Own Your Era

Bestie! UNFOLLOW HIM! Today, I'm spilling the tea on the sneaky pitfalls of hitting that follow button (or being followed) on social media while dating. Our online world can be a double-edged sword when it comes to sparking genuine connections, so let's dive into why taking a step back from the screen might just heat things up! We'll dish out the top five reasons to resist the urge to follow (be f...

This one is for my anxious bestie, especially... could small talk be KILLING your dating vibes? Tune in for my thoughts behind the small talk...here's a hint, it's probably NOT worth your time! I'll also share how to ASK for a man to follow up with you which will help you eliminate your anxiety around whether you're still on for a first date! This will be a game changer, it will empower you, and h...

Bestie, today we aren't talking about men or dating, but you can apply this to your dating life. I had a rough few days and as I was observing what was going on and how my body and mind were reacting, this message flowed straight through me. Sit. Accept. Surrender. Are you single and ready to thrive in life and dating after a long-term relationship? Apply to join my signature 90-day 1:1 program, D...

Divorced before 30.  My dear friend Camille was one of the first interviews I recorded for the podcast, back in September of 2022. At the time, Camille was navigating being newly divorced and the decision process leading up to the ultimate decision to leave her partner...even though they were intertwined in business. In this candid convo, she shares:  The path that led to her divorce How a powerfu...

Happy Friday bestie! If you're O-V-E-R dates revolving around alcohol, this episode is for you! I've got 10-date ideas that aren't coffee and don't involve alcohol. Personally, I love a good marg or two, but I also have taken time off from drinking to detox and reset. I've still been able to go on dates, hook up (if the vibe was right), and have a great time. I'd love to hear from you,  Connect wi...

Bestie, if dating apps are stressing you TF out, I've got 10 things in this episode that may help you reduce your dating overwhelm.     I get that dating can be stressful, but I also believe you should be having so much fun in this time of being newly single and exploring, especially after a long term relationship.   Let's chat:   Dating boundaries Creating a schedule for using dating apps Answeri...

Bestie, before your next relationship (or anytime you want because that's what H.O.E.s do), do these 15 things. I personally believe these are things every woman should experience at least once in life. DM me after you listen and tell me what you are going to do first! ILYSM!   Connect with Yolanda here www.theconscioushoe.com    

Bestie! I'm BACK!  In this episode, I'll share how I started to have more fun, by creating not one, but TWO different rosters of men. Tune in to learn how you too can distinguish the men you may be dating and have more fun! P.S. I'm on TikTok! Come hang! Connect with Yolanda here www.theconscioushoe.com    

Hey bestie! If you're tried of crappy convos, this episode will help you take OWNERSHIP of creating a bio that stands out and gets you great and engaging convos! Tune in as I share my top 5 tips to improve your bios, plus:  thoughts on cheaitng on a boyfriend when I was 25 ethical non monogamy  a question from one of my followers about dating apps  If you want a snapshot of one of my bios, send me...

Let's talk about SEX bestie! In this episode, we'll chat about having better sex...and no, I'm not going to tell yu to run out and buy any fancy lingerie. Sex is a vulnerable, energetic connection that can sometimes be overlooked. Tune in as I share: How long I've been doing IT and how I lost my virginity #sorrymom Why I haven't had an ultra-romantic man in my life How meditation can help your sex...

Bestie! We are dropping the very first guest interview and it is spicy! Disclaimer: This is a candid interview of a woman explaining her journey with sex work. If that offends you, skip this episode. This is for the open-minded and shared from a space meant to be empowering. All things in this episode were between two consenting adults. Sugaring is a type of relationship in which a wealthy man pro...

Happy 2023! Let's dive right in and help you start dating in 2023 on the right foot. In this episode, I'll share a reflection I had exactly one year after going on a date and 3 things that I was guilty of doing as a newly single woman in her 30's. Tune in for my thoughts on empowering yourself by: 1. Being a gatekeeper with your time 2. Only committing to things that you absolutely love to do/have...

