Outwitting the Manipulator

This episode goes beyond tactics to the deeper work of healing. Michelle shares how her greatest victory wasn't changing her manipulative ex—it was changing herself. By learning to outwit rather than fight, she rebuilt her confidence, escaped the constant fight-or-flight response, and reclaimed her peace. Robin and Dennis explain why the goal is never to change the manipulator, but to understand t...

In this episode of Outwitting the Manipulator, Robin Golinski and Dr. Dennis Becker explore one of the most painful costs of manipulation: the erosion of trust — not only in others, but in yourself. They explain how manipulators often build trust quickly through charm, attention, false vulnerability, and perfectly timed support, especially when you are already vulnerable. The episode offers practi...

In this powerful episode of the Outwitting the Manipulator podcast, Robin Golinski and Dennis Becker explore how manipulators weaponize shame to control, silence, and destabilize others. They unpack the difference between shame and guilt, explain why shame is such a deeply rooted emotional trigger, and reveal how manipulators exploit personal insecurities, public embarrassment, and over-explaining...

This episode reveals how good intentions—like being liked or avoiding conflict—can make you vulnerable to manipulation. While most people act with positive motives, manipulators have one consistent goal: control. Seemingly helpful behaviors are often read as compliance, prompting manipulators to test and push boundaries further. The more you prioritize harmony, the more you risk being taken advant...

In this episode of Outwitting the Manipulator, Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski pull back the curtain on something most people miss entirely: The quiet ways your attention gets pulled—and why it matters more than anything being said. Through sharp insights and real-life moments, they reveal how quickly conversations can shift when your focus is redirected—and how that shift can change your dec...

A gold-medal moment turns into something way more personal: a Norwegian Olympian uses his post-win interview to deliver a tearful public apology to the girlfriend he cheated on—on a worldwide stage. Robin and Dr. Dennis Becker break down why this kind of “public remorse” can be more than heartfelt… it can be a high-powered influence move that quietly recruits everyone watching. They debate two com...

Robin and Dennis discuss manipulation with a special focus on Sandy Rosenthal's work following Hurricane Katrina. Sandy Rosenthal, founder of levies.org, shares her journey of uncovering the real cause behind the catastrophic flooding in New Orleans. She details the harassment and pushback she faced from the Army Corps of Engineers and the extensive damage caused due to improperly built levees. Sa...

Six months after first opening up about his past manipulative patterns, Gethro LaCroix returns with a striking update. He’s now over 400 days sober, committed to the gym, off social media, and deepening his connection to faith and community. He shares how he avoids slipping into old habits—womanizing, drinking, smoking—by remembering the chaos they caused and grounding himself in daily discipline....

Attorney Patricia Annino joins Robin to reveal the truth behind most “legal” family disputes: they aren’t legal at all — they’re emotional. Patricia explains that every family has a “ghost” (a buried issue like abuse, addiction, favoritism, or betrayal) that quietly drives manipulation, conflict, and expensive litigation. Until that ghost is named, nothing gets resolved. She shares a striking case...

Robin Golinski and Dr. Dennis Becker make a bold case: our culture often rewards manipulation because people fear backlash and comply. This episode flips that script. Robin and Dennis show how learning in-the-moment self-protection skills—clear boundaries, firm inflection, steady eye contact, succinct language—creates a personal and societal ripple effect: we stop feeding the very behavior we want...

When “free nights” and glossy model homes turn into endless fees and fine print, you may have stepped into the timeshare trap. In this episode, Robin and Dr. Dennis welcome Tim Downey—former 22-year timeshare owner turned advocate and founder of Truthful Timeshare Termination —who breaks down the industry’s most common manipulation tactics and the legal concepts that actually put you back in contr...

When you’re caught in the heat of manipulation, it’s easy to get swept away by emotions—and that’s exactly the point. In this episode of Outwitting the Manipulator, Robin Golinski and Dr. Dennis Becker reveal how manipulators deliberately choose words to ignite reactions, control momentum, and keep you off balance. They break down how to spot these verbal traps, why even “neutral” words can carry...

