Perfectionism Rewired

Are you a high achiever who secretly struggles when things don't go according to plan? A setback occurs and it feels like your world is falling apart? SAME. In this episode, I'm candidly sharing my recent stumbles and how I moved forward without blame, making myself small or beating my self to a pulp. You'll learn what NOT to do when things go awry, how to melt away the ruminating and catasrophizi...

Break free from stressy ruminating + overthinking TODAY with this simple tool that shows you how to calm your mind from overthinking. Listen as I walk you step-by-step how you can get an accurate read of what's happening inside your head + clear up your perspective so that you can finally feel calm-ish. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much mo...

You're used to being the go-to person, who's always happy to help and yet..why is it so freaking hard for you to ask for support? Discover how perfectionism isn't an excuse, it's an explanation and how to advocate for yourself on this empowering episode. If you want to have the capacity, courage & certainty to seek support and leverage it, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for high-achievers wit...

Are you tired of white-knuckling it? Ready to move beyond relentless people-pleasing and pretending to be calm? Discover the real reason you're not overcoming perfectionism (it has nothing to do with how hard you’re trying) and how to stop settling for a life of miserable meh as a recovering perfectionist. Perfectionism Leveraged client Whitney courageously shares her story of being tightly wound...

You know logically it’s not *your job* to fix everything in your orbit yet the moment anything goes awry, you feel like the outcome is all on your shoulders. An overactive sense of responsibility can be a tough habit to rewire when you CARE deeply. Learn how to easily distinguish between CARE-ING and CARRY-ING.  Plus practical tips you can use immediately for being empathetic + present without get...

 Discover why compulsively seeking more information to solve perfectionistic problems is actually self-sabotage and how you can upgrade obsessively finding the right answers to playfully pursuing the correct ones FOR YOU. Plus how to know when searching for the perfect way to fix yourself is secretly holding you back and the 5 hidden dangers all driven high-performers want to be aware of. Tired of...

What *really* happens when you upgrade from control to power, the suck of growth as a perfectionist and ultimately finding empowerment in what initially seems like a total disaster. Join me (CLG) on the never before shared journey of choosing to rise to the occasion of being a perfectionist as I unravel my own striving, intrusive thoughts and how to playfully let go. Tired of waiting for “things t...

Big News: Website Is Back! After crashing on NYE and being down 6 days, courtneylovegavin.com is up and running! If you've been trying to get in touch about Perfectionism Leveraged 1-1 coaching, now's your chance! Go to courtneylovegavin.com/contact If you want to hear all about the hard-earned truths in resilience from this digital dumpster fire week and what REALLY happens when your life goes up...

Listen in for an eye-opening episode with strategies for perfectionist self-advocacy, navigating the lethal landmines of mental healthcare, partnering with the right perfectionist practitioner for you in the face of medical gaslighting and getting the care you deserve NOW that sees you as a WHOLE person, not a stereotype with symptoms to suppress. Tired of waiting for “things to calm down” so you...

Discover how the perfectionist sunk cost fallacy could be holding you back and learn how to break free from its grip. From wearing clothes you hate, to staying in relationships or careers way past their expiration date, Sunk Cost fallacy is a lethal landmine for perfectionistic people. Find out if you’re making decisions aligned with your values or loss aversion, sunk cost definition for perfectio...

Sometimes, support sucks. As a perfectionist this gets especially tricky when you're also wobbly on advocating for yourself. If you've ever felt trapped by your own high expectations this episode breaks down the barriers that perfectionists often face when it comes to asking for and receiving support, illuminating the internal struggles and external pressures that's enormously misunderstood by non...

 Imagine steering a tiny dinghy in stormy seas. That's control. Now, picture yourself commanding a majestic yacht, gliding effortlessly over the waves. That's power. That’s this episode. In this episode CLG lays out the shortest, simplest pathway to the results you actually want: power, peace and presence with a special focus on parenting and daily life.   Tired of waiting for “things to calm down...

