Parenting With Understanding™ Podcast

In this episode of the Parenting with Understanding podcast, Marcela Collier explains how the childhood wound of injustice can shape parenting patterns and trigger reactivity. She describes how growing up in rigid, high-pressure environments can lead parents to become overly rule-oriented, inflexible, and reactive when their children struggle to meet expectations. Marcela shares how this wound aff...

In this episode of the Parenting with Understanding podcast, Marcela Collier explores the childhood wound of humiliation and how shame-based experiences from childhood can quietly shape the way parents react to their children today. She explains how this wound is created, how it shows up in parenting through embarrassment, harsh correction, and defensiveness, and how parents can begin changing the...

In this episode, Marcela Collier explores the childhood wound of humiliation and how it silently shapes your parenting reactions. She explains how shame, embarrassment, and defensiveness often stem from old wounds — and how awareness and new skills can help you stop passing it on to your children. DM “peace 25” on Instagram to access the free class and learn how to become a secure parent.

In this episode, Marcela Collier introduces the B-E-A-C-E process, a practical framework to help parents calm triggers and manage their children’s emotional responses in a respectful way. Whether you're dealing with reactions during tantrums or stressors caused by trauma, these tools are essential for fostering emotional regulation and security. If you’re ready to stop yelling, stop reacting in an...

In this episode of the Parenting with Understanding podcast, Marcela Collier discusses how to calm children's big emotions without resorting to yelling or punishment. She introduces the concept of behavior levels, explaining how understanding these can help prevent meltdowns. Marcela emphasizes the importance of recognizing early signs of anxiety and defensiveness in children and offers practical...

In this episode of the Parenting with Understanding podcast, Marcela Collier interviews Marco Hansell, a client who transformed his parenting approach from reactive to secure. They discuss the challenges Marco faced, including feeling disconnected from his son and struggling with co-parenting dynamics. Through HIC Parenting, Marco learned emotional regulation, mind sight, and positive discipline,...

In this episode of the Parenting with Understanding podcast, Marcela Collier discusses the importance of repairing relationships with children after moments of reactivity, such as yelling. She emphasizes that meaningful repair can prevent damage to the parent-child relationship and enhance children's self-esteem. Marcela shares insights on how to repair from a place of self-compassion rather than...

Marcela Collier shares tools for instant calm in parenting, focusing on understanding reactivity as an inner world issue. She introduces the Anchor method, emphasizing body awareness, naming emotions, and connecting to sensory tools. The episode highlights the importance of nervous system regulation and offers practical steps for parents to regain calm and presence. If you’re ready to stop yelling...

In this episode, Marcela Collier, head coach of HIC Parenting Education Agency and host of the Parenting with Understanding podcast, explores the root causes of parental yelling and reactivity. She discusses the "fire alarm" and "pressure cooker" reactive cycles, emphasizing the importance of understanding one's relationship with anger. Marcela introduces a four-step system to break free from reac...

In this episode of the Parenting with Understanding podcast, Marcela Collier discusses the challenges and paths to becoming a secure, emotionally regulated parent. She emphasizes that every stage of parenting is difficult and requires choosing the hard path of developing emotional regulation, mindset, and positive discipline skills. Marcela shares a story of a single mom who transformed her parent...

In this episode of the Parenting with Understanding podcast, Marcela Collier discusses the importance of letting go of control in parenting and embracing trust. She shares insights from Dr. Delany, a psychologist and relationship coach, on how trust can lead to a more peaceful parenting experience. Marcela emphasizes the need to trust in our training, our children, their process, and their choices...

In this episode of the Parenting with Understanding podcast, Marcela Collier discusses the transformative power of choosing healing in parenting. She shares personal stories and insights on how unresolved childhood trauma can affect parenting styles and emphasizes the importance of awareness, emotional regulation, and seeking support. Marcela introduces a simple system to help parents break away f...