In this episode, Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski tackle a tough choice many people face—especially under manipulation—deciding whether you want to be liked or respected. They explain why this binary decision can be a trap, particularly for “pathos” personalities who lead with emotion, and how manipulators exploit that vulnerability. Using insights from ethos–pathos–logos communication styles,...

Dennis and Robin discuss how manipulators use questions as a tactic to control and confuse their targets. The hosts offer valuable insights on how to recognize and respond to such questions effectively. Techniques include maintaining neutrality, avoiding defensive answers, and using non-verbal cues. They also explore various types of manipulators (ethos, pathos, logos) and provide strategies tailo...

Robin and Dennis interview Brittanie about her personal experiences with manipulation. Brittanie shares her background, growing up in a family with a manipulative dynamic, and how this has influenced her own relationships. She discusses the challenges of co-parenting with a manipulative ex and stresses the importance of being self-aware and vigilant. The conversation covers techniques for neutrali...

When dealing with manipulators, saying less can protect you more. In this episode, Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski dive into the power of brevity—and why over-explaining makes you an easy target. Through live role-play, mindset shifts, and simple, real-life tactics, you’ll learn how to respond with calm confidence, defuse manipulation in the moment, and stop feeding the fire. Whether it’s a t...

Dennis and Robin delve into the fundamental concepts of rules and values and their significance in handling manipulation. They emphasize the importance of distinguishing between rules and values, illustrating how manipulators exploit this distinction to maintain control. Through practical examples, the hosts provide strategies for setting and enforcing boundaries when dealing with manipulators, st...

Dennis and Robin welcome a special guest, Kelly, who shares her personal experience with a manipulative and abusive relationship spanning over 14 years. The discussion delves into recognizing manipulation, coping strategies, the emotional and mental trauma endured, and the importance of maintaining a neutral response to manipulators. Kelly courageously opens up about her journey, offering insights...

In this episode of Outwitting in Real Time, hosts Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski explore the complex relationship between rights, responsibilities, and manipulation. They dive into the idea that manipulation thrives when individuals are unaware of their own rights—whether in personal relationships, workplaces, or everyday interactions. Robin shares personal insights about growing up in a man...

In this insightful and inspiring episode, Dennis and Robin are joined by Gethro LaCroix, a self-admitted former manipulator, who bravely shares his journey of transformation. Gethro delves into his past behaviors, primarily manipulative actions in his dating life, and how a series of realizations led him to pursue a path of honesty and integrity. The conversation covers his experiences with low se...

Robin & Dennis delve into the complex topic of male aggression within the context of manipulation. They explore its biological roots, societal influences, and how it manifests in both verbal and non-verbal cues. The discussion includes practical advice on identifying early warning signs, responding effectively, and the importance of maintaining a neutral demeanor to de-escalate potential aggre...

In this discussion, Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski explore the concept of backlash—how manipulators react when confronted or when their tactics are exposed. They delve into strategies for recognizing and handling backlash effectively, ensuring that you maintain control and prevent being drawn back into manipulation. Through real-world examples and expert insights, they provide practical tech...

Robin is joined by Angela Lanuto, a real estate agent from Hudson Valley, who shares her personal experiences with manipulation. Angela offers invaluable insights and practical advice on recognizing manipulation, setting boundaries, and reclaiming personal power. The discussion delves into childhood experiences, professional relationships, and the impact of manipulative romantic partners. Angela a...

Dennis and Robin delve into the nuances of manipulation during the holiday season. They aim to help listeners avoid becoming targets of various forms of manipulation, including consumer manipulation, family dynamics, and relationship pressure. Key topics discussed include the impact of social media on expectations, the tactics used in holiday marketing, strategies for handling family guilt trips a...

In this podcast episode, Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski engage in a candid discussion with Andrew, a guest who shares his personal experiences with manipulation. The conversation delves into the complexities of identifying manipulative behavior, particularly from family members, and the emotional toll it can take. Andrew reflects on his childhood encounters with manipulation from his parents...