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This episode is filled with precious conversations with my son over the years. We dive into important topics from porn all the way to hard conversations regarding the relationships Nathan and I had throughout his life. These are vulnerable moments and used with consent. Let's normalize seeing our kids where they are and meeting them there to grow and learn. I hope this makes someone smile and also...

There are lives that look linear from the outside—one version of a woman, one story, one identity. And then there are lives like mine: built from ashes, rupture, reinvention. This episode is about every version of me that had to die so I could keep going—the girl raised inside fear and control, the survivor, the athlete, the mother, the woman who kept rebuilding after trauma, loss, abuse, heartbre...

Addiction is so much more complicated than people want to admit. It is not always the stereotype people picture—it can look like success, chaos, control, isolation, humor, functioning, denial, or survival. This week we talk about the emotional reality underneath it all: trauma, shame, secrecy, loneliness, relapse, coping, and the ways people try to numb what feels impossible to carry. We also get...

This week we’re diving into the world of sex work and stripping—unpacking the stigma, stereotypes, and endless misconceptions that surround an industry everyone seems to have opinions about but few truly understand. Through three interviews with guests from different perspectives, we explore the realities behind the myths, the sense of community that exists within the industry, and the ways societ...

Romanticizing red flags is basically our brain’s way of turning warning signs into personality traits we think we can “handle.” In this episode, we unpack the behaviors we once excused—emotional unavailability, inconsistency, intensity that felt like passion—and why they can feel so intoxicating in the moment. With humor and a little honesty, we explore the difference between chemistry and chaos,...

Desire is full of contradictions—we crave closeness but fear losing ourselves, want passion but also stability, chase novelty while longing for safety. The very things that attract us can eventually unsettle us: independence can feel like distance, and reliability can feel like boredom. In relationships, this creates a quiet tension where we’re constantly balancing opposing needs, often without re...

Trigger Warning: Emotional, Physical, and Sexual Trauma This week’s episode isn’t exactly “light and breezy,” but we do manage to sprinkle in just enough humor to make the heavy stuff a little more bearable. We’re talking emotional, physical, and sexual trauma—how it shows up, how it sticks around, and how our brains do some truly creative things to try to protect us. It’s honest, a little raw, an...

Early and invisible trauma wounds from our family of origin shape so much of how we move through the world—how we love, how we protect ourselves, how we communicate, and what feels safe or unsafe in relationship. These wounds are often quiet, buried beneath survival patterns we don’t even realize we carry, yet they can show up in our friendships, romantic relationships, parenting, and sense of sel...

Relationships don’t happen in a vacuum—they’re shaped by the systems we grow up in. The patriarchy quietly scripts a lot of our expectations: who leads, who sacrifices, who holds the emotional labor, and whose needs get prioritized. Those patterns show up whether we’re talking about monogamy, polyamory, or friendship dynamics. And layered on top of that is trauma—old wounds that live in our nervou...

In this episode, we dive headfirst into the messy, complicated and sometimes uncomfortable world of love, sex, and relationship styles—from traditional monogamy to polyamory to ethical non-monogamy and everything in between. Nothing is off limits. We question the rules we were all handed about dating, marriage, jealousy, commitment, and whether humans were ever meant to follow just one script.

In this episode, we take on one of the most charged conversations of our time: men and the patriarchy. What does patriarchy actually mean beyond the buzzword? How does it shape men’s identities, relationships, emotional lives, and sense of worth? And who does it ultimately serve — and harm?