Outside the Manosphere: a Nontoxic Bromance

In this episode, Skip and Carlos discuss the strategic needling of men by using "microfeminisms" in every day life. Do you want a dude-bro to hang himself with his own rope? Microfeminisms will get you there. Plus, Supreme Court mixed messages, the red flag of friendships, and of course, joys. Join us now, and see you in three weeks. Items discussed: Facebook - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside th...

Can men wear pink? Can women have kids and work? If men watch their own kids, is it babysitting and do they get brownie points? This week, Outside the Manosphere jumps into gender expectations in the continuing exploration of our glorious male privilege. Plus, we can't comprehend the number 1,000,000,000,000, Carlos begins training to wrestle Skip, reckless driving, vampires and werewolves, gr...

This week Outside the Manosphere, the guys talk a history of turbulent relationships, the red flags we blow past on the way into them, and good relationships that just don't work. What's with dudes that play victim by calling all women crazy? Do they have terrible judgement or are they completely powerless within relationships? Let's man up and take responsibility for our relationships...

This week the guys talk about the impending water wars, billionaire rats fleeing a sinking ship, safety after dark, vinyl records, and - are we surprised? - a touch of comics are in the mix. Also, Carlos revisits controlling men, Skip talks about being sexually harassed, and the guys espouse about the perils of shopping while male. And, does not having kids make you less of a man? All this, plus j...

This week Outside the Manosphere: Body Count. Do women have too many? Do men have to few? Does that math even make sense? What's the deal with guys being obsessed with Body Count anyway? Status, conquest, territoriality, good ol' fashioned fun - Skip and Carlos dig into it all. The guys also chat heatwaves, espouse voting with your wallet, and wax about self-reflection and how the lack the...

How can you tell the difference between the pure ecstatic joy of new love and the twisting knife of manipulation? This week Outside the Manosphere: Love Bombs. Skip and Carlos grapple with their history of dropping Love Bombs and try to differentiate where the line is between the Grand Gesture of romcoms and the relationship terrorism lies. The guys also chat about the Trump Slush Fund, Mamdani&#3...

This week on the pod, what are men so afraid of? Turns out for some guys, it's women and personal growth. Yes, despite a not insignificant percentage of men feeling like they could take on a bear or an elephant bare handed (see past episodes), they hesitate when confronted with a woman or...gasp...a therapist. The guys discuss what the heck is going on with that? Also up: complimenting dudes g...

This week the guys fight the Green Eyed Monster. Skip and Carlos talk about their youthful struggles with jealousy and reveal where they are now. Spoiler alert: out of control jealousy is all about insecurity. Fix your relationship, don't lock up your partner. Also, Outside the Manosphere looks into the surprisingly pervasive practice of financial abuse and the corollary danger of Trad-wifing. Plu...

This week: male posturing for man-on-man validation, a return to the Invisible Knapsack, the American Dream of fighting a mountain lion, and green flags. The guys dig deep on the need for male validation for men and insecurity that compels us to act like children, showing off, withholding affection, and pushing boundaries to look cool. You know, the stuff you did in front of friends when you were...

This week: Fascist Faceplants, Male Competitiveness, The Myth of the Alpha Male, and What Women Do and Don't Want according to science. The guys get deep into male competitiveness and their own toxic histories with dominating games, debates, and even conversations. What's the deal with interrupting women? And is the biggest flex at all not feeling the need to flex? Plus, do women want a do...

Outside the Manosphere welcomes Michael J. Wilson, Research Fellow at The Movember Institute of Men's Health, a specialist in Men's health and relationships. Michael schools the guys in how men cope with break ups; how they don't, and simple advice for what to do when you see a man in trouble.: Look big . . . no wait, that's for bears. Michael gives simple easy advice to help peopl...

This week the guys red flag misogynist jokes, Carlos confronts an uncomfortable truth about his Dirty Dancing crush, and men have " the time of their life " at alpha male training camps. The guys also talk about big tech's big tobacco moment, loud cars, eating like a dog, Carlos thanks his grandma, and Skip gets some good news live during the podcast. All that and a healthy dose of j...

"Boys don't cry." "Man up. " We've all heard it, emotional shaming, and it's a red flag. Season 2 begins with a look at men exhibiting emotions. The guys recount their experiences shutting down and being shut down while displaying emotions. They also search for the balance between being emotionally available and being...too much. The guys also discuss their takeaway...

