Own Your Revival

Before you update your profile or download the app, there may be a quieter first step. In this episode of the "Before You Date Again" series, I share a personal practice that brought surprising clarity before I opened my heart to someone new. We'll talk about unfinished attachments, nostalgia, integrity, and why discernment requires more than chemistry. If you're standing at the edge of dating aga...

Dating again after divorce can stir up hope, fear, and a quiet sense of urgency—especially for people of faith who want to move forward with integrity and peace. In this episode, we slow the conversation down and talk about why healing has to come first, including the often-avoided annulment process, and how clarity—not rushing—creates the conditions for real discernment. This is a gentle, honest...

If you've been spinning your wheels, feeling foggy, or noticing that even small things take more effort than they should, this episode meets you right there. We talk about what it's like to push without traction, why forcing yourself forward often backfires, and what changes when you stop demanding answers and start paying attention to what your system actually needs. This is a quiet, grounding co...

This episode was originally recorded at the start of 2024 , and I'm re-sharing it here because its message remains deeply relevant as we move out of the Christmas season and into a new calendar year. If you want to begin the year grounded, peaceful, and spiritually attuned — without rushing past the graces of the holidays — this episode is your reset. In this reflection, I walk you through four pr...

Most people wait until January to reflect — and then wonder why they feel rushed or behind before the year even begins. In this solo episode, I walk you through how to close out your year early so you enter January supported, peaceful, and spiritually grounded. You'll learn: the "fiscal year" mindset that changed how I plan how to build a rhythm of reflection that reveals God's grace the video div...

Many women wrestle with the same question:  Is what I'm feeling a spiritual issue, or is it trauma? Therapist Ashley Montag, MS, LIMHP, LMFT brings clarity and compassion to this often confusing experience. Inside this episode: • how trauma lives in the body (even when your faith is strong) • why forgiveness does not require reconciliation • why "trying harder" doesn't heal trauma • how to move to...

The holiday season can bring joy — but it can also stir memories, emotional triggers, and complicated family dynamics. In this conversation with Mackenzie Reed, LPC , we explore how to navigate the holidays with gentleness, self-awareness, and realistic expectations. We discuss: • why the holidays often intensify emotional responses • how to prepare your nervous system for difficult gatherings • p...

If you've ever walked into a holiday week carrying a mix of gratitude, grief, old wounds, big emotions, or the pressure to hold everything together, this episode will feel like a steadying breath. I'm sharing a simple idea from The Gap and the Gain that arrived at exactly the right moment—plus how it unexpectedly connected back to Episode #20 of this podcast, where I talked about taking an invento...

If you've ever found yourself rushing a relationship, confusing intensity with intimacy, or trying to make something "work" through sheer effort, this episode will feel like a deep exhale. We're exploring what healthy foundations in love actually look like, why certain relationships collapse under their own weight, and how the Four Loves described by C.S. Lewis reveal the missing pieces many of us...

There's a kind of boundary that doesn't require a raised voice or a long explanation — it's the quiet no that changes everything. In this episode, we explore what it looks like to step back, regroup, and let the line you've drawn do its work. Through the story of a woman learning to pause instead of react, you'll hear how old patterns can hijack your peace — and how to reclaim it by shifting from...

We all carry the quiet pressure to get it right — in our faith, in our relationships, in the way we show up every day. And when we fall short, it can feel like failure is permanent, like we're defined by our mistakes. But what if holiness isn't about perfection at all? In this episode, we explore a new way of living faithful and free — one where grace meets us in the mess, mistakes become opportun...

Sometimes life places us in seasons we never chose—when a marriage ends, the kids grow up, or the future we imagined feels uncertain. It's easy to get caught up in wondering what comes next or how to fix it. But what if the real invitation is to notice what's here right now —to pay attention to your own heart, your longings, and the ways God is shaping you in the present? In this episode, we refle...

