Out Here: Finding Fulfilment After 50

After a long hiatus, Tom returns to the screened-in porch overlooking Lake Huron for a candid conversation about one of the most challenging winters he has faced in years. In this episode, he reflects on: • Surviving a long Northern Ontario winter • Living with seasonal affective disorder (SAD) and high-functioning depression • Why some goals and projects had to be temporarily set aside • The real...

I came home from a road trip to a snowstorm, a blocked road, and a path I couldn’t clear to my lakeside sauna. I was tired, frustrated, and in a foul mood. The next day, shovel in hand, I dug my way back. Sitting in the sauna that afternoon, I found myself thinking about the trip, the emotional roller coaster of coming home, the passing of Chuck Norris, and the loss of my dad. At some point after...

This episode was recorded from a place I didn’t expect to be. It’s a quiet conversation for men — especially those over 40 — who find themselves alone, starting over, or living a life that doesn’t match the blueprint they were handed. We explore a sentence many men are afraid to say out loud: “If this is the rest of my life… I’m okay with that.” Not as resignation. Not as giving up. But as accepta...

In this deeply personal and unmistakably honest episode, Tom returns to the porch—fire crackling, waves rolling in the background—to unpack the heavy questions weighing on many of us today. From political violence and free speech to media manipulation and the rising tension in North American culture, Tom reflects on how these shifts affect our ability to live freely, especially after 50. Drawing o...

Title:  Not Today: Bullying After 50, Boundaries & Your Next Chapter Summary: Recorded on a warm mid-August night in Northern Ontario, Tom shares a formative high-school story about facing a bully—and what it taught him about boundaries, dignity, and dealing with adult bullying in your 50s. He answers a listener’s Campfire Question on how to respond when someone tries to push you around, then...

Episode Summary In this deeply personal solo episode, Tom reflects by the firelight on the lessons he wishes his younger self had known. From shedding the fear of rejection to the value of time freedom, this episode is filled with insight, authenticity, and gentle wisdom for anyone navigating life after 50—or anyone looking to reconnect with themselves. Tom opens up about judgment, relationships,...

🎙 Episode Title: Men’s Mental Health Month: 7 Simple Habits That Helped Me Heal 📝 Episode Description: In this episode of  Out Here , I get personal. June is Men’s Mental Health Month, and as someone who’s faced high-functioning depression, seasonal affective disorder, and even a period of suicidality, I’m here to share what helped me heal. No fluff. Just 7 habits that made a real difference: Bre...

Episode 2 – Alone, Not Lonely: 50 Years of Finding My Own Path Welcome back to  Out Here , where life is solo, simple, and rural. In this deeply personal episode, Tom reflects on the first 50 years of his life — the triumphs, betrayals, missteps, and meaningful choices that led him to live alone by the lake in Northern Ontario. He opens up about being the odd one out from a young age, why conformi...

Ep 1 -- Life is Precious | Solo Life After 50 In this first full-length episode of  Out Here , Thomas Detert sits by a real lakeside fire and opens up about the quiet decision that changed everything — leaving behind the city, the noise, the pressure, and trading it for solitude, clarity, and self-reliance in the rural north. This episode is part story, part reflection, and fully real. Thomas shar...

What if life after 50 wasn't about slowing down — but about coming fully alive? In this short introductory episode, host Thomas Detert shares the heart behind  Out Here: Finding Freedom After 50  — a podcast for men navigating the single life beyond 50 who want something real, quiet, and meaningful outside the noise of the city. You’ll hear what inspired the show, who it’s for, and what to exp...