While the boys prep for Outside the Manosphere's second season, enjoy a favorite episode in case you missed it. In this thought-provoking episode, Skip and Carlos take you on a journey through their personal stories and cultural insights. They share travel stories from hitchhiking across the U.S. to exploring Prague, while also diving into deeper discussions on identity and privilege. A signif...

As the boys prep for Outside the Manosphere's second season, here's a favorite episode in case you missed it. In this episode, Skip and Carlos dive into "menodivorce," a term describing the rising divorce rates among those over 50, potentially linked to menopause. The boys explore how hormonal changes during menopause can lead women to reassess their life choices and relationship...

Season One - a season of love, exploring masculinity, and self-discovery - ends with three (or four) little words. I love you . . . man. The guys of OTM graduate from the 36-questions-to-fall-in-love gauntlet and become full-fledged professors of love, or at least better friends. The guys also talk about Alpine divorces; Skip takes jealous pot-shots at Carlos' AI romance, and they both reflect...

Smashing your face with a hammer isn't necessarily a behavior synonymous with beauty . . . or is it? Skip and Carlos dive into the weird world of "Looksmaxxing," a strange but growing corner of the manosphere where men want desperately to dominate other men ("mogging"). The guys talk about the problems inherent within Looksmaxxing and reclaiming the values of being a good p...

Chris Hemsworth is ruining everything. Okay, not really, but he might just be iconic of the unrealistic body that young men are now told they should have. OTM dives into the underreported and underrepresented topic of male body dysmorphia and the uniquely dude-specific form it takes in Bigorexia. Skip and Carlos reflect on their own trials and travails with body image at a young age (and now) and...

In this short episode, the guys reflect on Obama, the audacity of hope that he brought to the US, and that one time that we had a President who could actually speak correctly. Now it's word salad for every meal, SAD! Also, OTM talks Turkey, hope in the fight against unhealthy social media, Fraggle Rock, and travel styles. Items Referenced: Facebook - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Olympics, Bad Bunny, Crotch-gate, and Nicholas Cage Noir...it's a wild time to be alive. The guys dive into some current events and...a fiery house? Also, OTM rummages around in the invisible knapsack to examine Black Excellence, how the bar is much higher, what racism looks like today, and assimilation through the eyes of the movie Sinners. And finally, tattoos and, of course, joy. Items Refe...

This week Outside the Manosphere dives into The PITT, Wonder Man, and messages from beyond the grave. Meanwhile, inside the Manosphere, Trump maybe pooped himself on TV? They'll also dive into that. Ahem, phrasing. The guys have a late kick off of Black History Month by diving back into a perennial favorite, the invisible knapsack and unpacking representation (or lack thereof) in curriculum, c...

The guys talk fascism, racism, comedy, and the lack of male mentors in kids' lives. One thing is clear: the guys in ICE (or Kavanaugh Cops) never watched the Highlander, where moral tales were deftly woven around regular decapitations. Also, Carlos' grandma teaches him how to be a (well-mannered) man, the guys receive listener mail, and we let you know where to find a hilarious story about...

Outside the Manosphere welcomes back Dr. Pete Fisher, Research Fellow at The Movember Institute of Men's Health, for the second of a two-part interview on Masculinity and The Real Face of Men's Health Report, of which he is co-author. Men are lacking social connections and dying prematurely (and those things are related). Dr. Pete and the guys talk over some of the many factors contributing the 'l...

Outside the Manosphere welcomes back Dr. Pete Fisher, Research Fellow at The Movember Institute of Men's Health, for the first of a two-part interview on Masculinity and The Real Face of Men's Health Report, of which he is co-author. In part one, the guys discuss how the rigid idea of traditional masculinity is affecting men and why flexibility is the new strength. In a shocking twist (for those i...

Why do we want to be rugged? Do women care? Where's the line between manly and hobo-esque? It probably is in the vicinity of a shower, because no one likes a truly stinky man. The guys talk being rugged, traditional masculinity, and the hazy boundary between being a bad boy and terrible guy. Also, Carlos gets a tingly chest cavity, Skip tries to find the medium-way (a la Richard Kind), and the...