Our Side of Addiction

There are several addiction behavioral models. Each model has their pros and cons. Some are more dated than others but all hold valuable information and insights. In this episode, we take a look at what is considered the most up-to-date model, the biopsychosocial Model. For more info visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Kinly Society⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get your copy of Amanda's memoir, Living in My Sister's Shadow, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠HERE...

In this episode we take a look at how addiction progresses. When you love an addict it feels like it came out of nowhere yet this is never the case. We break down each phase of the progression of addiction, what to look for, and how to respond. For more info visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Kinly Society⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get your copy of Amanda's memoir, Living in My Sister's Shadow, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Start the 7-day Eggshel...

Ever wonder why your addict won't just stop? Why they won't stop for you? Why you aren't important enough or why they don't love you enough? When you love an addict, it's distressing and confusing. The biggest factor that makes this worse is not knowing more about the beast of addiction. In this episode, we explain exactly why your love or relationship will never be enough for...

Each member of families or homes with addiction adopt a primary role to survive the chaos and dysfunction. In this episode, we look at the SCAPEGOAT role. What it is, why someone adopts it, how it impacts them and the addict, and why it's harmful. We also include some tips on navigating past this role. For more info visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠Kinly Society⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get your copy of Amanda's memoir, Living in My...

Over-functioning when you love an addict is common and just about every loved one responds in this manner. At least to some degree at one point or another. In this episode, we explore what over-functioning is, what drives it, how it impacts you and your addict, and what to do instead. For more info visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠Kinly Society⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get your copy of Amanda's memoir, Living in My Sister's Shadow,...

In families or homes with addiction, each member adopts a primary role in order to survive and sustain their own life. In this episode, we focus on the CAREGIVER role. What it is, what it's function is, why people adopt this role, and how it's harmful. We also include some tips on how to navigate beyond this role. For more info visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠Kinly Society⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get your copy of Amanda's memo...

When you love an addict, you feel panicked, fearful and uncertain. This naturally causes you to try to regain control of anything possible. Situations, consequences, choices, freedom, and the treatment of your addicts addiction. In this episode, we break down what you can and can't control about addiction and your loved one. For more info visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠Kinly Society⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get your copy of Amanda&#39...

Is addiction a behavior? Some might say yes. Others might say no. In this episode we take a look at the behavioral model of addiction. For more info visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠Kinly Society⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get your copy of Amanda's memoir, Living in My Sister's Shadow, ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join the Kinly Society Collective, an exclusive community for the loved ones of addicts, ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ Follow us on socials: ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ ,...

Rescuing is a behavior most loved ones of addicts engage in. You might do this once or all the time. It might have happened instantly or progressively. Many loved ones believe that rescuing is the best and only option. In this episode, we explore why rescuing happens, why it's dangerous, and what to do instead. For more info visit ⁠⁠⁠Kinly Society⁠⁠⁠ Get your copy of Amanda's memoir, Livin...

Grief doesn't just occur during death. It also happens when someone we love is still alive. When you love an addict, grief is a common experience. Grief of loss of them, a loss of yourself, a loss of potential, and even a loss of the future. In this episode, we explore grief when a loved one is alive and addicted. For more info visit ⁠⁠⁠Kinly Society⁠⁠⁠ Get your copy of Amanda's memoir, Li...

Do you know the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation? Because they aren't the same. In this episode, we break down each one so that there is more clarity around which one is best for you and your relationship with your addict. For more info visit ⁠⁠⁠Kinly Society⁠⁠⁠ Get your copy of Amanda's memoir, Living in My Sister's Shadow, ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠ Join the Kinly Society Collective...

What does complacency look like when your loved one with an addiction is in recovery? In this episode, we take a look at how that can look, how it impacts you and your addict. We also explore healthier ways to support an addict who is in recovery. For more info visit ⁠⁠⁠Kinly Society⁠⁠⁠ Get your copy of Amanda's memoir, Living in My Sister's Shadow, ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠ Join the Kinly Society Collec...

