Parenting Beyond Discipline

A listener wants to know if it's OK to always pick up a fussy, needy toddler who always wants to be held? Will this responsiveness perpetuate more neediness and get in the way of building independence? Another mom wants to know how to handle a particular attention-seeking behavior in her toddler once and for all that has waxed and waned for over a year. Support this podcast at — https://redcir...

It's easy to get overwhelmed in the day-to-day. Pretty soon you're flying by the seat of your pants and can't seem to get your feet under you. How do you switch focus from constantly putting out fires to parenting with more intention? Then sometimes parenting in the short-term is just what the doctor ordered! How do we balance these two? In this episode I cover how to balance short and...

Toddlerhood is the first big push for independence and with that often comes defiance. How do we support independence while also setting healthy boundaries? One mom asks for some guidance on dealing with her toddler's defiance, while another asks about how to deal with her toddler's aggression in the form of pinching. Listen to learn how to deal with these two common toddler behaviors! Sup...

AI is a fast developing area of technology that will soon touch almost every aspect of our lives. What do our kids need to know to leverage AI for success and not get left behind? AI can do a lot and will take over in many areas. But there are many things it cannot do as well as humans. Those who have the skills will poised to benefit greatly from the AI revolution. This episode covers what AI is,...

Kids will refuse to do all kinds of things we ask of them, greeting others is only one of many! How do we first get to the reason and then guide based on both their feelings and level of comfort and our expectations for politeness or independence (depending on the situation?) Having expectations for behavior is good, but it can also be a fine line to walk, especially in some situations (such as gr...

Discord between siblings is normal. But what do you do when it escalates to aggression or a level of conflict that is out of alignment with your family values? In this episode, I answer a question from a mom of toddlers about what's going on between her toddler and preschooler, why the behavior is happening, and how to fix it so everyone can feel safe and supported at home during their indepen...

In last of this 3 part series, Erin dives deeper with examples and communication strategies that align with the goals of meeting children's needs for safety/security, and love and connection when dealing with adult issues that you may or may not decide to share with your children such as severe illness and death, adult relationship tension/strain, financial strain or other adult issues that a...

In this episode, Erin dives deeper with examples and communication strategies that align with the goals of meeting children's needs for love and connection and a strong sense of self/self-esteem when dealing with common issues such as lying and teaching apologies and empathy. The tactics illustrate exactly how to approach these types of concerns, what is happening in kids' minds when they...

In this eye-opening episode, host Erin Royer offers wisdom to parents grappling with day-to-day struggles of parenting and/or deeper family difficulties. Understanding the delicacy of discussing such matters with children, Erin illuminates the path with child development insights and the 5 tiers of human needs, ensuring conversations are age-appropriate and nurturing. This episode is a guiding lig...

Everyone has their own unique blend of strengths and challenges. Giving kids opportunities to work on strengths is easy. But knowing how to guide and help them improve on areas where they struggle is not always so easy. Whether it's working through big emotions, giving up too easily, academics, taking responsibility or anything else, you will gain valuable insights into how to guide your child...

I hate to see anyone, but especially caring parents, preyed upon by unscrupulous advertisers. I got ads for two products making some really bold promises to turn difficult parenting challenges into a breeze. I share these in this episode, the promises these companies make, why they are not legitimate and how to accomplish these two goals with actionable steps that are based in solid child developm...

A mom wants to know how to help her son fix his bully situation. Should she/dad step in? Or is there a way to empower her son to handle it on his own and let them know he won't be a victim? It's often hard to know when we are overstepping and taking away an opportunity for our child to handle situations for themselves and when it's a good idea to step in and guide in a bigger way. I gi...

Confidence is one of the biggest components of success in any endeavor. Parenting will throw so many challenges your way, how can you find and keep your confidence in your parenting? In this episode I share my journey in finding my confidence and how I get it back when a new challenge rocks my confidence in my parenting. I cover 3 examples of less common challenges I have faced and how to deal wit...

Have you ever been to a gathering or a play date where you notice a child going above and beyond? The child is polite, thoughtful, and helpful and you wonder what the secret is? Do you want to make sure you are raising your kids with these values too? I have had these experiences and wanted to make sure my kids were the ones pitching in, inquiring how they can help, and using their best manners. I...

You hear it all the time, "Kids will test your boundaries." "He's testing me!" "It's normal for kids to test the boundaries." In this episode, I cover testing from all different angles and scenarios and offer insight into what's happening and how to approach it so it doesn't turn into a battle of wills. I cover boundary testing, resistance, and lying. Suppor...

I took the highlights from 3 of my favorite parenting resolutions episodes to give you tips to get 2024 off to a great start! Learn tips for staying calm, gaining control of the chaos, and making lasting changes. Then Katy Joy Wells shares some very insightful tips for decluttering, getting kids engaged in clean-up, and playing with their toys longer! Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.co...

Holidays are often stressful, but throw a kid or two (or more!) into the mix and it can be downright insane! Whether you are new to parenting and it's your first holiday with a baby, or you have older kids, it's more people, more schedules, more presents, more needs to manage. Schedules get off, our diet gets off, travel, hosting, and packing in the holiday experiences all add to the fun b...

It's heartbreaking as a parent when you hear your child say kids are being mean at school or that they have no friends. A mom wrote in for guidance on how to help her 5-year-old daughter navigate these tricky waters of social connections at school. Erin covers 3 key areas where parents can coach and prepare kids, and when and how to step in to improve your child's social experiences at sch...

Erin gives guidance along with some very specific tips to a mom struggling with her 8-year-old's rude and disrespectful behavior. Fixing our patterns of relating can be challenging, but these tips give clear direction and insight into how to tackle this common problem. Also, there are some big, exciting changes in the pipeline that Erin can't wait to reveal! Follow on Instagram at yourvill...

Kids don't need perfect parents. We all make mistakes. We will all act before we think sometimes. It's OK. I messed up this week. I didn't show up as the best version of myself for my daughter when she was looking to me for support. It's a perfect example of how we are all human and have human moments. I share this experience with you and how I re-connected with her after I realize...

We wish we could help our children make better decisions, or even make them for them sometimes! Where do we have control in parenting and where don't we? How can influence our children's decisions in areas where we don't have the control over those decisions? Tune in to find out! Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/parenting-beyond-discipline/exclusive-content Advertising I...

At some point, our children will encounter adult authority figures whose way of teaching, guiding, and interacting is more harmful than helpful, How do we know when the way that someone regularly interacts with our child is potentially harmful to their self-esteem, mindset, and/or mental well-being? When is it just constructive criticism and guidance versus language that is potentially detrimental...

It seems like another approach to parenting gets introduced every year! How can we keep them all straight? How do we know which one/ones or mix is best for our family? The approach of conscious parenting has been around for almost 15 years but has grown in popularity over that time. What is it exactly? Is it different from any of the other approaches? In this episode, I cover the basic ideals behi...

A disrespectful exchange from your child can often spiral to a battle of wills and a cycle of setting a respectful boundary vs. even bigger attitude from the youngster! How do break this? In this episode, I cover 5 simple strategies you can use to break this cycle of disrespect. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/parenting-beyond-discipline/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: htt...

Competition is a part of everyday life, whether we like it or not. How do we foster a healthy sense of competition, help our kids see and understand where they excel and don't, and how to have a healthy approach and attitude towards self-improvement no matter where they fall? This episode covers all of this and the natural development of competition by age. Support this podcast at — https://re...