When you stop trying to get people to like you or validate you (or listen to your podcast) this wild phenomenon occurs: You become popular! Plot twist that makes you pause as to why for sooooo long you tried soooo hard and cared soooo much about being well received it never happened. Happy surprises + insights inside.  In a world of quick fixes, you deserve lasting change. Experience the embodied...

 Can’t seem to calm down despite taking deep breaths, memorizing ALL the coping skills + “knowing” what to do? Forget about those dusty generic strategies. Discover the HIDDEN self-regulation skill that no one's told you about until now! Get the relief, control and answers you’ve been longing for with tailored, effective emotional resilience methods that work for YOU. You’ll learn to recognize tho...

Your Perfectionism does NOT work the way you think it does. Your brain predicts *almost* everything you feel, think, do, and when it gets it wrong, it's called a prediction error. Get up to speed on prediction errors and how learning a new language – interoception – to effectively interpret and understand your own emotions, thoughts and physiological responses will save your sanity and might just...

If you've ever felt misunderstood or frustrated bc what you're trying (psychotherapy, meditation, pushing through etc.) isn't working as fast or as well as you thought it would, this episode will make it all make sense. PS- Don't take my word for it. Hear real-life stories from perfectionists who had just about given up before finding Perfectionist Solutions. Tired of waiting for “things to calm d...

If you're juggling deadlines, hectic schedules and family responsibilities and feel like you don't have any time for yourself right now, this episode will help you YOU actually enjoy your holidays (and life!). Whether it's standing up to your in-laws with newfound confidence, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family, When you know you’ve GOT th...

If you find yourself dwelling on a *mistake* you made for weeks, months (years!) or can’t stop feeling embarrassed/disappointed in yourself for “messing up” THIS episode will help you move forward and playfully break free from your own 'mistake prisons'  Take a rare real-time journey inside the mind of a perfectionist (CLG) who JUST made a very public (very careless) mistake and explore the intric...

Mistakes are the scabs perfectionists love to pick, even if they make us bleed + leave a heinous scar that only we can see. Find out the top 5 reasons perfectionists are conditioned to be like moths drawn to the flame of mistakes, why overthinking mistakes feels like an addiction to your brain,  the RIGHT way to handle mistakes so you don't keep making the same ones on repeat, even if you're in a...

Discover the simple technique that rewires your brain, empowering you to take control of your anxiety, worry and catastrophizing. Stay focused on this for 21 days and reduce your stress by 50%. Start now for a calmer, more present you. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Build confidence from being fully in charge of your life, through the proven, science-backed tools...

Catastrophizing: when worst-case scenarios dominate your thoughts, leading you away from reality, fueling fear and anxiety. Find out why this common perfectionist habit is not protective but actually poisoning your potential and how to stop catastrophizing.  If you're eager to ditch the horror movie playing in your head, value your time & want to empower yourself with clear, calm thinking, getting...

Discover how this ONE shift opens up the floodgates of your self-confidence and stops you from being a prisoner of yesterday's choices. Hear how Perfectionism Optimized client Porsha was able to go from "I HATE this about myself" to "I feel calmer. I've stopped shouting at myself" using this one neuroscultping tool and dive into the top 3 things perfectionists get wrong about self-acceptance that...

Are you Using Perfectionism or Is it Using You? Uncover who's in charge with the simplicity and effectiveness Intention + Impact Method™. Explore the hidden triggers fueling your perfectionistic tendencies, understand the connection between your brain's alarm bell system stress + perfectionism and learn to decode your  physical, emotional, behavioral and cognitive  perfectionism cues. If you value...

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Feel like you're always a thousand steps behind where you “should” have been? Procrastination for perfectionists is this invisible thing that no one sees or understands - and the longer it goes on, the anxiety moves in and then you’ve got multiple forces sucking the life out of you. Discover how to mute the constant noise in your head and melt away the pressure of avoidance. Want to stop procrasti...