Are your days packed to the brim, yet you still feel like you're falling short in your relationships? In this episode, we uncover the hidden pattern that keeps many of us overcommitted, exhausted, and emotionally unavailable. We explore why saying yes all the time can silently sabotage connection, and how a simple shift in perspective can create space for love to truly flourish. If you've ever fel...

After a summer sabbatical, I'm back in pod-land and so excited to be talking with you about recalibrating for healthy relationship . In this episode, we'll chat about the difference between good stress and bad stress, and why both are really just signs that your relational muscles are getting a workout. I share a personal story from the gym that surprisingly mirrors what happens in our hearts and...

In this final episode of Season 2, I'm sharing why I've decided to pause the podcast for the summer....even though I was sure we'd keep going. Inside, you'll hear: 🌿 What finally convinced me to step back for a season, even after feeling certain I'd found a sustainable rhythm 🌿 How this decision brought back memories of something that happened right after my youngest daughter was born — if you'v...

Feeling like you're parenting a grown man with a beard and a Costco membership? If you're the one managing the calendar, fixing problems, and carrying the emotional load in your marriage, this episode is for you. In "You're Not His Mother: How to Stop Parenting Your Husband and Lighten Your Load," we dive into the common—but often unspoken—parent-child dynamic that can quietly take over marriages....

I'll never tell you whether to stay or leave a relationship—that's a deeply personal decision, and  safety always comes first . What I  will say is that sometimes, when one person starts to shift—by speaking up, setting boundaries, and reconnecting with who they are—the dynamic can begin to change. In this episode, I share a moment at the gym that unexpectedly mirrored what real strength looks lik...

In today's episode, I'm joined by Ashley Montag, MS, LIMHP, LMFT —a Catholic therapist and founder of Restoration Psychotherapy —for a rich and grace-filled conversation about what true healing looks like: mind, body, and soul. We talk about the difference between trauma and unforgiveness, and why the feelings that surface when we see someone from our past don't necessarily mean we're doing someth...

When you're in—or recovering from—a destructive relationship, especially while trying to co-parent, it's tempting to focus solely on the other person's behavior. But what if one of the most powerful paths to healing is found in taking an honest look at your part ? In this episode, we dive into a deeper examen of how we may unknowingly contribute to the relational patterns we desperately want to br...

In this heartfelt episode, we delve into the emotional complexities that arise when significant life events don't unfold as envisioned. Whether it's a milestone celebration, a family gathering, or any pivotal moment, unmet expectations can leave us feeling disappointed and emotionally drained. You're not alone in this experience. Join us as we explore three comforting truths that can help you navi...

Ever find yourself bracing before holidays, birthdays, or big life events—wondering if someone is going to ruin it again ? You're not alone. In this episode, we're digging into a pattern I call emotional whiplash —those sudden outbursts that seem to come out of nowhere right before something good. We'll explore why it happens, what's really going on, and how to start protecting your peace even if...

Today's episode is one that I know will stay with you. I'm joined by Lauren from Louisiana—the first guest I've had on the show who I met out on the interwebs—and I've completely fallen in love with her beautiful faith, her mindful way of sharing her story, and (let's be honest) her pursuit of the perfect king cake. She's a mama of four, and in this conversation, she opens up about the silence she...

Someone recently asked me how to find a spiritual director, and I shared the best advice I ever got: Even when you think you've found the right one, meet with them a few times before you decide. That wisdom has echoed in so many other areas of life. Because often, we want clarity before we take action. But what if the clarity only comes after we've had the courage to show up, take the next step, a...

In today's episode, we're diving into a tough topic: when coparenting isn't working. You may have found yourself stuck in a situation where communication is broken, and cooperation feels impossible. While coparenting is the ideal, it's not always achievable. So, what do you do when it's just not working? In this episode, I'll explore the concept of parallel parenting, how to shift your approach, a...

In today's episode, we dive into the powerful shift from asking "Why?" to embracing the bigger questions that lead to real change in your life. We often get stuck in the cycle of wondering why things happen or why people act the way they do, but this focus on "why" keeps us from stepping into the role of a change agent in our own lives. I'll walk you through how shifting your perspective can help...