Pause Purpose Play

In today’s episode, I’m going to be talking about how you miss all of the shots you don’t take.   If you don’t ask for something you’re never going to get it.  I share stories about when I went out of my comfort zone to ask for what I deserved and how it has had a positive impact on my life.     Here are the highlights:   (06:32) Ask!  (08:23) Burn bright without burning out  (09:55) Why do women...

Today's episode is all about the pressure of perfectionism! I'm joined by Thomas Curran, a psychology professor at the London School of Economics and the author of The Perfection Trap. Thomas has spent a lot of time uncovering how societal pressures are a big driving force of perfectionism. Today, Thomas explains how personality traits are linked to perfectionism and how this can impact mental hea...

Today we’re exploring an emotion. That ‘cringe’ emotion.  That hiding-behind-a-pillow emotion. That fear-of-being-judged-by-others emotion.  Shame.  Join me today, and learn to soothe shame with compassion and connection.    Here are the highlights: (2:12) Shame and guilt (5:20) Fitting in (10:43) Peace with the past (14:20) Burning bright You can find my FREE masterclass - How to Burn Bright With...

In this episode, I will share something I haven't shared on this podcast before. My hope is that you will feel seen. I want to boldly unmask what has been happening in my life and how I am evolving because I know you might be experiencing something similar. Join me as I open up about self-worth, self-compassion, and neurodiversity.   Highlights:  (02:04) An evolution of growth  (04:17) It’s nobody...

As mothers especially, we lack compassion for ourselves, and we don't implement self-care even though we know it's good for us and, better yet, that we deserve it! We should not ignore our needs because we are meeting everyone else's. All this does is drain us. We can choose to change! This episode looks at the necessary self-care and then looks at the tips for inviting more nourishing self-care i...

Sometimes life can be tough. We all experience hard knocks, and it always feels everything comes at you at once.  It can be overwhelming – I get it, and I am hear for you!  In this episode we are going to talk about how you can tackle those hard knocks with compassion and strength, so that you come out of the other side better than ever.  The brutal truth is that hard knocks are not easy to just g...

Do you give yourself the permission to look after yourself? In this week’s episode, I’m having a deep chat with my old colleague and friend, Sam Dhu. Sam Dhu is a Psychotherapist, Coach & Facilitator of Permission. Mum to seven-year-old, Amelie and baby Frankie, and passionate advocate for being radically kind and compassionate to yourself. We're tackling self-worth, permission, societal press...

How do you prepare for a period of stress?  And more importantly, how do you recharge your batteries after a stressful event?  It is so important to know how to decompress, so in this episode I talk through some of the things you can do to bookend those stressful periods, whether it’s a one-off event or a high pressure job.    Highlights:  (01:51) Practice what you teach  (04:07) Making space for...

How do you feel when you look at yourself in the mirror? Today I want us to address the pressure that comes with looking perfect. For example, society has made us believe being thinner will make us happier but it doesn't! Let’s take a deeper dive to understand why.  Highlights: (00:59) More content with yourself  (02:25) The Model Manifesto (06:32) Time consuming  (09:08) Sense of preoccupation (1...

What happens when perfectionists come to the realisation that they want to change?   In this episode, I want to explore perfectionism and why it takes time to change. I also explore how patience is key to sustainable and long-lasting change.   Here are the highlights: (01:00) Patience is key. (2:56) What gets in the way of living a meaningful life? (4:57) Finding a new path to the jungle. (7:02) G...

Today I'm joined by relationship coach and author, Matthew Fray.  Matthew wasn’t always a writer. It all started with a blog post. Matthew wrote one post online about how his wife left him because he left dishes by the sink.   But it wasn’t really about the dishes. Join us today to hear how Matthew leans on the lessons of his own divorce to help others avoid making the same mistakes that he did. ...

I want you to think about the kind of life you're trying to create. What would life be like if you were more compassionate with yourself? Why would you want to let go of ‘perfect’ when society demands that of you?  It’s all about letting go of the pursuit of perfection.  Join me today to hear how all this can help you create a more spacious life.   Here are the highlights: (1:29) Just keep going (...

