this episode, Chelle and her former partner and current BFF Brian share their story of their "aftership," in the initial stages of transitioning back to a friendship. They share the story of starting talking again and how this came to be, how they navigated the thoughts that came up when nostalgia hit, accountability and reparations, navigat...

Welcome to Polyamirite Episode Four: Relationship Re flections In this episode, Chelle and her former partner and current BFF Brian share their story of their former partnership in the transition from a sexual & romantic relationship to de-escalating, including all the twists and turns along the way. They tackle sharing details of their relationship firsts, people pleasing, growing together, learn...

Welcome to Polyamirite Episode Three: Coming Out as Polyamorous! In this episode, Chelle shares some resources available out there for your polyamorous coming out journey, as well as her own personal experience with coming out as polyamorous, including the raw peaks and valleys of this experience over the last 5 years…. SPOILER ALERT: not always easy, but totally worth it…. Polyamirite | Relatable...

Episode 2: WTF is Romance, Even? Welcome to Polyamirite Episode Two: WTF is Romance, Even? In this episode, Chelle shares some of her own raw, authentic, and challenging internal processing regarding her experience of learning the differences between emotional connection and romantic connection. She shares some of the insights gained from research, talking to many polyamorous folx, and the conclus...

Episode 1: Origin Story!  Welcome to Polyamirite Episode One: ORIGIN STORY!  In this episode, Chelle and her husband, Michael, talk all things starting out in polyamory….from broaching the subject of opening up, being "Charlie Day'ed" with a barrage of resources, being left alone for the first date, finding your individual autonomy and sense of self, and COMMUNICATION, COMMUNICATION, COMMUNICATION...

Welcome to Episode Zero of Polyamirite! In this introductory episode, the intentions behind Polyamirite are discussed, including the hopes and dreams of the Polyamirite community and vision for the podcast. Please stay tuned for future episodes of this podcast! Polyamirite | Relatable Content for Polyamorous Humans Art Credit: Kat Fiscaletti, @katfiscalettiart