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Ep 26:  As parents, we spend so much time focused on our children that we often overlook our own well-being. In this episode, you will learn a simple way to understand and meet your own needs, because your happiness is just as important as your children’s! I'll share: -How to use the Tame Method to meet your own needs, too -The negative feelings and behaviors associated with the six essential need...

Ep 25: We all hate eye-rolling, sassiness, door slamming, and hearing “I hate you,” but children aren’t born disrespectful, so where does it start? You’ll learn: -Why children adopt disrespectful behavior. -The 5 ways you may unknowingly continue the cycle of disrespect. -Strategies to mend your relationship and stop the disrespect for good.   Free Worksheet Watch on YouTube Find Me Free eBook Fre...

Ep 24: We are seeing the fall of authoritarianism all around us, and it needs to be replaced with a system that leads by valuing togetherness. I’ll share: -Why authoritarianism is a harmful and ineffective way to lead. -Why Balanced Leaders are the future because they harness the power of togetherness. -How you can start the shift toward Balanced Leadership at home.   Free Worksheet Watch on YouTu...

Ep 23: School behavior needs improvement, and the authoritarian system is the problem. Parents and teachers must work together to advocate for change. I’ll share: -Why authoritarianism does not work anymore and why it causes more misbehavior. -The underlying reasons children are displaying defiance, “laziness”, disrespect, and violence. -Three ways parents and teachers can work together to improve...

Ep 22: Dr. Lisa Spector from Nemours Children’s Health joins me to discuss strategies for parents of children with ADHD. You’ll Learn: -What impulse control is and strategies to minimize it. -Emotional regulation techniques. -How to handle judgment from other friends, family, or strangers when managing challenging behavior.   Lisa Spector, MD, is Division Chief of Developmental and Behavioral Pedi...

Ep 21: If you and your child are having power struggles over school, it’s time to step aside and give them more control. You’ll learn: -What active and passive power struggles look like in school-aged children -Why children power-seek -3 solutions that give children more autonomy without giving up control completely.   Free Worksheet Watch on YouTube Find Me Free eBook Free 30-min Phone Consultati...

Ep20: To set your middle or high school child up for success in the real world, you will want to foster independence by pulling back without letting go completely. You’ll Learn: -The four qualities that will help your children thrive in the real world -How to foster these qualities through their middle and high school years. -Why adopting the role of navigator is the best way to promote independen...

Ep 19: To set your elementary school child up for long-term success, you’ll want to give them ownership by supporting them on the sidelines. You’ll Learn: -When to know it’s time to pull back. -What matters more than grades in elementary school. -How to use questions and cheerleading to promote independence.   Free Worksheet Watch on YouTube Find Me Free eBook Free 30-min Phone Consultation

Ep 18: Summer can be fun, but it also has its own set of challenges. Learn what to do LESS and what to do MORE to make it the best summer yet. You’ll Learn: -Why it’s ok to have fewer limits around learning, sleep schedules, and technology. -Ideas for getting your children more motivated to do chores. -How Cooperative Conversations can create more buy-in this summer.   Summer Success Coaching Free...

Ep 17: Why these three permissive parenting beliefs are problematic and the truths to adopt instead. We discuss these three myths: -My kids should be the priority above everything else. -I must prevent failure, mistakes, and negative feelings. -The more hands-on I am, the better my kids will be.   Summer Success Coaching Package Free Worksheet Watch on YouTube Find Me Free eBook Free 30-min Phone...

Ep. 16: Why these three authoritarian parenting beliefs are problematic and the truths to adopt instead. We discuss these three myths: -Our kids misbehave because they are bad. -I am not here to be my kids’ friend. -My kids should listen to me. I know more than them. Free Worksheet Watch on YouTube Find Me Free eBook Free 30-min Phone Consultation

Ep 15: A more in-depth look at consequences, with specific examples of how to turn commonly used punishments into Connected Consequences. You’ll learn: -How consequences are like gutter bumpers in bowling. -Why punishment is actually a form of parental misbehavior. -Examples of consequences for 4 common misbehaviors.   Free Worksheet Watch on YouTube Find Me Free eBook Free 30-min Phone Consultati...

