Parenting Today's Teens

In today's episode, Mark Gregston dives into some of the toughest questions parents face with their teenagers today. From encouraging faith in a 17-year-old son who resists reading the Bible, to setting boundaries with a 19-year-old daughter living at home and finding the balance when communicating with college-aged children, Mark offers practical advice rooted in real-life experiences. He exp...

Today, Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lafleur explain that effective discipline flows out of a healthy relationship, not anger or authority alone. Parents often lean too far into being either “tough” or “tender,” but teens need a balanced blend of strength, gentleness, listening and compassion. True authority comes from connection, not control, and the goal is to reflect God’s characte...

Mark Gregston shares how unexpected setbacks — including getting fired — became the catalyst for founding Heartlight Ministries and beginning a lifelong “journey to genuineness.” As he reflects on rejection, pride and unresolved personal issues, he encourages parents to consider how their own wounds and blind spots may be influencing their parenting. Mark urges moms and dads of struggling teens to...

Navigating the teen years can sometimes mean facing invisible walls — barriers of isolation, anger or uncertainty about how to let others in. Today, Mark sits down with two young men from Heartlight who share honest accounts of what shut them off from their families and peers. For Harry, the struggle was with isolation and the challenge of making real-world connections after a hard move and ongoin...

Today, join Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lefleur as they discuss setting boundaries for your family. They explain that healthy boundaries start with understanding what each child truly needs and tailoring rules by age, maturity and individual challenges — not just enforcing control for control’s sake. Mark and Courtney emphasize focusing first on relationship, then building clear exp...

Today, Mark Gregston fields real questions from parents grappling with the challenges of guiding older teens toward adulthood. Drawing from decades of experience, he addresses issues such as fostering independence in 17- and 18-year-olds, setting boundaries with troubled teens, navigating the complexities of homeschooling, and providing support for teens with depression and anxiety. Mark offers pr...

Many teens today grow up believing they’re owed privileges and constant attention. Today, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd discuss how this entitlement is fueled by parents doing too much for them. Mark encourages moms and dads to shift the conversation — focusing not on criticizing selfish behavior, but on helping teens grow in independence, responsibility and real-world readiness. By setting new...

Teens today are growing up in a world of online communication, constant negativity and shallow “expert” voices — leaving them hungry for real connection and honest guidance. Mark explains that parents often miss what teens truly want because they react to behavior instead of the deeper needs behind it. The nonstop criticism and shallow praise of social media make teens sensitive to correction and...

Many parents notice their teens acting out — whether through rebellion, risky choices or shutting down — but what’s driving those behaviors is often a deep pain kept out of sight. On today’s episode, Mark Gregston sits down with two Heartlight residents who both reveal how hurts from their past, like adoption struggles, family loss, confusion and unmet expectations, shaped their choices and relati...

Listen in as Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd discuss why teens might “spin out of control." They explain this can happen when they can’t manage life within the boundaries of home, which can lead to disrespect, dishonesty, risky behavior or shutting down emotionally. Mark explains that these patterns are often a cry for help, revealing deeper struggles teens can’t navigate alone. Parents are e...

Today, Mark dives deep into the real-life struggles facing families — from navigating a teen’s anxiety, depression and drug use, to managing explosive anger and the challenges of motivating older teens to take responsibility. Mark also shares some insights for parents of special needs children and discusses the importance of adapting parenting styles as culture rapidly shifts. Whether you’re seeki...

Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney LaFleur unpack why gratitude can be difficult for teens, especially during the holidays when entitlement and cultural pressure rise. They explain that real thankfulness grows over time through modeling, conversations, boundaries, and opportunities to work and give. Building a thankful heart takes patience, but it strengthens teens and prepares them for ad...

Join Mark Gregston for a devotional from Joel 1:3 as he explains why teens need wisdom, not just information. Through Scripture and a personal story, Mark shows how young people crave meaningful guidance over quick answers or disconnected facts. He encourages parents and grandparents to share their own experiences, speak truth in love and engage in intentional conversations. When adults lead with...

When teens act out, it’s often a sign of much deeper issues at play. In today’s episode, Mark Gregston chats with two more Heartlight teens, including Daniel, a student who shares his journey from spiraling into drugs and depression to finding hope and healing. Daniel opens up about the pressures at home, the struggle to escape overwhelming feelings through getting high and the long road to reconn...

Today, Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lafleur discuss how listening is one of the most powerful ways parents can build connection with their teens. Many families struggle with communication because parents talk more than they listen — often teaching, correcting or giving opinions instead of asking thoughtful questions. Teens who don’t feel heard will seek that attention elsewhere, so p...

In today’s episode, Mark dives into some of the toughest and most relatable dilemmas families face: transitioning your parenting style as teens leave for college, navigating disagreements with your spouse over parenting strategies and the complexities around busy teen schedules. He also tackles challenging topics like helping teens through the aftermath of divorce and understanding — and celebrati...

Adopted kids often enter adolescence with deep questions about identity, belonging and why they were given up — even if they cannot consciously remember the trauma. As they shift from concrete to abstract thinking in their teen years, feelings of loss, abandonment and being “different” can surface more strongly. Parents can help by listening without judgment, talking openly about feelings, staying...

Today, Mark shares how perfectionism in ministry once nearly burned him out — and how many parents unknowingly pass that same pressure onto their teens. What parents intend as encouragement is often interpreted by teens as never being “good enough.” Instead, he urges parents to model honesty, grace and vulnerability — reminding kids that only Jesus is perfect. Strong relationships, not seeking per...

Many families wrestle with discipline, hoping rules will keep their teens on track — but sometimes, those boundaries end up building walls instead of bridges. On today’s show, Mark sits down with two Heartlight teens who share honest reflections on the struggles that come when discipline overshadows relationship. For Austin, creative discipline systems left him angry and distant from his family. B...

Listen as Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lafleur discuss the benefits of Heartlight and the program's relational approach to residential counseling. Heartlight is designed to help teens change from the inside out. Mark and Courtney describe how true transformation happens through trust, restored relationships, consistent presence and addressing the heart issues beneath behavior — n...

In today's episode, Mark Gregston dives into listener questions about navigating consequences, teen privacy, anxiety, complex faith and identity issues, and the challenges of connecting with teens who shut down. Through the lens of adolescent development, Mark addresses how parents can become part of the solution — rethinking their own responses while helping teens learn to make wiser choices....

Teens have always sought attention, but today’s social media culture amplifies it — often leading to risky or inappropriate behavior when their emotional needs go unmet at home. Mark Gregston urges parents to look beyond the surface and understand the motivation behind their teen’s actions, offering connection rather than constant correction. By setting healthy boundaries, rewarding positive behav...

Listen today as Mark Gregston reflects on a listener’s concern that his ministry doesn’t mention Jesus often enough, using it as a reminder that faith should be lived out, not just spoken. He points to 1 John 3:18, emphasizing that what we do speaks louder than what we say. Mark cautions parents against being overly critical, reminding them that even well-intentioned words can damage relationships...

When life gets tough, teens often find themselves searching for answers in the middle of their struggles — but sometimes, clarity takes time and patience. In today’s show, Mark sits down with two young men from Heartlight who open up about how their pain — whether it’s broken relationships, anger or loss — has shaped their journey. One teen, Malcolm, reveals how his parents’ divorce left him feeli...

Today, Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney LaFleur discuss the difficult but essential topic of teens’ exposure to pornography. They emphasize that nearly all teens — boys and girls — will encounter it due to its widespread availability online, making open, shame-free conversations at home vital. Curiosity is often the first motivator, but ongoing exposure can distort a teen’s understanding...