Personal Mastery with Jerry Henderson

In this episode of the Permission to Love podcast, we dive deep into understanding and overcoming negative and intrusive thoughts.  Discover how to transform your mind from being your master into being your servant and learn the practical tools to reprogram your thinking for a healthier and more fulfilling life. Key Topics: The function and power of the mind The impact of trauma on thinking patter...

Have you ever been confused about what love is? Do you struggle with being consistent with loving yourself and others. Have you always thought that love is simple a feeling? In this episode we also look at some of the misconceptions that we have about love, what love truly is, and how we can access our true nature of love. I hope in this episode you will see that YOU ARE LOVE!!! Join me as we take...

If you have been struggling to build self-confidence or wondering how to build self-confidence then this episode is for you.  In this episode of the Permission to Love podcast we explode the concept of self-confidence, particularly for those who have experienced trauma.  My hope is that you will find insights and practical steps on how to rebuild or build self-confidence for the first time.  This...

In this episode, we dive into how to reprogram our limiting beliefs with the power of positive affirmations.  Have you tried positive affirmations in the past and they haven’t seemed to work for you? Do you feel like it’s been impossible to let go of your limiting beliefs? In this episode, we discussed those questions and more.  Discover how changing the way you think about yourself can heal your...

Can radical self kindness be the key to your healing journey and if so, how do we practice it? In this episode, we celebrate one year of the Permission to Love podcast as well as discuss the practice of radical self-kindness, exploring why it's crucial for healing and self-love. Thank you for being a part of this podcast for the last year. This podcast would not be possible without you the li...

Do I have to forgive someone in order to heal? I get that question a lot.  In this episode I hope to provide some answers to that question as well as others.  When we understand that forgiving someone is about us and not about the other person  our entire perspective on the subject of forgiveness will dramatically shift.  Forgiveness is ultimately about us and the choice is always ours. It ultimat...

Have you ever stood in the shadow of your own unmet potential, feeling the weight of the person you might have been if ltrauma hadn't left its mark?  This is a reality many face, and in our latest podcast episode, we journey into the process of grieving what trauma stole from us as a way to journey  into deeper healing.  Together, we confront the raw emotions of anger and rage that emerge fro...

In this episode we discuss how to discover the transformative power of the present moment to heal your relationship with yourself and how being present can help heal your nervous system.  Whether you struggle with being present, feel overwhelmed by life's demands, or seek escape through distractions, this episode is tailored to guide you towards profound self-healing and acceptance. What You&...

There is a place where you can fully accept yourself and have your self-development/self-improvement come from the place of self-acceptance. Self-acceptance is a much more healthy and powerful energy to come from as we work to improve ourselves.  Have you ever struggled with being on a never ending treadmill of self-development. Would you like to learn how to accept yourself while you are also pra...

Do you always feel like you need to fix yourself? Do you feel like there is something wrong with you, and if you just keep working on yourself, then you will finally feel "normal" and be able to accept yourself? The feeling that we need to fix ourselves is often a response to trauma and something we developed as a way to stay safe. In response to the painful things we were experiencing,...

Have you ever felt like you are chasing after trying to be normal? Do you carry a nagging feeling that there is something wrong with you? Are you always looking for something in your life that needs to be fixed? I carried that feeling for over 40 years, and in this episode, I share how I got rid of those thoughts and feelings. This episode is the first of three episodes on the topic of "chasi...

Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship that you have. Why? Because your relationship with yourself is determines everything else in your life. When was the last time you asked yourself how your relationship with yourself was going? How long has it been since you took an honest look at how you are treating yourself? This episode and the companion self-reflection tool is...

Anger is often one of the first emotions we feel as we begin to heal. It can also be a sign that we are healing.   Giving ourselves permission to be angry and to feel anger is an important part of the healing process.  In this episode, we discuss the following:  How to keep from shaming yourself for feeling anger Why we shouldn’t suppress our anger How we might experience anger How many of us resp...

Do you struggle with feelings of shame as a person of faith?  Do you feel like you are always trying to please God and that God sees you as sinful and shameful? Has the focus of your faith journey been on how much you are falling short? If  you do, you are not alone. I carried those feelings for over four decades. I was confused about why my faith in God wasn't "fixing" me. I found...

Do you wonder why you seem to keep choosing toxic relationships? Are you stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns? Do you make promises to yourself about how you will “never” allow someone to treat you "that way" again, only to find yourself right back in the same situation again and again? If any of the above resonates, this episode is for you.  In this episode, we will examine how lovi...

Asking the question "what if" can either spiral us into fear and hopelessness or catapult us into the life we want.  One of the ways we heal is by using our imagination. When we dream of what we can be, we will begin to move ourselves in that direction.  In this episode, we look at the following: The Power of Asking a Question How Asking "What If" Can Change Your Life Engaging...

Do you feel like your own worst enemy? Are you constantly avoiding yourself? Are you uncomfortable being in your own presence? In this episode, I discuss the following: 1. What is self-avoidance 2. Why we avoid ourselves 3. What happens when we avoid ourselves 4. How we can stop avoiding ourselves 5. What happens when we return to ourselves 6. Why you are not your own worst enemy. 7. How solitude...

Shame is one of the most devious emotions. It tricks us into thinking we are the shame.  Shame has to be addressed as a part of our healing process. We will stay stuck as long as we think we are the shame. Stuck believing that something is wrong with us and that we can’t heal. The wonderful news is that we can heal and get free from shame, and one of the first places to start is to disidentify fro...

Asking for help can be really hard, and it is a significant and brave step in our healing. When we are serious about our healing, we will start to ask for help when we need it.  But why is it so hard to ask for help? What keeps us from asking for help when we need it? This episode is a continuation of the "How We Heal" series.  In this episode, we take a look at the following: What keeps...

Over the next several months, I will be sharing step-by-step the process I went through to learn how to heal the childhood trauma I experienced, my life, and my relationships by healing my relationship with myself.  In this episode, I share the first step, the choice to heal, and how to make that choice stick. We often choose to heal, but shortly afterward, we feel the backward pull that ultimatel...

Does our past really matter? Why does every therapist want to go digging around in our past? What is the connection between our past and our current struggles?  In this episode, I am joined once again by my therapist, Lisa Kemppainen, as we discuss these questions and more.  You can heal, and an important part of the healing process is returning to the parts of us that were wounded and learning to...

Have you ever wondered how yoga and meditation can help with healing from trauma?  I'm so grateful to have my wife, Agatha, join me for this episode.  Agatha spent six years studying yoga and meditation in India.  She is a certified yoga and meditation instructor with thousands of hours of training and teaching.  In this episode, we discuss: - How yoga and meditation were such important parts...

In the final part of our conversation, Lisa and I discussed how to connect with our emotions and understand what they are trying to tell us. As well as how to connect with our inner child for emotional healing.  When was the last time you truly listened to what your anxiety or depression was trying to tell you? As I sit down with my therapist, Lisa, we peel back the layers of emotion to reveal the...

Curiosity can completely change the energy on how we approach our healing process. Come join Lisa and I as we discuss how curiosity can be a key factor in opening our hearts and helping us heal.  This is part two of a conversation with my therapist about trauma, shame, and healing.  In this episode, we discuss:  - When Lisa and I first connected - Addressing the problem not just the symptom - Chal...

When I first connected with my therapist, Lisa, I had no idea just how transformative her unique approach to trauma would prove to be for me.  This episode marks the beginning of a series where Lisa and I have conversations about trauma, shame, and healing! Lisa and I discuss the disconnection from self and the survival instincts that often come from trauma.  We reflect on our own paths through pa...