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Moving from head to heart can be challenging since as children we construct barriers to protect core vulnerabilities. Our children awaken the heart and the opportunity is to turn back reclaiming the precious part of your being. Happily Family Conference: https://conference.happilyfamily.com/?orid=47949&opid=21

Often in parenting we run into the belief that if we can fix everything our kids will turn out perfect. Remembering, our kids are not broken, just messy little humans, can lead us back to the ever present happiness in the moment. https://conference.happilyfamily.com/?orid=47949&opid=21

We all want to be more conscious in our parenting and yet during times of stress we can end up regressing into old behaviors of blaming and complaining about our children. Learn how to work with yourself and your child when regressive behavior shows up in your home.

Growing ourselves  up and taking responsibility for being the adult in our relationship with our child creates emotional safety. Find out what it looks like to step up, opening to your vulnerability while learning to SafeSeat. 

When does caring for yourself cross the line into self-indulgence? You might be surprised by the answer to this question from the Purejoy view.

Finding the courage to step out of your agenda which is all about you, offers a glimpse of an open space in which curiosity awakens.

Ever wake up feeling fine and the minute you walk into your child's room, and they are in a bad mood you get stressed? You caught the "feelings" hot potato.

Nick and Remy sought me out determined to find a way to connect with their teen in a loving way. Their traditional methods were driving a wedge between them and their daughter. As they turned back in focusing on relationship they courageously took responsibility for their part in the dynamic reconnecting with their daughter in a powerful way. 

Nina joins me to share how trapped she felt by her son's needs. As she began to understand how to set healthy personal boundaries she began to honor herself and miraculously it made room for her son to show up in a new way.

Maryrose shares how she began to recognize her repressed material as it began to awaken in her relationship with her child. Especially in public, she was surprised by her reactions and slowly began to turn inside to attend to her intense feelings. Being a people pleaser she began to see how she oriented towards other adults perceptions instead of showing up for her son.

Kate found herself challenged by her precocious son and perceived him as the enemy. She found herself conflicted between wanting to raise her son to be strong and stand up for himself and yet not to her. Listen in as she talks about making room for mistakes in her parenting.

Gillian worked hard to create a conscious loving environment for her girls to thrive and yet her fear of letting go of control was overwhelming. As she began to meet her fear with kindness her relationship with her daughters began to shift in magical ways.

Nisansala was raised in a more traditional authoritarian home so she found herself falling into old familiar patterns in her parenting which reminded her of early childhood. In her desire to be more conscious she found herself challenging her background and finding out her feelings were ok and not something to repress and keep inside. 

Sonali tried every technique she could to get her sons aggressive behavior in check and yet it always failed. Join us to hear her quest to find a way to connect with her son which led her to a surprising connection with herself.

Listen in as Teresa shares her challenging journey of understanding and taking responsibility for her part in the dynamic with her children. When their behavior crossed the line she found all her traditional parenting techniques flew out the window and the only way through was to turn inside putting her oxygen mask on first. 

Robin had a HUGE fantasy she could change her history by being a conscious loving mom.  What she didn't expect were the intense feelings which arose when her son wouldn't conform. Little did she know she would be looking in the mirror and facing into her early childhood and all the behaviors which triggered her early pain.  

Robyn wanted to be a mom as young as a teen and found her way to be one through adopting her son as a single mom. As she faced into the loss of her fantasy of everything being lollipops and unicorns she learned to navigate through a rocky terrain as she had to face into her own trauma which was triggered by her sons.

No matter what Lisa did to "fix" the problem of her daughter's sensitivity it only got worse.  When she felt responsible for her daughter's experience she beat herself up for not being able to hear her cry.  Listen in as she shares her experience of slowly beginning to hear the call of her hidden sensitivity, rocking her world and the way she parents.  

In this episode, Mei shares how challenging her early childhood was being raised in a traditional punitive home. Even though she had a desire to create a safe home for her son to express his feelings she found herself acting out her early strategies of control and punishment.

Olivia had learned about attachment parenting and done a lot of therapy and wanted to give her children the "perfect" secure attachment.  What she didn't expect was to feel so angry and reactive instead of loving and kind. 

Amy Beth shares her journey of becoming a first time mom at 46 years old raising her daughter on her own.  As she faced into the lonliness and challenge of doing it alone she just wanted to get it "right" which led her to try and change her daughter's behavior so she could feel OK.

Angelina shares her powerful story of opening to how much fear and judgment she had about screwing up her kids.  The more she tried to control her son the angrier he became and began to act out aggressively towards everyone in the family.  As she began to find a refuge where she could SafeSeat, compassion and love became her friend.  

Lindsey shares her raw journey of how her perfectionism was not working for anyone in her family.  Listen in as she faces her fear of being a failure and begins to learn to offer unconditional kindness to her old conditioning around parenting

Chris shares her struggle in parenting her son when he began resisting turning in his homework.  The more she wanted to FIX the problem the worse it got.  As she slowly began to get curious about what feelings were arising in her and shifted her focus off the homework and back into connection things began to shift. Listen in as she shares how turning inward and shifting her perspective helped her...

Vanessa opens up about how challenging it's been parenting twins as a single mom.  The more she tried to control them to feel like a good mom the worse their behavior became.  Once she was able to open the door to offering herself kindness things began to miraculously change.