Therapy has been a game changer for me. In this episode, I share how something I labeled a 'daddy issue,' my therapist had a completely different outlook. This involves looking at my own story with money, questioning my conditioning, and embodying my truth. I mention Better Help in this episode, and if you want 2 FREE weeks of therapy, CLICK HERE . This offer is valid until 12/31. * Better Help do...

Are you a people pleaser? If you're single/dating, you can't miss this episode and there's a good chance you have a few people that need to hear it to. Today, I'll share an experience I had in the height of my 'hoe phase,' post-six-year relationship, and how I was making the choice to have sex, not because I actually wanted to, but because I thought it would make the other person happy/not leave m...

Bestie, are you settling in the effort that you are accepting from men you are dating? In this episode, let's chat: the differences in effort of men choosing what level of effort excites a reframe around same day dates whether coffee dates are really your thing sober dates  I'd love to hear from you if this episode speaks to you, slide in and let's connect. Connect with Yolanda here www.theconscio...

Is the reason why you're annoyed with men because you don't have clear standards? In this episode, let's talk about your needs and how to set your standards when it comes to dating. This episode will leave you feeling EMPOWERED as you approach dating.   Connect with Yolanda here www.theconscioushoe.com  

Are you anxious about going on dates? In this episode, I share a few reasons why I think we actually have dating anxiety and how to reduce your anxiety around dating. Let's talk about: Showing up authentically Ghosting (and how not to do it) My dating motto Should you have expectations for your date? As always, the viewpoints I give you may be different than you've considered before. Don't miss pa...

In this episode, I share how I went from crying over sushi and ending a relationship to a year later having one of the best birthdays in years...I wrote about it. In this episode: A trick about manifestation and intention setting Why you really should consider a journaling practice A chat about therapy Connect with Yolanda here www.theconscioushoe.com  

On my 37th birthday, I cried over sushi, ending my engagement with my partner whom I still love dearly. In this episode, I share the one-year reflection on that decision and one of the most radical years of change. Tune in for: Answering the question who are YOU? The comfortability trap What I learned about keeping some of my journey to myself The invitation that changed my life What I've never op...

You can be a Conscious H.O.E. in dating, finances, professional life, personal development, etc. In episode three, toward the end, I share how dating helped me create The Conscious H.O.E. H.O.E. is a woman Honing & Owning Empowerment.  This mini-episode, explains what the Conscious H.O.E. is (and will be the episode I send to anyone confused about the brand). For more and to connect with Yolanda,...

Dropping a quick intro before kicking off the show with a vulnerable episode where I share ending my engagement after a six-year relationship, moving out, and creating one of the best (yet hardest) years of my life. A Conscious H.O.E. is a woman Honing and Owning Empowerment. I'm excited to be on this journey with you...it's time to get your H.O.E. on!

Are you struggling with the timeline that you've imposed on yourself...maybe you're not where you want to be or think you 'should,' be. What happens when the timing feels off? You trust it. You trust that everything is unfolding perfectly for you. Take a listen for a gentle reminder as to why this simple message is one of the most powerful lessons you'll learn that will help you feel empowered and...

Are you someone that is very feminine at your core, but plagued by society's praise of being in the masculine energy--the grind and the hustle? It's me for sure and it's freaking exhausting.  In this episode, I break down: the difference between masculine and feminine energies A quiz that will help you determine your true energy. This quiz is geared towards building a business, but I find it to be...

What do you do when you feel unmotivated or uninspired? In this short and sweet episode, you'll find one action that you can take today that will keep on giving. It's really simple and may require some thought, but it will be something that you can come back and reference and even add to as you go on your journey! If you listen and this resonates, don't forget to tag me in your stories!  Connect w...

What do you do when you feel unmotivated or uninspired? In this short and sweet episode, you'll find one action that you can take today that will keep on giving. It's really simple and may require some thought, but it will be something that you can come back and reference and even add to as you go on your journey! If you listen and this resonates, don't forget to tag me in your stories!  Connect w...