Our Messy Shadows

We're wrapping up our cycles mini-series with a conversation about how to break emotional and behavior cycles. In this episode, we cover everything from awareness to shame to discomfort to (of course) breaking unhealthy cycles in our own lives. To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To connect with Dan: https://hihello.me/p/28b3075d-9769-4af4-9483-f15b...

TW: If you find sappy, happy love stories triggering, you may want to skip this one. One question that we are often asked is "are you guys a couple?" The short answer is YES! We are partners in podcasting and in life. On the anniversary of the day we met, we decided it was time to share the story of how we became "we." It's a pretty cool story (but we're biased), so if...

The Universe is infinitely kind, and gives us as many tries as we need to close out a cycle and rewrite a story. In this continuation of our series on cyclical living, we dig into behavioral and emotional cycles. To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To connect with Dan: https://hihello.me/p/28b3075d-9769-4af4-9483-f15b74a78a7b

In this episode, we continue our discussion of the cycles within and around us, this time expanding from the light/dark cycles of the day to the seasons of the year. To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To connect with Dan: https://hihello.me/p/1c4459e3-4dbc-4a5c-baa6-007032baab6a Email us: ourmessyshadows@gmail.com Find us on YouTube: https://www.youtub...

In this first of a three-part episode, we discuss cyclical living, some challenges that come from living in a linear culture, and some strategies we use to harness the cycles that exist within and around us to help us feel and function our best. To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To connect with Dan: https://hihello.me/p/1c4459e3-4dbc-4a5c-baa6-007032b...

This week we're bringing you an episode of the Clean Living Made Easy podcast, hosted by Jessica Brennan, featuring an interview with Sarah. In this episode, we discuss all things shadow work, and how to handle shame and the inner critic. Learn more about Jessica Brennan: https://www.cleanproductjunkie.com Check out Sarah's conversation with Jessica in the Inside Out Transformations Commun...

It seems like the term "ego" is a dirty word these days. As we continue to heal and evolve, we become more aware of the interconnectedness of all being, and it can be easy to forget about the self or think it doesn't exist because we are only a part of a larger whole. And while we are part of a larger whole, we must also find wholeness within ourselves. In this episode, we discuss ho...

How do we begin to describe what this one's about? It's a meandering episode, covering everything from the challenges we face as we try to match outward communication to inner evolution, the fears around putting oneself "out there" in its most authentic form, and how we hide from shame (or the possibility of experiencing shame). To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7...

In this episode, we celebrate the arrival of Virgo season with a conversation about perfectionism. What drives the need to be perfect? How do we struggle with perfectionism? How do we try to overcome perfectionistic tendencies? To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To connect with Dan: https://hihello.me/p/1c4459e3-4dbc-4a5c-baa6-007032baab6a Email us: ou...

In this episode, we discuss grounding, centering, mindfulness, and meditation - what they are, what differentiates them, and how we use them (or struggle to use them!) in our daily practice. To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To connect with Dan: https://hihello.me/p/1c4459e3-4dbc-4a5c-baa6-007032baab6a Email us: ourmessyshadows@gmail.com Find us on Yo...

Shame is what happens when your values and your actions don’t align, and in this episode, we discuss how you can work backwards from the shame experience to get clear on what your values are.  Once you know what you value, you can explore where that value came from and if it’s a value that you want to keep so you can take aligned action. To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46...

In this episode, we discuss what happens when something becomes forbidden.  How does it impact our relationship with that which is forbidden, and how does it impact our relationships with ourselves?  How can we think differently about the things that don’t serve us so that we don’t give them our power? TW:  In this episode, we talk about disordered eating patterns and restricting food, and there i...

In this episode, we discuss how we regulate our emotions, and share some strategies that work for us. To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To connect with Dan: https://hihello.me/p/1c4459e3-4dbc-4a5c-baa6-007032baab6a Email us: ourmessyshadows@gmail.com Find us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCThPJQvUvqIAS3lCcUaQA9A

In this episode, we discuss how we try to hold onto control in situations where we never had control to begin with, and how to consciously let go of control in those situations. TW: This episode discusses a weather-related natural disaster. If this is triggering for you, you may want to skip this episode. To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To connect w...

How do you handle when you're trying to rewrite your story and the old beliefs keep coming up? In this episode, we discuss how to stay on the path of the new beliefs and behavior patterns you want to establish. To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To connect with Dan: https://hihello.me/p/1c4459e3-4dbc-4a5c-baa6-007032baab6a Email us: ourmessyshadows...

In this episode, we discuss the little traumas that infiltrate our lives as stories and beliefs that hold us back, and the surprising places they can come from. To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To connect with Dan: https://hihello.me/p/1c4459e3-4dbc-4a5c-baa6-007032baab6a Email us: ourmessyshadows@gmail.com Find us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com...

What are energy vampires? How do you identify them in your life, and how do you boundary yourself to minimize their impact? In this episode we discuss all of that, as well as some big transitions we're going through personally. To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To connect with Dan: https://hihello.me/p/1c4459e3-4dbc-4a5c-baa6-007032baab6a Email us...

In this episode, we share how we are building a spiritual practice together (from 450 miles apart) and holding each other accountable as we grow our connection to the Universe and each other. To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To connect with Dan: https://hihello.me/p/1c4459e3-4dbc-4a5c-baa6-007032baab6a Email us: ourmessyshadows@gmail.com Find us on Y...

In this episode we take a look at how we conceptualize failure, and how zooming out on a situation can help us reframe it. TW: Brief mention of suicidal ideation To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To connect with Dan: https://hihello.me/p/1c4459e3-4dbc-4a5c-baa6-007032baab6a Email us: ourmessyshadows@gmail.com Find us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.co...

In this episode, we dig into intuition.  How can we tune into that small voice inside of us so that we can take aligned action that is the work of surrender? How do you know whether it’s intuition or fear? We also discuss how to break cycles and work effectively with affirmations. To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To connect with Dan: https://hihello....

How do you let go of fear and move forward to manifest what you desire in your life? This episode is a really powerful one! We discuss: -what it means to surrender to the Universe -releasing expectation of a particular outcome to welcome possibility -moving forward in spite of fear -what taking aligned action means and how it works with surrender -how do we hold up our end of the spiritual work? T...

Welcome to the Our Messy Shadows Podcast! We are so excited that you're joining us on our real and raw journey as spiritual humans working through the hard shit. In this episode we discuss the difference between toxic positivity and conscious positivity, and how we can choose to find the best in difficult situations while still honoring the reality of them. To connect with Sarah: https://hihel...

In this episode, we continue our discussion from the last episode about the value of presence and how it shows up in our lives. We also dig into joy and intention - two additional values we share - and how they can and have impacted our lives. To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To connect with Dan: https://hihello.me/p/1c4459e3-4dbc-4a5c-baa6-007032baa...

In this episode, we ask: -What are you choosing to spend your energy on? -Are you taking things personally that aren't personal? We discuss how being conscious and intentional about what we allow to disrupt our peace, and start to dig into the values framework that we live by. To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To connect with Dan: https://hihello.me/p...

In this episode, we discuss the nature of beliefs, and how beliefs can change as we evolve and rebuild ourselves. We also touch on working with difficult emotions (particularly shame) and moving away from extremes.