Pearls of Wisdom

In this episode of Pearls of Wisdom , I explore one of the greatest gifts that we can offer ourselves and one another - the freedom to be exactly who we are! So much of our suffering comes from comparison, from believing we should be different, or from expecting others to think, behave, or experience life in the same way that we do. But what our differences are not obstacles to connection! They ar...

In this episode of ‘Pearls of Wisdom’, I explore projection! We often believe we are seeing people and situations exactly as they are.  But I explore the idea that we are actually seeing them through the filter of our own beliefs, experiences, emotions, and conditioning Projection is a natural part of being human.  We project not only our fears and unresolved pain, but also our hopes, ideals, and...

In this episode of Pearls of Wisdom , I share a personal experience and it inspired me to remind of the importance of celebrating one another while we are still here. Last year, I trained as a celebrant after several clients suggested they would like me to conduct their weddings. Around the same time, one of my oldest clients, then aged ninety, said, "Oh, you can do my funeral!” This year, th...

In this episode of Pearls of Wisdom , I explore how to remain present when life feels overwhelmingly busy. Most of us experience periods where there seems to be too much to do, too many responsibilities, and too many demands on our time and energy. During these times, it is easy to become caught up in stress, anxiety, and overwhelm. But what if stress is not caused by the situation itself, but by...

In this episode of Pearls of Wisdom , I explore an ancient idea that has fascinated spiritual seekers for centuries: As within, so without. What if the world around us is not simply happening to us, but reflecting something back to us? Most of us naturally look outward when challenges arise. We focus on situations, circumstances, and other people as the source of our happiness or unhappiness, but...

In this episode I explore the transformative power of listening. In a world filled with noise, opinions, distractions, and constant communication, truly listening has become a rare and precious skill, but it is through listening that genuine connection is created. When we listen deeply, we set aside our assumptions, judgements, opinions, and the internal dialogue that often prevents us from fully...

In this episode of 'Pearls of Wisdom', we explore the four survival archetypes that unconsciously shape our behaviours, relationships, choices, and sense of self. These archetypes often operate beneath the surface, influencing how we protect ourselves, where we give our power away, and the patterns that keep us stuck. But when brought into awareness, they can become profound gateways for...

In this episode of Pearls of Wisdom, I explore beliefs - where they come from, how they shape our experience of life, and how becoming aware of them can transform the way we live. From early childhood, we absorb ideas about who we are, what life should look like, what is possible, and how we are expected to behave.  Over time, these thoughts become beliefs, and these beliefs shape our reality. Oft...

In this episode of Pearls of Wisdom, I explore reactivity, what it is, where it comes from, and how learning to work with it can transform our lives and relationships. So much of what we call ‘stress,’ conflict, or emotional pain begins with unconscious reactions. A comment, situation, or interaction triggers an energetic shift within us, and we often believe that something outside of us has ‘made...

In this episode, I explore the deeper meaning of discipline, and how it can become a supportive, empowering force rather than something rigid or restrictive. Discipline is often understood as consistency, structure, and the ability to push through difficulty in order to achieve goals, and while these aspects have value, they are only part of the story. This episode explores the idea that true self...

In this episode explore what stress really is, and how we can begin to relate to it in a different way. Stress is often seen as something caused by external circumstances: work, relationships, pressure, or difficult situations. But in reality, stress is not the situation itself, but our response to it. At a physical level, stress is a natural response of the body, designed to protect us. The nervo...

In this episode, I explore our relationship with thought, and what it means to become the master of our minds rather than being led by them. There is often a belief that meditation is about stopping thought altogether, but it is more importantto recognise that we are not our thoughts. The mind has incredible creative potential. It allows us to imagine, create, plan, and solve problems, but when le...

In this episode I explore the deeper nature of relationship and the patterns that can quietly erode connection over time. We are always in relationship, all the time - with others, with ourselves, and with life itself, and the quality of our relationships is deeply connected to the relationship we have within ourselves. Relationship can act as a mirror, reflecting back aspects of ourselves we may...

