Pastors on Porn

The Corona Virus poses not just a major health to our society but a recovery threat to those who already are isolated because of our porn behaviors. The last thing we need is more isolation! In this episode Vern talks about these challenges but also proposes some opportunities that may be in this season as well. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmana...

The Pure Desire podcast is one of those podcasts that has been very helpful to me on my journey away from porn. In this episode we interview the two hosts of the podcasts - Trevor Winsor and Nick Stumbo. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gma...

One of the theological arguments that come up in Christian circles has to do with our identity. Are we fundamentally sinners or saints? Maybe we are both. In this episode Vern explores that questions and explains why it really matters how we examine this question. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place...

Ever had the experiencing of noticing an extremely attractive girl in church? Ever had the experience of this happening while you are preaching! This is one of those true confession episodes that most of us don't like to talk about! I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to...

Have you ever wondered how the need to feel powerful is linked to our pull towards porn. In this episode Vern explore the linkages between the deisre to be powerful and the lure of porn. I (Vern) love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You...

Tony Ingrassia is the podcast host of the Power of Purity podcast. In this episode Vern concludes his discussion with Tony around his recovery journey. I (Vern) love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You can also see some more resources o...

Tony Ingrassia is the podcast host of the Power of Purity podcast. In part one of this episode Vern begins his discussion with Tony around his recovery journey. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You can also see some more resources...

Ever heard of the concept of tipping point? It is a concept where a number of small steps come together and suddenly something more significant happens. In this episode Vern talks about some of the things that contributed to his tipping point in his recovery from embedded porn habits. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If...

You probably are familiar with the term "having an epiphany". On this Ephiphany Sunday Vern shares some of the epiphanies that he has experienced on his recovery journey. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You can also see some more...

Is God angry with me or supremely disappointed because of my struggle with porn? Today's episode is all about God and our struggles, spiritual shame and the posture necessary to find healing in our relationship with God. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandof...

If we are going to last for any amount of time in our pastoral roles we are going to need resilience. In the second part of this topic Vern continues this discusion. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You can also see some more reso...

If we are going to last for any amount of time in our pastoral roles we are going to need resilience. In the first part of this topic Vern shares some thoughts around resilience and how this relates to our recovery journey. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at ban...

A three legged stool is a metaphor often used to descirbe a stable thing - such as a stable ministry. There are actually 3 components to be an effecitve pastor - and our problematic sexual behaviors impede and impair our ability to do them effectively. In this episode Vern explores this in relation to our ability to be a leader of men. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking t...

A three legged stool is a metaphor often used to descirbe a stable thing - such as a stable ministry. There are actually 3 components to be an effecitve pastor - and our problematic sexual behaviors impede and impair our ability to do them effectively. In this episode Vern explores this in relation to our ability to preach and communicate effectively I love to talk to Pastors - especially those wh...

A three legged stool is a metaphor often used to descirbe a stable thing - such as a stable ministry. There are actually 3 components to be an effecitve pastor - and our problematic sexual behaviors impede and impair our ability to do them effectively. In this episode Vern explores this in relation to our ability to be "with" people. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to...

There is a line in an old DC Talk song "what if I stumble, whati if I fail". It is a sobering fear that most sexual strugglers in ministry face. In this episode we talk about that lingering fear. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com Y...

One of the most mis-applied words in Christian-ese - is the word "Accountability". In this episode we talk about how this word is misused and a proper application of the word. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You can also see some...

Why do some people stay mired in their addiction while others find the traction needed to gain momentum in their recovery journey? Episode 6 is all about finding traction in your journey If you want to connect with Vern directly - there is now a new email that will take you directly to him email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you want to check out more about him or the finding traction course g...

What if our brokenness - and in particular our struggle with it - was actually a "gift" to us in terms of potentially being used by God? In this episode we explore that thought. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You can also see so...

One of the most common questions I get asked (by both Pastors and non-pastors) is this one "should Pastors who struggle with Porn leave the ministry?" In this episode we explore that question. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You...

Are there unique reasons as to why Pastors struggle with porn (in the first place) and why they remain in these destructive behaviors. This episode explores those reasons. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You can also see some mor...

I have been a pastor for 30 years. In this story I describe how my life of embedded porn intersected with God's call on my life to live a life of fruitfulness. We all have a story and it gives us a platform to speak into the lifes of others who have struggled in similar ways. Welcome to my story. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual be...

What is Pastors on Porn about - well this first episode outlines the reasons why I started the podcast and who it is aimed to help. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com You can also see some more resources on my website https://bandof...