Parenting Today's Teens

Teen grief isn't solely about losing loved ones. Divorce, break-ups and fading dreams can also create emotional wounds. In this episode, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd tackle the often-overlooked topic of teen grief. Drawing from Mark's extensive experience at Heartlight, they delve into the various types of grief teens may encounter, and discuss practical ways to help your teen process...

In today’s episode, Mark Gregston dives deep into the challenge of teen anxiety, sparked by a heartfelt question from a brave high school senior named Cheyenne. He discusses the root causes of anxiety in teens and provides 11 actionable steps to help combat it. From building strong friendships to finding ways to laugh more, these insights aim to empower both teens and their parents. Listen now! Ha...

Modern teens may seem endlessly connected through social media, but these aren't the deep connections that matter. True connection requires meaningful engagement. In today’s episode, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd tackle the challenges parents face in connecting with their teens amid cultural confusion and digital distractions. They discuss the importance of genuine connection, the art of as...

Teens might mask their pain with anger, humor or avoidance. Often, their seemingly rebellious acts are cries for help and understanding — but it's up to parents to hear those cries. In this episode, Mark talks about the complexities of understanding teen behavior beyond its surface manifestations. By sharing a personal story, Mark illustrates the importance of recognizing the underlying emotio...

Behind every addiction lies a root cause — for many of our teens, drugs offer an "escape" or a way to feel like they're taking back control from their parents. In today's episode, Mark speaks with two more Heartlight teens, including a young man who opens up about his battle with drug addiction, the challenges of intensive outpatient programs and finding a healthier path to sobriet...

Do you have an older teen who seems WAY too comfortable at home? Not every teen needs to move out at 18, but they should be looking ahead to the future. In today's show, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd tackle the increasingly common issue of teens who struggle with the transition to adulthood, often referred to as a "failure to launch." They discuss the importance of setting expectati...

In today’s episode, Mark Gregston answers a range of questions sent in by parents seeking biblical wisdom and actionable strategies in regard to raising their teens. From handling habitual lying to finding ways to connect with a distant daughter, he offers practical advice rooted in both experience and empathy. Mark also addresses more complex issues, such as dealing with a 22-year-old who's s...

When parents separate, kids suffer. It may seem obvious, but we often underestimate the depth of that suffering. In today’s episode, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd lay bare the challenges teens face, from feelings of abandonment to the struggle with self-worth, and offer practical advice to parents on how to mitigate these effects. Whether you're navigating a current divorce or dealing with...

Our teens are wrestling with the pressures of their world. They don't need more “you should do this” lectures — they need your listening ears and sometimes, just your silent support. In today's episode, Mark talks about the importance of understanding the changing dynamics in your child's life and the critical need for parents to offer support and compassion rather than judgment and cr...

Assuming we know all the challenges in our teens' lives can be a big mistake — many teens WANT to talk to their parents, but don't feel like there's an open door for dialogue. In this episode, Mark sits down with two Heartlight teens whose stories stress the significance of creating an environment where kids feel loved and valued. Mandy, a 15-year-old, opens up about the challenges she...

What do you REALLY want for your kids? It’s about more than clean rooms and not driving fast. As parents, we should also be focused on helping them develop a good, godly character. In today's show, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd delve into the essential character qualities parents should aim to instill in their teenagers. From fostering competence and discernment to cultivating compassion, c...

In today’s episode, Mark Gregston discusses the critical balance between loving your child unconditionally while setting firm boundaries, the importance of allowing adolescents to take control of their lives, and why parents need to shift from a purely instructional role to one that promotes independence and responsibility. He also touches on navigating tough conversations about dating, privacy an...

Ever wonder what kind of legacy you'll leave for your grandchildren? It should run deeper than pie recipes and family traditions; It's about the love, wisdom and memories you create together. In today’s episode, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd discuss the importance of engaging with teenage grandkids in a way that demonstrates love, support, and wisdom, even when faced with generational d...

Teens hear people's opinions all day long, but what they truly need is your perspective, shaped by the lessons you've learned throughout your life. In this episode, Mark explains the differences between giving an opinion versus a perspective. By comparing his struggles to those of others, he also underscores how a shift in perspective can cultivate gratefulness and resilience, even in the...

No matter how happy or outgoing a teen may seem, appearances aren't everything. It's important to recognize the signs of a teen who's quietly struggling with their mental health. In today's episode, Mark chats with two more teens from Heartlight who reflect on the internal struggles they face. Sixteen-year-old Carson opens up about his battle with depression, feelings of being a bu...

Struggling with giving effective feedback to your teen without causing friction at home? In today's show, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd tackle the delicate art of correcting teens. They emphasize the need for timing, intentionality and the right motives while offering constructive criticism. Mark shares practical tips on how to make corrections without overwhelming teens, ensuring that home...

In today’s episode, Mark Gregston addresses some tough questions posed by a parent dealing with a 15-year-old son facing numerous behavioral and emotional challenges. Mark emphasizes the importance of establishing clear boundaries, effective consequences and fostering a relational atmosphere in the home. He also discusses the critical role of counseling and how to assess its impact. Drawing from r...

Parenting isn't just about setting rules; it's about defining the limits that help parents and teens understand who they are, what they stand for and how they relate to each other. In today’s episode, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd explore how setting boundaries differs from imposing rules and why they are essential for both parents and teens. They share practical steps on how to set cle...

Have you noticed your teen glued to their phone screen for hours? You're definitely not alone. In today's show, Mark looks at the profound effects that smartphones and social media have on the mental, social and emotional well-being of today's teens. He explores how the migration from face-to-face interactions to virtual ones has led to increased anxiety, depression and social isolatio...

Many of the teens at Heartlight arrive after hitting the lowest point in their lives — but it's only at that point when they accept that something needs to change. In today's show, Mark sits down with two older teens who've struggled through trauma, addiction and being arrested before coming to the boarding school. Molly recounts her childhood marred by family dysfunction and personal...

Our approach to parenting must shift as our kids’ world changes — which means we have to recognize the complex issues our pre-teens are being faced with. In this episode, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd dive into the crucial subject of instilling responsibility in tweens — children ages 9-12 — who are navigating a world filled with unprecedented pressures and influences. From taking care of pets...

In today’s episode, Mark Gregston tackles tough questions and real-life scenarios sent in by concerned parents. Topics range from addressing LGBTQ matters and therian identity to dealing with troubled and rebellious teens, the impacts of social media influence and the delicate dynamics of co-parenting post-divorce. He also provides practical advice on runaway adopted children, the pros and cons of...

Do you ever find yourself questioning whether your current parenting tactics are effective? On today’s episode, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd challenge parents to rethink their traditional methods and provide practical advice on how to shift from old habits to more successful strategies. They discuss the importance of stopping behaviors like constant lecturing, worrying and reacting, and advoca...

Teens live in a world bombarded by celebrity scandals and news about flawed leaders, which often means they easily lose respect for authority figures. In this episode, Mark delves into the challenges of parenting in a world overflowing with information, and focuses on the erosion of respect in teens as they navigate the complexities — and disappointments — of the world around them. He also offers...

Today's teens have grown up with instant access to the internet, social media and the ability to talk to their friends whenever they want. It can be a wonderful thing — but it can also be very unhealthy when taken to extremes. In today's show, Mark chats with two more Heartlight teens, including Mackenzie, who opens up about her struggles with anger and the impact of technology on her rela...