Parenting The Adlerian Way

Q1. 9yr old son is not trying and his confidence is dwindling. Q2. 14yr old son with type1 diabetes is too lazy to take his insulin at school.  Looking for more Adlerian wisdom? Check out The Daily Adler Newsletter and The Daily Adler Podcast.   If you have a question you’d like answered on a future podcast, email me at hello@alysonschafer.com   Check out more free parenting advice...

Dr. Amanda Craig is the author of “Who Are You And What Have You Done With My Kid?: Connect With Your Tween While They Are Still Listening”. In this episode, Dr Craig defines what the tween years are, what is happening developmentally and how to maximize the parenting opportunities during this unique period. She also discusses the important four pillars of your parenting to focus on and methods to...

Amy Yip is the author of “Unfinished Business” and in this interview we talk about her personal journey of being a child of immigrant parents and how that experience impacted her life. She discusses how she took charge of the process of changing the relationship with her parents and how that informs her parenting today. For anyone dealing with wounded relationships with their parents, or who wants...

Q1. 10yr old son having difficulty with change (new items in home). Plus, my thoughts on under- and over-functioning parenting. Looking for more Adlerian wisdom? Check out The Daily Adler Newsletter and The Daily Adler Podcast.   If you have a question you’d like answered on a future podcast, email me at hello@alysonschafer.com   Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.aly...

Jenna Hermans has used her own extensive training and personal parenting experience to write a book for overwhelmed parents. In this podcast Jenna shares her story and gives us the highlights of the 5 tips we should all incorporate into our family lives for more calm in 2024.  Links mentioned in the show:  On IG @Jennazhermans Website https://jennahermans.com   Buy her book at a loc...

Dr Marina Bluvshtein is a renowned researcher and archivist of Adler’s life. She shares how the events of his life shaped the development of his theory we know as Individual Psychology. In this conversation, Marina shares Adler’s own parenting journey and how his theory, and that of Rudolf Dreikurs, came together to still be an evolving, optimistic parenting model.   Links mentioned in t...

Q1. 6 year old hits and gets angry when he doesn’t get his way Q2. 7 year old tells “creative stories” about how his day was (aka lying).  Q3. 2.5 year old is defiant with screaming fits esp on waking in the night. Looking for more Adlerian wisdom? Check out The Daily Adler Newsletter and The Daily Adler Podcast.   If you have a question you’d like answered on a future podcast, email me...

The Adlerian father/daughter duo Ted Wohlfarth and Marjie Longshore talk about their impressive work in using games and play to create unique experiences for developing the skills and felt experiences needed to help build peaceful, win-win relationships. You’ll hear how their game methods and unique scoring system can be useful at home, in the classroom, the workplace and indeed anywhere people ga...

How much do you know about AI? Are you prepared to talk to your kids about it? How will it impact them? How do you respond when the school emails you to share that your child plagiarized a paper using AI? Thankfully, Adlerian Valerie Tih of JoyFULL Coaching has the answer parents are looking for!   FREE Download: Top 10 Tips for Navigating AI with your Child https://mailchi.mp/a04b5ed1d5...

Q1. Kindergartener doesn’t want to go to school and explodes. Q2. Even with all the Adlerian approaches, 10 and 12 yr old sisters still fight. Looking for more Adlerian wisdom? Check out The Daily Adler Newsletter and The Daily Adler Podcast.   If you have a question you’d like answered on a future podcast, email me at hello@alysonschafer.com   Check out more free parenting advice on my...

I am excited to share my conversation with two-time Fulbright Scholar Sam Young M.Ed., a neurodivergent educator, as we discussed issues such as masking, the pitfalls of deficiency models and the importance of strength-based talent development.  In the podcast Sam mentioned the great Sir Kenneth Robinson TED Talk, “Do schools kill creativity?” so I am including that link here: https://youtu.b...

Always fantastic to interview my fellow Adlerians who are creating important curriculum for the public. In this episode, I talk to Morgan Crew who is a single mother of two (ages 17 and 20), a registered nurse as well as a registered psychotherapist and mental health educator. She has created a program to help teach mental health skills in an upstream manner, rather than waiting for a crisis. It’s...

