Pivot Parenting: Expert Tips for Navigating Teen and Tween Challenges

Why do they do it? They shouldn't lie. Why can't they tell me the truth? They're making poor choices. How do I get them to stop lying? I need to fix this. Any of this sound familiar? You catch them in a lie and your brain spins out. It eventually lands on the hard truth that they can't be trusted and you've failed to teach them right from wrong. Then we attempt to parent them from this head space....

You care about it. They don't. This is a recipe for certain disaster regardless of where the caring is mismatched, unless you know how to approach the situation. Good news! In this episode I will teach you exactly how to find the peace of mind you desire, regardless of their apathy. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

In this episode, Steve and I discuss how to best handle challenging religious conversations with our kids, specifically polygamy and racism in the history of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. As parents, we want to help our kids understand both their religion, and how to talk about it in a healthy, open way. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com About...

Today I will discuss the skill of connecting with peers, and what friendship does and doesn't mean for us as parents. As a coach, clients come to me each week with their struggles. Friendship is a common one, and I want to share how this works with you, my amazing listener. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

Let's go down the rabbit hole of all the things that we hate about our life, our kids, and everything else. Are you ready? Hold on, this episode is a wild ride that might just rock your world. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

In this episode, I will dispel the myth that love is the foundation of a good relationship. I will teach you what the actual foundation is that we all need in order to build love, trust, and connection on. It probably isn't what you'd think, but it makes perfect sense, and it will unlock your ability to more deeply connect with your teen. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfr...

"I am broken." This phrase has been popping up all over the place for me, and I thought perhaps you might be hearing it right now as well. Whether you're the one saying it, your teen is, or someone else that you love, I am here to help you move through this unavoidable part of our human experience. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

There is a pattern within us, all around us, and we even think with it. Our subconscious is attracted to it and we are mesmerized by its beauty. It is the structure that our Heavenly Parents use to create all things. We even mimic it in our creations. In this episode I will teach you how to intentionally use this godly pattern to create all that you want in yourself and in your parenting. To learn...

Sometimes we want to keep our belief or we can't stop thinking a thought, so I like to turn it on its head. In this episode I teach you a coaching trick that is helpful with specific situations. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

Common enough amongst parents, is the question- "Am I good enough, if I'm doing a good enough job as a parent, partner, family member," etc. With the new year upon us, many turn to new years resolutions, and I feel like this concern is compounded. I've got a few thoughts I'd like to share on this topic. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

"I see the problem, but how do I change it?" Is a common question I get in session, and I thought you might have the same one. We all have stories about our past, ourselves, and our family members, and these stories create the lens in which we view everyone... and then we act accordingly. Can you see what you are creating? Would you like to change it? To learn more about working with me, please vi...

A nod to the classic Dickens, A Christmas Carol, in this episode I explore how our past, present, and future affect our parenting. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

Setting rules for your family got your head in a mess? In this episode I not only go over how to create rules and stick to them, but why your teens push so hard against them- and why that's a beautiful thing. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

A difference of opinion can be a beautiful thing when certain principles are applied. If you can't see eye to eye with your partner in how to parent, this one's for you. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

Always wanting more of something before you can feel better? Tired of chasing the proverbial carrot that always dangles just out of reach? Like you need to hurry to get your fair share? "If only she'd be nice to me once in awhile..." "Why doesn't my spouse have my back?!" "I never have enough time." Want to feel better right now? Stick around, because I've got the shortcut to loving your child, sp...

All or nothing thinking can be tricky, and today I will explore how this shows up in what we believe about ourselves and our kids. It's probably not what you think... To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

Even in the rockiest of spots, we are meant to grow and thrive. Join me in this episode as I go through the exact process that helps you reach your full parenting potential in any situation. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

Alexis and Chanté are two of my favorite voices on Instagram! Racism is an issue that affects all of us, and having conversations around it is a fantastic way to uplevel our parenting. Come and listen to our candid conversation around how to best help our families become anti-racist. About my guests: Vivacious sisters in Utah, Alexis and Chantè help to make our community a better place through edu...

"What should I do?" is a common question that I am asked. The answer is the same every time. All roads lead to Christ. He is the perfect example and pure charity. We cannot go wrong when we pattern ourselves after HIm. In this episode we look to Him as parenting decisions are discussed. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

In this episode Gail and I have a fun conversation about how we both have come to a better understanding with who our children are and how little that actually has to do with us. Come and listen in as we both share how our different coaching approaches help in this lifelong endeavor. About my guest: Gail Swift is fiercely committed to guiding students and families to take action in their natural a...

The most common way to solve for our feelings is to take action. We try to change the situation or our child. We make calls, have conversations, and can even get all mama bear... but is taking action the best way to solve for how we are feeling? Let's chat it over. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

Despite the fact that nobody likes pain, it's one of my most popular talking points in sessions, the subject of my most liked and shared posts, and responded to email subjects. Per a very special client's direct request, I present to you an episode all about pain. Pain has many facets. When we understand them, we can better control our emotional pain. This doesn't mean that we will never be in pai...

We think we know how they feel because we know how we would feel. We think we know what they'd do, because we know what we'd do. We think we know our kids next best move, because we know what our next best move would be in their situation. But the truth is, humans aren't great at mind reading and when we make assumptions it's not always helpful... so listen in, and let's talk about how we project...

Having been the traditional stay at home mom for two decades, I know that being a mom is a full time job... and then I started my own business while going back to college part time. Next level stuff! If you can relate or want to understand, come and listen in as Aubin and I chat about all things working mom. About my guest: Aubin Palmer a life coach specifically for working mothers! She is passion...

Of all the contradictions out there, the ones that make us the most crazy are the ones that are in our heads. Keeping our kids safe, but letting them learn. Loving them and disliking their choices. In this episode we deep dive into how this can not only be possible, but also amazing. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com