In this episode, I want to talk about procrastination and how you can feel compassion for yourself for your own avoidance.   So let me ask you, have you recently procrastinated again? Have you wasted time scrolling on your phone? Maybe you've gotten down a rabbit hole on Instagram.   I share my tips on how to end procrastination and become more productive.   Here are the highlights: (3:51) All art...

Today we’re looking at fear of failure and making mistakes. This is a big one. We all hate it. We all try to avoid it.  Recently, failure has become more discussed and socially accepted. We see podcasts and books on the topic, yet we don't feel less cringy when we mess up. So, join me for this episode as I outline my tips on tolerating the fear of failure and making mistakes.    Here are the highl...

Today we’re thinking about performance, pacing, permission and pressure.  Lots of P words.  I like P words.  Ask yourself, why does your productivity and performance fluctuate?  Why do you procrastinate?    Well, join me for today’s episode because I'm bringing you my three tips on sustainable productivity.   Here are the highlights: (1:57) Pressure doesn’t equal productive (4:37) Pacing before bu...

This is the story of my why and my vulnerability. Purpose often comes from a story of pain and today I want to tell you about mine. I hope that the experiences I’ve gone through will remind you that you are not alone! You too can start to live your purpose and start to feel free! Here are the highlights: (02:21) Purposeful work (03:22) The worried well! (03:39) Vitality and joy (03:59) Good girl c...

If you have a strong inner critical voice, then this episode is for you! Sometimes, your inner critic can be full of fear and doubt. It can be angry or subtle, driving a commentary in the back of your mind. In whatever form it takes, the inner critic is difficult to ignore. Today, we'll talk about the forms it takes, why you have it, how it protects you, and what to do about this voice. Here are t...

Welcome to the Pause Purpose Play podcast.  This podcast is for you if you're a high-striving, ambitious working woman. If you want to burn bright without the stress of juggling work with life.  It’s about stepping out of overthinking and embracing imperfection for more fun and freedom.    So, join me to hear my tips on navigating this tricky life using pause, purpose and play.    Here are the hig...

What gets in your way when it comes to implementing change? How does your inner critical voice stop you from improving your life and being kinder to yourself? Today, we're exploring the stories that show up in our minds. Here are the highlights: (02:35) All-or-nothing patterns. (03:27) These stories can be rewritten.  (04:17) Compassion (05:31) Action taking! (09:25) Long lasting change

Today we're talking about difficult conversations in the workplace.  Lots of us have people-pleasing tendencies, and we may not like conflict.  This can make it difficult to set boundaries or say no to things.   Our nervous system can kick in and freak us out.   So today, I'm talking to Louisa Clarke.   She’s guiding us in setting boundaries whilst acting in line with our values.        Here are t...

Why is that you overthink your every decision? You consider every angle, so you end up not taking action? Or you take action only when you have to, to meet a deadline? Maybe you want to dot all the i's and cross all the t's, until it's perfect? What is overthinking costing you, in terms of energy levels and productivity? Could you be spending that time more wisely? Last episode, I mentioned that I...

Do you know anyone in your life that you think could do with being a bit kinder to themselves? Someone who could do with slowing down a bit or maybe not working so hard? Responding to others with compassion can not only help them to feel better, but it also helps us feels better - as doing good, feels good. It can also help us to be more compassionate to ourselves.   In this short solo episode, I...

Change is hard. Have you decided to change any of your habits this year? Want to be healthier in some way, or shave off some of your annoying sides? Well, my friend: If nothing changes, nothing changes.  In this solo episode, I look at how we can change our habits by embracing failure, so make sure you have a pen and paper handy, because I have six tips for changing habits for you at the end.   To...

Can a little pause really make a big difference? What does pausing add to our lives - and why don’t you want to do it? I’ll be discussing this and more with my guest today, Chris Johnson. Chris Johnson, PsyD., is the founder of Q4 Consulting, Inc. and the Core Presence Institute™. Her passion is cultivating exemplary leaders, collaborative teams, healthy workplaces, and thriving communities. In th...

Follow your passion! But do so sustainably, so you're not flirting with burnout. As it is easy to overdo it when you are passionate about making an impact. Too much of a good thing is still too much.  This short solo episode covers: Tips for following your passion sustainably, the importance of downtime for a purposeful life, and how you make wise decisions about protecting your capacity and harne...