Q1. 10yr old daughter claims she forgets everything and I have to remind constantly.  Q2. 16yr old is skipping 3-4 classes a week and I worry about her marks. If you have a question for me – email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com   Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com   Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “H...

What does it mean to be a “good parent” by today’s northern hemisphere, privileged standards?  Good grades, good jobs, good car, and house. What if that is all wrong? What if that is actually contributing to the downfall of civilization?  Dr Elizabeth Cripps, a parent herself, applied her educational training in philosophy to try to answer how we solve global problems like climate change...

Every parent needs to be aware of the possibility that their child may have an intimate photo being distributed without their consent, and the harmful effects this causes. In this episode, I talk with British Columbia’s Attorney General, Niki Sharma, to discuss the alarming rise in sexploitation and the work she has done in B.C. to protect the rights of victims of sexual violence. Minister Sharma...

Q1. Help with sleep training a 20 month old the Adlerian way Q2. Help with fostering independence in a 13 year old Looking for more Adlerian Wisdom? Check out The Daily Adler Newsletter and The Daily Adler Podcast.   If you have a question you’d like answered on a future podcast, email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com   Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.c...

Author and journalist Jennifer Wallace discusses the research and findings that lead to the writing of her amazing book, titled above. We discuss what conditions have created this problem, how it’s affecting both our parenting and our children…  and most importantly; what we can do about it.   You can find Jennifer’s website here Her book can be ordered here: Check out “The Matterin...

Maya Payne Smart has a mission to help parents nurture, teach and advocate for children getting on the road to reading. We discuss her book “Reading For Our Lives” and why it has such a gripping title of urgency. She also spells out an action plan from birth to six on ways parents can foster literacy. In this episode we learn what the research shows about best practices and how “laps over apps” is...

This is one of my longer podcasts because I was intrigued with the compelling content of the discussion I had with Stéphane Deschênes, founder of the Bare Oaks Family Naturist Park and President of the International Naturist Federation. I caught up with him in Paris, France.   I learned more about the motivation behind living as naturist. Turns out it holds many Adlerian principles at it...

Q1. Discovered my 13yr old is texting with a girl who says she is cutting.   Q2. Stepmom of 10yr old looking for support for dealing with parental alienation. Q3. Do you have a podcast with the whole parenting theory?  Q4. Nanny of 2yr old & 3 mo old asks how to help Dad who is now losing sleep as the once trained 2 year old is waking again in the night. Q4. Nanny of 2 yr old as...

In this episode I talk to Rachael Katz, author of the book “The Emotionally Intelligent Child”. We discuss the importance of understanding the developmental continuum our children are on as they learn social and emotional intelligence, as well as activities to help them develop in these areas. Rachael introduces her MIND framework, which stands for Mindfulness, Inquiry, Non-Judgmental, Decide as t...

Psychologist Dr Vanessa Lapointe discusses the recent stats on the negative effects of social media on our youth’s mental health. We also discuss the film “The Cost Of Beauty” - a 3 minute heart-wrencher of a documentary about a mother and daughter ‘s journey of how social media created a deadly eating disorder. Dr Lapointe discusses Dove’s Self Esteem Project and their latest project to encourage...

Sue Groner is a certified Positive Discipline parent educator and the author of “Parenting with Sanity & Joy: 101 Simple Strategies”, as well as creator of the CLEARR™ method of parenting. In this episode, Sue talks about her parenting model and also gives very clear examples for screen time, school lunches, clean rooms, healthy eating and more.   Parents can visit her website to rec...

Q1. Daughter talks like a “mean girl” to her sister. Will she talk to everyone like that?  In this episode I also discuss a common parenting trend I see: The gridlock between parent and teen as the parent says “why should I do something nice for you when you are being so rude and irresponsible” and the child is thinking “why would I want to be nice and co-operate with you when you are so mean...

As a childhood survivor of cancer, Dr Kelly Fradin grew up to become a pediatrician dedicated to helping children with complex medical conditions. She has been helping parents navigate the challenges that arise once you get a diagnosis for a child. We talk about how to find good information and support, about how this impacts the marriage and siblings, how to find the joy on the journey and much m...