Complacency has a major impact on addicts and you, their loved one. In this episode, we dive into what complacency looks like when an addict is in active addiction, the role loved ones play, how it impacts both you and your addict, and how to move through complacency successfully. For more info visit ⁠⁠⁠Kinly Society⁠⁠⁠ Get your copy of Amanda's memoir, Living in My Sister's Shadow, ⁠⁠⁠HER...

What should you expect when your loved one has 1+ year of recovery time? We break down what to expect, what it is comprised of, and how to support your loved one with an addiction. For more info visit ⁠⁠Kinly Society⁠⁠ Get your copy of Amanda's memoir, Living in My Sister's Shadow, ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ Join the Kinly Society Collective, an exclusive community for the loved ones of addicts, ⁠⁠HERE Foll...

Having tough conversations and listening to their secrets is a difficult situation. You want to know the details but when you hear them your entire world flips upside down. In this episode, we explore having tough conversations and being open to the secrets and revelations of your loved one with an addiction. We cover strategies to have these conversations and how to manage hearing the deep truths...

When your loved one enters recovery, they do an enormous amount of personal development work. Their entire identity changes. Essentially, they become a different person. But what does that mean for you? This means that your relationship WILL change. Some of these changes you might be excited for while others may cause you grief and turmoil. In this episode, we explore some of the changes that you...

When you love an addict, your identity changes and becomes wrapped up in them. You start thinking, behaving, and wanting different things. This change in identity feels gradual or necessary. Yet, this means that you have to abandon who you used to be. For more info visit ⁠Kinly Society⁠ Get your copy of Amanda's memoir, Living in My Sister's Shadow, ⁠HERE⁠ Join the Kinly Society Collective...

There are a lot of terms in the addiction world and on this episode we explore DRY DRUNK. We talk about what it is, how to tell if your loved one is dry drunk, and why learning these terms is an assets when you love an addict. For more info visit ⁠Kinly Society⁠ Get your copy of Amanda's memoir, Living in My Sister's Shadow, ⁠HERE⁠ Join the Kinly Society Collective, an exclusive community...

It is common for the loved ones of addicts to sabotage them. This is true whether or not they are in active addiction. Sabotaging them to stay addicted or sabotaging their recovery so that they return to their addiction. We take a look at whey loved ones sabotage and how it looks. For more info visit Kinly Society Get your copy of Amanda's memoir, Living in My Sister's Shadow, HERE Join th...

Ever wonder how influential environment actually is on addiction? Is it only genetic? Is it only environmental? We take a look at the Rat Park study findings and explore what it means for you and your loved one. Rat Park study was conducted in the late 1970s by Bruce K. Alexander and colleagues at Simon Fraser University in British Colombia, Canada. For more info and resources visit HERE To get yo...

Enabling is an intense and complex topic. What is it exactly and what price do you pay for engaging in enabling behaviors? In this episode, we take a look at this topic. For more information and resources, visit HERE Get your copy of my memoir, Living in My sister's Shadow, HERE

Being in denial feels a lot better than accepting a loved ones addiction. This is because when we are in denial, we don't need to take action. Nothing needs to change. Nothing needs to be confronted. A lot of loved ones of addict struggle with being in denial. Sometimes is temporary and other times it's long-lasting. In this episode, we explore why denial feels like the better option, how...

Summer is the time for fun and lots of activities. We can get caught up in our usual routines of family outings, beach trips, BBQs and summer vacations. The question is: how do we support addiction recovery while still enjoying our usual activities? We explore this topic and apply it to both active addiction and recovery because no matter where your loved one is at, you can support a healthy lifes...

Loving an addict causes lots or resentment. You sacrifice a lot and bring yourself to the edge of your own survival. All for the sake of saving them. For helping them. For making their addiction go away. Yet, nothing works and your efforts are never even acknowledged let alone appreciated. In this episode, we explore resentment. What it is, why you feel it, and what to do about it. For more info v...

Accepting that some one you love has an addiction is jarring and life-changing. Whether that acceptance is slowly developed or all in an instant. It changes you and the way you see them and the future. In this episode, we talk about what it means to accept their addiction and how that impacts you. For more info visit ⁠Kinly Society⁠ Get your copy of Amanda's memoir, Living in My Sister's S...