In this episode of the Parenting with Understanding podcast, Marcela Collier discusses how parents can break the cycle of yelling at their children by practicing mindfulness. She emphasizes the importance of being aware of one's inner voice, challenging critical thoughts, and developing skills like mind sight and emotional regulation. Marcela also shares insights on how curiosity and compassion ca...

In this episode of the Parenting with Understanding podcast, Marcela Collier discusses overcoming parental anxiety by choosing freedom, one of the six daily choices from the book "Building a Non-Anxious Life." She explores how parents can change their relationship with time to reduce anxiety and improve their parenting experience. Marcela shares personal stories and practical tips on creating spac...

In this episode of the Parenting with Understanding podcast, Marcela Collier discusses the importance of choosing connection to build a non-anxious parenting life. She shares personal experiences and insights on overcoming loneliness and societal pressures, emphasizing the need for community and support in parenting. Marcela also introduces Dr. Deloni's six daily choices for a non-anxious life, fo...

In this episode, Marcela Collier discusses how to embrace an anxiety-free parenting life, even if diagnosed with anxiety, ADHD, or autism. She shares insights from Dr. Delonis' book "Building a Non-Anxious Life" and emphasizes the importance of choosing reality and emotional regulation skills. Marcela encourages parents to break away from reactivity and control, and to face reality with acceptance...

In this episode of the Parenting with Understanding podcast, Marcela Collier discusses the hidden alarm of anxiety in parenting and how it affects our ability to parent with peace. She explores the root causes of anxiety, such as limiting beliefs, trauma responses, chronic unmet needs, and lack of boundaries, and offers insights on how to address these issues to create a more peaceful parenting ex...

In this episode, Marcela Collier, a certified parenting coach, shares three essential steps to becoming the best parent for your children. She emphasizes understanding behaviors as communication, combating negative bias, and balancing quality and quantity of time with kids. Marcela also discusses the importance of breaking away from reactivity and offers resources for further support.  If you...

In this episode, Marcela Collier, a certified parenting coach, discusses managing behaviors in traumatized children. She shares insights from her experience in therapeutic foster care and personal trauma, emphasizing the importance of understanding trauma's impact on the brain and the need for relational safety. If you’re ready to stop yelling, stop reacting in anger, and finally feel calm and con...

In this episode of the Parenting with Understanding podcast, Marcela Collier discusses how to handle behaviors in neurodivergent children with care. She emphasizes understanding the purpose behind behaviors and adapting environments to support children's unique needs. If you’re ready to stop yelling, stop reacting in anger, and finally feel calm and confident when your child has a meltdown… this i...

In this episode, Marcela Collier delves into the intricacies of teaching children self-control through emotional intelligence. She shares insights on understanding the root causes of unexplained aggressive behaviors in children and introduces the three pillars of emotional intelligence: body awareness, coping strategies, and emotional vocabulary. Through the story of Darryl, a child struggling wit...

In this episode, Marcela Collier introduces the I.D.E.A Method, a comprehensive strategy to identify and address the needs of children, particularly those who are neurodivergent. Drawing from her extensive experience as a therapeutic provider, Marcela emphasizes the importance of understanding behaviors as expressions of underlying needs rather than problems to be solved superficially. If you’re r...

In this episode of the Parenting with Understanding podcast, Marcela shares her insights on managing intense child meltdowns. Drawing from personal experiences and research, Marcela introduces the concept of "personal attunement" as the key to calming these challenging moments. She emphasizes the importance of prioritizing a child's feelings and sense of safety, addressing underlying causes, and f...

In this episode, Marcela Collier, a certified parenting coach, delves into the four unique differences that influence children's behavior: biological, sensory, emotional, and thought processing. Learn how understanding these differences can help you respond to your child's needs without yelling, and bring peace to your parenting journey. If you’re ready to stop yelling, stop reacting in anger, and...

In this episode, Marcela Collier talks with Christina, a parent who transformed her parenting approach through HIC coaching. Discover how Christina overcame reactivity and anxiety to foster a secure and calm environment for her child. If you want to stop yelling and reacting in anger, and instead become a calm, confident parent who knows exactly how to respond during your child’s chaos… join our F...