Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments

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We, as parents, want to help our children overcome their fears and reason them away with simple messages like, "there are no monsters in the closet," "just jump in the water, you'll be fine," or "there's no such thing as the boogie man."  But does this really help them overcome the fear itself?  Or do they just shove it down to appease us?  We are talking about why...

Training our kids to pee and poop in the toilet can be a daunting task! Between the two of us, we've been through it four times and Michelle has helped numerous families through the process. Listen in for our take on it and all the ways we've found that make connection well worth the time! Michelle's Guide to Cooperation is a great aid for potty training and so much more and here is th...

We're talking about shame when it comes to our kids, ourselves and others.  We believe our children need to hear how wrong they are for their behaviors or words at times and we use shame to do this.  We have come to realize it actually makes them act out even more and the cycle of shame continues.  Listen to how we avoid shame in all aspects. If you haven't already, check out Michelle'...

We want our kids to be moral, honest people but that pressure can cause us to reject lies at all costs.  Are all lies wrong?  We're talking about how to manage lying from our kids, where it comes from and how to change the dynamic around it.  Check us out all over social media , support us on our Patreon and for extra help, Michelle has created an amazing course on Cooperation !!  Feeling call...

Wendi DeMorst joins us for this special episode to discuss what it's like to be a black American child and how to talk to our children about racism and privilege. Listen in as she helps us provide guidance in educating ourselves and doing the work of unlearning, all while showing our children we can make a difference. Here are some links if you're interested in learning more:  books for ki...

Our kids can really hurt our feelings at times and make us feel the need to eradicate certain language from their vocabulary.  When they say they want a new mommy or they hate us or their siblings, we believe them; why wouldn't we?  We're going to discuss why we choose not to believe them or take it personally and how we manage to let them have those big feelings and still come out with ou...

When our children struggle with their body image, it can feel like we need to over boast their confidence to combat it. But what if instead, we simply empathized and provided a listening ear?  We're talking about how to guide our kids into having positive body image from babyhood and how to manage all the feelings that may come up around bodies. Join us on our Facebook community group to conti...

If you're wondering how to teach right and wrong, how to encourage your kids to listen, "behave," and how to gain their respect, this episode is for you.  We use limits to say no but we come with kindness and empathy so there is no severing of our connection with our children.  Limits are the thing that freed us from feeling like we had to distract away the feelings, remain in control...

No matter what method of parenting we choose to follow, there will be judgment from someone, somewhere.  It is hard enough to parent as is, but that judgment can leave us feeling very alone and full of self doubt.  We're talking about all the ways we manage to leave the judgment aside and move forward using peaceful techniques despite the critics.  Please rate, review, subscribe, join us on ou...

How do I get my parenting partner to choose this parenting style with me?  We get asked this question all the time! Gemma's husband, Dan, joins us to talk about his journey to get with the program, the hardest parts for him, the aspects of it he loves, and how it all works today.  If you've been looking for a way to introduce this methodology, we hope this will help!  Please rate, review,...

Are your children bored, antsy and having more big feelings during quarantine?  When it all comes to a head, we want it to stop as fast as possible and so do they.  They often tell us to go away, leave them alone or they go in their room until they're calm.  But where did those feelings go?  We're discussing why we tell our kids we won't leave them when they're upset and we choose...

We've been playing more games and having much more family while in quarantine so what better time to talk about winning? Games with our kids are intended for fun and learning but often we get caught up in getting the W for ourselves.  We're talking about winning and how to build self-esteem for our kids during game play.  Stay safe, healthy and in touch (through our facebook community grou...

We're all struggling with the new reality of our lives and there's just no getting around it.  It becomes so much harder to come to parenting as a patient and resourced individual able to meet all our children's needs when we are on 24/7 alone in our homes.  We're talking about how hard it has been for us and what we have done to cope.  Please join our  Facebook community group  so...

Getting out of the house with kids can sometimes take longer than the actual activity you're getting out for, am I right?  Transitions used to be a huge struggle for both of us but once we started adding in connection and being mindful of where our kids were at, they became so much easier.  We're talking about all the ways we build up to the moment of transition and what we do when there i...

Fear can be resolved by using empathy and play.  We give you our best thinking and ways to cultivate connection while we have this extra time with our families.  If you're yearning for a sense of community, join our facebook group  and check out Michelle's link tree for all her guides for ideas during isolation. Don't forget to rate, review, subscribe and consider supporting us on Patr...

As members of the family, we expect our kids to do chores and help out around the house; sometimes we even pay them for the jobs.  And once they earn their money, we expect them to manage it responsibly. But where do they learn that? And how do we guide them in that without making ourselves crazy?  Michelle has so many great resources, we decided to link them all here !  We have lots of fun extras...

Casey is back to check in after our first conversation.  We talk about the car seat experiment, special time, the daily struggles that continued and much more. Here is a link to Michelle’s connection plan  that can help you get a daily idea of where to start! Don't forget to rate, review, subscribe and join our Patreon for extras!  Feeling called to bring this work to other parents? Our Coachi...

Have you ever been so dedicated to doing something, working all the angles, putting in all the time and effort and there are still days when it just doesn't work? You know about connection, you use it, you even do Special Time and listen to big feelings. With all that hard work you just want the pay-off the regulated behavior and the calm child. It doesn't seem fair or kind or at all manag...

Electronics, electronics, electronics (Jan Brady voice)! Roblox, Snapchat, Minecraft, Thomas the Train and whatever else these techies are throwing our way! Even Sesame Street can be addicting. How can we navigate the electronic world without losing our minds? How much is too much and where do we set the boundary? What if nobody listens? Then what? Let’s talk electronics and all it entails. Please...

Ever elusive sleep! It’s like a unicorn we chase, endlessly when our children are young. Nobody wants to sleep except mom and dad! It becomes stressful and difficult making bedtime often unmanageable. What can we do? How can we help our families get more rest without using methods that may not feel good while also supporting ourselves and our kids through all the feelings that come along with slee...

We're tackling social media and all it can bring to us as parents but also individuals, good and bad.  We released a special episode on parenting and enneagram numbers on our  Patreon , join today to access the content!  Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe!!  Feeling called to bring this work to other parents? Our Coaching Certification Program trains you to do exactly that. DM me C...

Backtalk can feel like the ultimate sign of disrespect but is it?  Or is it indicative of something bigger going on inside our children?  We dive in to why it can be so triggering and ways to manage.  Don't forget to rate, review, subscribe and check out our  patreon !  Feeling called to bring this work to other parents? Our Coaching Certification Program trains you to do exactly that. DM me C...

In order to change our children's behavior, we have to first change our own.  It is difficult, frustrating, counterintuitive and takes a lot of inner work and self awareness.  We're talking through the ways we have been able to make changes to our own behaviors and the power you have to change the atmosphere of your own home; Michelle does her yoga while we record and gives us an example o...

Meltdown city here we come!  Talking all kinds of tantrums and how we manage to stay calm and connected to our children as they release their "icky" feelings.  Tantrums can be so healing for our little ones, teenagers and even for us, as adults. Let us know what you think and join in the discussion on our  private Facebook community group.   Don't forget to rate, review, subscribe, vis...