Ep 14: Bike Riding Without Meltdowns with Tammy Bishop. Teaching our children how to ride a bike can be a daunting task filled with emotional breakdowns, but occupational therapist turned bike-riding instructor, Tammy Bishop, is here to break down the steps to make it easier and more fun for you and your child. You’ll learn: -Why bike riding is more complex and less intuitive than most parents rea...

Ep 13: Lisa Chan is an esteemed occupational therapist turned holistic parent coach who shares some of her best tips for parents raising children with sensory needs, Autism, ADHD, and challenging behaviors. You’ll learn: -Why your role as parents is so important for bridging the school-home connection. - How providing special jobs and chunking homework with movement breaks help with focus and beha...

Ep 12: Why it’s important that our children have their own personal boundaries and how to give them more freedom. You’ll learn: - How having personal boundaries benefits children into adulthood. - Why giving our children some power and control stops misbehavior. - 3 strategies for gradually allowing independence so YOU feel comfortable, too.   Free Worksheet Watch on YouTube Find Me Free eBook Fre...

Ep 11: Why punishments make life harder for you and your child and how to use consequences effectively. You’ll learn: - Why punishments don’t work - The difference between compliance and cooperation - The 5 essential elements of what I call Connected Consequences   Free Worksheet Watch on YouTube Find Me Free eBook Free 30-min Phone Consultation

Ep 10: Why boundaries help our children and two practical strategies for enforcing them that help maintain a connected, secure relationship. You’ll learn: - The two reasons holding and enforcing boundaries benefit our children. - The differences between a Pushover, a Boss, and a Leader. - How Saying No and Connected Consequences enforce boundaries in a kind but firm way. Free Worksheet Watch on Yo...

Ep 09: How to end homework battles for good so your family can experience more peace and togetherness after school. You’ll learn: - Why empathy and curiosity are the first steps to alleviating most after-school issues. - The four most common reasons children struggle with homework. - How to meet your child’s needs so homework battles disappear.   Free Worksheet Watch on YouTube Find Me Free eBook...

Ep 08: How to teach balance and safety online while maintaining a connected and respectful relationship. You’ll learn: - Why having the right mindset before setting boundaries is so important. - How to use curiosity to uncover the real reason technology is an issue for your family. - How to set healthy limits together through a Connected Conversation. Mentioned in this episode: Tech Addiction Sign...

Ep 07: Discover the underlying reason for stress and how to have more peace this holiday season. You’ll learn: -The secret message your stress is sending you. -Why ignoring stress damages both your health and your relationships. -How to Say No or Ask for Help easily so you can hold more personal boundaries. Mentioned in this episode: Dr. Gabor Mate Dr. Brene Brown Free Worksheet Watch on YouTube E...

Ep 06: Why controlling our children will never work and what to do instead. You’ll learn: -Why control is only a short-term bandage and just causes different, more insidious misbehavior. -That admitting an important truth is often the portal to healthier solutions. -How to use Curious Guidance or Enforceable Statements to gain cooperation Free Worksheet Watch on YouTube Email me Social Links Free...

Ep 05: Why children lose motivation towards school and how to empower them to take more ownership. You’ll learn: Why “lazy” children are actually often passively fighting back or quietly giving up. The two missing needs that underly this type of misbehavior. How to use Choices or Cheerleading to meet those needs and promote more school ownership from your kids. Free Worksheet Watch on YouTube Emai...

Ep 04: Step three- The transformative way to understand misbehavior so it is alleviated for good. You’ll learn: -How to interpret and manage your child's misbehavior -Which misbehaviors line up with which missing needs -The practical technique for managing misbehavior in the moment and preventing more in the future Free Worksheet Watch on YouTube Email me kristentame@gmail.com Social Links Free eB...

Ep 03: Step two- Why providing our children with these 6 key relationship needs is important and how to achieve the right balance. You’ll learn: -The connection between needs, feelings, and behavior -Why providing a mix of Belonging and Boundaries is essential to a balanced relationship -How to provide all 6 Belonging and Boundary needs Free Worksheet Watch on YouTube Email me kristentame@gmail.co...

Ep 02: Step one- Why and how to shift the power dynamic with our children. -Why Power-Over is harmful and ineffective -Why leading with togetherness benefits everyone - My process for shifting from Power-Over to Power-With Free Worksheet Watch on YouTube Email me kristentame@gmail.com Social Links Interested in my coaching ?