Our Messy Shadows

In this episode we celebrate our clients biggest wins and reflect on the journey of growth. Join us as we pull back the curtain on what working with a coach looks like and explore the most valuable and meaningful lessons we’ve learned from serving our clients. To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To connect with Dan: https://hihello.me/p/28b3075d-9769-4a...

How do we harness our creativity? In this episode we peel back the curtain of being small business owners and dive into our creative processes. Join us as we explore how to find and follow your internal guidance and how to create from a place of authenticity.  To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To connect with Dan: https://hihello.me/p/28b3075d-9769-4a...

Are you “bad” for setting a boundary? In this episode we explore the power of the word NO and how we’ve been conditioned to not use it. Join us as we discuss the concept of setting boundaries along with the costs and benefits of using them.  To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To connect with Dan: https://hihello.me/p/28b3075d-9769-4af4-9483-f15b74a78a7...

What does it mean to heal? What do our scars teach us? And what’s the meaning behind our wounds? In this episode we dive into the healing journey and take a look at how trauma impacts not only our life but the way we look at the world. Join us as we explore the process and purpose of healing and share helpful tips on what’s aided us in our own journeys. To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/...

Is having more always better? In this episode we dig into one of the most misunderstood words in spirituality today: Abundance . Join us as we explore what abundance really means, what else comes with it, and the surprising trap we can fall into without realizing it.  To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To connect with Dan: https://hihello.me/p/28b3075d...

What makes life worth living? Is it all about the big experiences, or is there something else underneath it? Are the mundane parts of life just boring scenes to fast-forward through? What parts of life are the most important, and what does it all mean? Join us as we dive into what "things" make life worthwhile and how to find (or rediscover) magic in the life you're living right now....

What makes joy different from happiness and how can you tell them apart? In this episode we explore the nature of joy itself and how our mind plays tricks on us. Join us as we dive into why gratitude affects our mindset and what being present really means in a future-focused culture.  We also include some helpful practices for cultivating more joy in your life! To connect with Sarah: https://hihel...

This episode is FUN! Sparked by our last discussion, we explore what it means to have a good time. What does it mean to enjoy something? Is that fun, or is it something else? Is being content with something OK, and is it wrong to settle? And underneath all of it, what is the common thread that ties it all together? Join us to find out and let us know what you think! To connect with Sarah: https://...

Does money equal safety? Join us as we dive into what safety really means and how the need for safety can create unintended consequences. In this episode we also explore some hidden beliefs we've discovered around money and the relationship between safety and trust.  To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To connect with Dan: https://hihello.me/p/28b30...

What are you giving your energy to? Is it sustainable? Are you focused on the future or do you live in the moment?  This episode is a deep dive into the nature of relationships and the difference between commitment and investment. Join us as we explore relationships with money, other people, and what that tells us about ourselves. To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6...

Our lives are constantly changing, so shouldn't we be better at it by now? Follow along as we continue last week's conversation about letting go and dive deeper into what change really is. In this episode we discuss the loss inherent in transformation, healthy ways to let things go, and how to grieve what you release from your life so you can move forward. We also include helpful self-refl...

When is it time to let go? In this episode, we answer the question of how to know when it's time to move on from something in your life. Join us as we explore how letting go of things can be made easier and provide you with practical strategies we've used to evaluate our relationships, jobs, and even our beliefs. To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403...

This episode is for people who hate making decisions! A listener asks: How do you know if the universe is giving you a sign? We explore the difference between signs and synchronicities, how to tap into your intuition, and offer strategies for the most important part of it all - trusting yourself. Make sure to check out the powerful exercises on how to build self-trust at the end of the episode! To...

We're back!! Join us as we kick off our new season by diving into one of the listener questions we get asked the most: Breaking down the differences between coaching and therapy. We review the pros and cons of each approach and explore their strengths and limitations, as well as how to know which method might be right for you! Be sure to stick around to the end of the episode for some helpful...

We're popping in this week with a quick note about what's going on behind the scenes at Our Messy Shadows. We can't wait to be back in a few weeks with a brand new season for you! In Season 2, we want to make some space in each show to feature and respond to listener questions. We're happy to answer personal questions, professional questions, shadow work questions - whatever is on your mind! To su...

In this episode, Sarah shares her major shadows of 2023, and Dan shares a great strategy for moving through anxiety. TW: self-image, weight To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To connect with Dan: https://hihello.me/p/28b3075d-9769-4af4-9483-f15b74a78a7b Email us: ourmessyshadows@gmail.com

Over the course of the next two weeks, we reflect on the major shadows we moved through over the course of 2023. This week is all about Dan's shadow work! TW: suicidal ideation, substance abuse, self-harm

It can be so difficult to communicate what you need, especially when you are communicating with someone who can't or won't help you meet them. In this episode, we discuss how we have learned to communicate our needs most effectively, and what to do when someone you love isn't supportive of those needs. To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To...

This week, our conversation is about...conversation. Specifically, we're digging into the tough conversations, and how we can have them more effectively. Confrontation is something so many people work incredibly hard to avoid. If you're one of them, this episode is for you. To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To connect with Dan: https://hihello...

The New Year is a perfect time to reflect and consider what we want to bring into our lives for the year ahead, and what we want to hold onto from the year before. As we evaluate the changes we want to make, it's important to consider energy flow - that we need to release some of the old to make room for the new. That energy flow forms the basis of our conversation in this episode. To connect...

What is shadow work? Why is it important? In this episode, we discuss those questions, as well as our own experiences with shadow work, and some important consideration to take into account on your journey through the shadows To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To connect with Dan: https://hihello.me/p/28b3075d-9769-4af4-9483-f15b74a78a7b Email us: ourm...

In this episode, we discuss the different ways we identify ourselves and determine our value. TW: Brief mention of suicidal ideation To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To connect with Dan: https://hihello.me/p/28b3075d-9769-4af4-9483-f15b74a78a7b Email us: ourmessyshadows@gmail.com

We can spend so much time and energy wading through complex solutions to a problem, when really, all that's needed is to go back to basics. TW: There is some discussion of weight loss in this episode. If that topic is triggering for you, we suggest you skip this one. To connect with Sarah: https://hihello.me/p/651c0b7c-ea68-46cd-83f6-755f7b403843 To connect with Dan: https://hihello.me/p/28b30...

This year, we're celebrating our first holiday season together, and in this episode, we reflect on some old holiday traumas and how we are rewriting our stories this holiday season. TW: If holidays are especially difficult for you, you may want to skip this one (or maybe you'll find it particularly useful!) Also, we use copious amounts of profanity in this episode, so maybe save this one f...

A recent board game defeat had us reflecting on how we use the tools we have available to us. If the tools aren't working, does it mean they are ineffective? Or perhaps the issue is that we're not using them in the way they are meant to be used. In this episode, we reflect on how we are (and aren't) using the tools we have available to us as we navigate our shadows in daily life. To co...