Personal Mastery with Jerry Henderson

Self-Love isn't selfish. We have heard that phrase for a long time. It has almost become a mantra in the self-help and self-love community. However, for many of us, we still feel guilty and/or selfish when we practice self-love. So how do we address what is behind the feelings of guilt and selfishness in living out a life where we fully love and accept ourselves?  In this episode, we take a l...

Ever felt like a complete fraud, just waiting to be found out, regardless of evidence to suggest you shouldn't feel that way? It's a feeling far more common than you might think, and it's called imposter syndrome. In this episode, we're dissecting every corner of imposter syndrome - its roots, how trauma influences it, and even the interesting ways it tries to keep us safe.  In...

If you are a trauma survivor who has struggled with telling the truth, you might be surprised to learn that this can be a  common struggle for trauma survivors.  For many of us who experienced trauma, lying became a part of our daily lives. We used lying as a way to stay safe, protect others, and avoid shame. Just because we have gotten older doesn't mean those survival mechanisms automatical...

If you have experienced trauma and have difficulty with positive thinking, you are not alone.  In this episode, we discuss: What Positive Thinking Is Not What Positive Thinking Means to Me  How Does Trauma Impact Our Ability To Think Positively  How Can We Teach Ourselves to Think Positively  I have also included a practice that we can try to help us see the positive things that are already in our...

Have you ever felt trapped in a cycle of shame and self-punishment, unable to forgive yourself for past mistakes? We often think that punishing ourselves is corrective. In this episode, we discuss how punishing ourselves simply drives more of the behaviors we don't want in our lives. Love is the only force that has the power to transform us.  In this episode, we examine how we can have self-c...

Having the feeling that you can't trust yourself can be painful and confusing. You constantly second-guess every decision and never feel like you are making the 'right' decision.  In today's episode, we discuss the significance of self-trust, particularly for those who have experienced trauma and shame.  What does it feel like to not trust ourselves? How do trauma and shame imp...

Do you ever wonder why you keep sabotaging your own progress, relationships, or happiness? In today's special Q&A episode, we look at the connection between shame and self-sabotaging behaviors.  Discover how a sense of unworthiness could be the driving force behind these actions, manifesting in various forms like perfectionism, procrastination, and even picking fights with your loved ones...

Have you ever found yourself unwittingly minimizing the trauma and pain you've experienced? You're not alone. In this episode, I open up about my journey of minimizing my trauma and some valuable insights from a recent session with my therapist.  We often minimize our trauma in order to manage it, but this leaves us feeling like we are not worthy of fully acknowledging our pain. When we...

"Shame is the lie that someone told you about yourself." - Anaïs Nin There is nothing wrong with you! Shame will make you feel like you are uniquely broken and unlovable and that you can't heal your life. Shame will make you believe you are unworthy of healing and a life full of love and belonging.  Why do we have this feeling that something is wrong with us? Where does it come from...

The inner critic is that part of us that seems to never give us a break. It's the toxic negative self-talk that we do that has a significant impact on our nervous systems. It is a key manifestation of shame.  In this episode, we discuss the inner critic, what it is, how it impacts our life, and how we can start to heal that part of ourselves.  We discuss four strategies to bring healing to th...

In this episode, we begin the conversation about how we can transform our relationship with ourselves through the power of self-love.  How do we move from shame toward self-love?  Why do we feel like we are not worthy of love?  Understanding how our relationship with ourselves determines the other relationships in our life.  Understanding how shame and trauma are blocking us from loving ourselves...