In this, I explore what it really means to find balance in our lives. We often think of balance as something external - how we divide our time between work, family, rest, and the things we enjoy, and while this has its place, many people still feel stressed, overwhelmed, or disconnected, even when their lives appear balanced on the surface. So what is missing? This episode looks at the deeper trut...

In this episode I explore what it means to move forward in life without losing ourselves. Modern life is often full, with our work, relationships, family, responsibilities, not to mention our goals!  It’s easy to become caught up in everything that needs to be done and slowly drift away from a deeper connection to ourselves. And yet, alongside everything we do, there is always an awareness present...

In this episode, I explore the creative nature of each moment and the space that exists between what happens to us and how we respond. So much of our lives is shaped through conversation – not only with others, but within ourselves. Each interaction is like a thread, weaving the tapestry of our experience, aqqqqqnd yet, often we find ourselves repeating the same patterns, the same words, and the s...

In this episode, I explore what it really means to trust, and why the search for trust outside ourselves can never fully resolve the deeper longing within. We often look for trust in other people: in partners, teachers, therapists, friends, or those we see as authorities.  We hope that if someone is reliable enough, consistent enough, or “trustworthy” enough, we will finally feel safe. But even wh...

In this episode of Bodhisattva Conversations , I explore a powerful and sometimes uncomfortable idea that there is no-one to blame! Blame looks outward and backward, focusing on who or what caused our current situation, whereas responsibility always looks inward and forward.  It asks how we meet our lives now. Blaming others, whether our parents, partners, colleagues, or past circumstances, can fe...

In this episode of Bodhisattva Conversations , I explore the subtle but powerful difference between being in joy and enjoying something . Enjoyment is often connected to outer experiences - a beautiful day, a delicious meal, a moment of success, time with people we love. These moments are wonderful, but they are naturally temporary. Joy, however, is something different. Joy is not dependent on cir...

In this episode of Bodhisattva Conversations , I explore the nature of relationship, and what occurs in “the space between” us and the other. There is always a space between two people.  An invisible field made up of tone, attention, intention, nervous system energy, and unspoken emotion, and whether we are relating to a partner, a friend, a colleague, a child, or a stranger, we are always contrib...

In this episode of The Practice of Being , I’m joined by writer and spiritual mentor Sashi Radley, for a conversation that weaves together creativity, presence, love, loss, and the mystery of life itself. Sashi shares how writing is not simply a craft for her, but a profound space of being. It is a place where the mind stills, time expands, and something deeper moves through her.  We explore her l...

In this solo episode of Bodhisattva Conversations , I explore the practice of being with uncertainty,  and the truth that the only thing we are ever certain of is that nothing is certain! As human beings, we go to great lengths to construct safety. We build structures around money, work, relationships, identity, and even our spiritual beliefs. We tell ourselves that if we arrange life carefully en...

Most of our suffering is not caused by life itself, but by the restless mind reacting to life. In this episode, I explore what it truly means to still the mind not by suppressing it, but by gently training it so that we are the master of our mind! There is a saying that it makes a wonderful servant and a terrible master! We look at: Why the mind becomes addictive, doubtful, critical or negative Th...

Not Getting Stuck in Pain | Healing Trauma & Living More Fully Pain is an inevitable part of being human, but suffering arises when pain isn’t met, processed, or allowed to move. In this episode of Bodhisattva Conversations , I explore how trauma and unprocessed pain can keep us stuck in survival patterns, and how healing becomes possible through awareness, presence, and compassionate self-lis...

In this episode of The Practice of Being , I reflect on death, not as something to fear, but as one of life’s greatest teachers. From early childhood moments to spiritual traditions, lived experience, and sitting with people at the end of their lives, this episode explores how learning to die allows us to live more fully, consciously, and lovingly. We look at why the fear of death arises, how iden...