One Question with Leah Farmer

Most of us assume we’re on our own side — until we start listening to how we talk to ourselves. In this episode, Leah explores what it really means to have your own back and why so many of us turn against ourselves in moments of doubt, fear, or discomfort. You’ll hear how attachment styles shape not only our relationships with others, but also our relationship with ourselves. Leah explains how “ea...

We all know what we want — clarity, joy, momentum, connection, ease. But the moment we ask, “What’s standing in my way?” something deeper emerges. Sometimes the obstacle is external. Sometimes it’s internal. And sometimes it’s a story we’ve carried for years without questioning it. In this episode, Leah explores the psychology of obstacles — from self-imposed barriers like fear and perfectionism t...

Most of us take ourselves far more seriously than we realize — tightening our shoulders, clenching our jaws, and carrying the weight of the world as if everything depends on us. But what if easing up, even just 10%, created more space, clarity, and grounding than constant intensity ever could? In this episode, Leah explores how loosening our grip opens creativity, connection, and emotional regulat...

Many of us believe we know our values—but when asked to name them, we often struggle. We say things like “I know it when I see it,” or “that goes against my values,” without realizing that clarity comes from naming, not guessing. In this episode, Leah explores the power of identifying what you truly value and how it shapes every decision, relationship, and moment of peace in your life. She shares...

In a world that feels heavy with grief, injustice, and noise, how do we stay open without breaking? Leah explores the neuroscience of compassion fatigue, the importance of emotional regulation, and the quiet, practical rituals that bring us back to hope. She honors the strength of Black, Latinx, Indigenous, and LGBTQ+ communities; reflects on the resilience of young people; and reminds us that car...

Power often carries a bad reputation — associated with dominance, control, and fear. But real power is quieter. It’s born in truth, agency, and self-trust. In this episode, Leah reflects on how power can be reclaimed by those who care deeply, love honestly, and choose courage over performance. Through the lens of psychology, sociology, and personal experience, she explores how to find and hold pow...

What if loneliness isn’t something to escape—but something to understand? In this episode, Leah reflects on how modern life has made it easier than ever to be far from our people and how ancient biology still craves belonging. Drawing on neuroscience, Pema Chödrön’s “wisdom of loneliness,” and the gentle insight of John O’Donohue, she explores how sitting with loneliness can soften the heart, reve...

Sometimes the most powerful shift comes from asking the simplest question: What would be most helpful right now? In this episode, I explore how this question cuts through overwhelm, why it helps regulate our brains and bodies, and how asking it repeatedly can open surprising truths. You’ll hear a story of a client who transformed after facing this question three weeks in a row, and we’ll touch on...

In this episode of One Question , we explore the messy middle of being human: the ability to hold two conflicting feelings at the same time. From grief and relief, to love and anger, to joy and sorrow—duality shows up everywhere in our lives. Psychology calls it cognitive dissonance, philosophy calls it paradox, and spirituality calls it duality. Whatever the name, the invitation is the same: stop...

We are all born with the full spectrum of emotions — but most of us quickly learn that only some are “allowed.” Happiness is always safe. Men are often permitted anger. Women are allowed sadness. But confusion, fear, disappointment, or rage? Those are pushed aside, minimized, or punished. In this week’s episode of One Question , I explore how families, culture, and systems like patriarchy and capi...

What’s something you’re still beating yourself up for—even though the moment has long passed? In this episode, Leah explores the neuroscience of regret, the gendered expectations around self-forgiveness, and the cultural stories that keep us stuck in shame. This isn’t about making excuses or avoiding accountability. It’s about naming the places where you’ve taken responsibility, learned the lesson...

We spend so much of life trying to arrive — to be the expert, the one who knows. But what if there’s something essential we lose when we leave our beginner self behind? This episode explores what it means to hold both confidence and curiosity, especially in times of change. Whether you’re shifting careers, moving countries, raising kids, or learning to let go of ego, this is an invitation to recon...

Sometimes the heaviest burdens we carry aren’t ours at all. They’re the stories, labels, and quiet messages we’ve picked up from other people — and over time, they’ve become part of how we see ourselves. This week’s One Question explores why we hold on to these inherited narratives, how they shape our identity, and what it takes to finally set them down. Through a childhood memory of walking with...

We all do it. We look away from the thing we already know, because facing it might require us to change. This week’s One Question explores the psychology of self-deception, the quiet relief that comes from telling yourself the truth, and why naming what you’re pretending not to know is the first step toward freedom. Through the story of Maya, a client who avoided admitting her marriage was over, m...

This week’s question is: How would I live my life if I wasn’t worried about the future at all? In a world filled with uncertainty and fear, it’s easy to let worry drive our choices — at work, at home, and in our relationships. In this episode, Leah explores what it might look like to live, lead, and love from a place of trust instead of fear. Drawing from psychology, somatic wisdom, and leadership...

How do you know when something is truly over? In this episode, Leah explores the subtle signals we often ignore...gut feelings, body cues, and the quiet voice that tells us when a job, relationship, or belief has run its course. Through a personal story about leaving the church and trusting her intuition, Leah invites you to notice the truth your body already knows. Because sometimes, the real que...

There’s a playful but powerful question from Warren Berger’s Book of Beautiful Questions : “What’s your tennis ball?” It’s the thing you chase like a dog after a ball—joyfully, instinctively, with full-body yes energy. In this episode, I share how that question helps uncover passion, purpose, and presence. I also talk about my own “tennis balls” (coaching, leading groups, and writing stories that...

This episode asks a quiet but powerful question: When do I feel most at peace with myself? Not when you’re productive. Not when people are praising you. But when your nervous system finally exhales and says, this feels safe. Peace isn’t passive. It’s an intentional return to yourself. And sometimes, it starts with one question. This one is for anyone feeling overextended, overwhelmed, or overdue f...

So many of us grew up believing that struggle = value. That things only count if we pour ourselves out, leave nothing on the table, and make it hard . But… what if that’s not true? In this episode, I ask the deceptively simple question: What would this look like if it were easy? I share how I’ve been unlearning the urge to overcomplicate, over-effort, and over-function—especially in situations tha...

Sometimes we say yes when we really mean no—not because we want to, but because we’re afraid not to. In this episode, Leah unpacks the emotional toll of people-pleasing, unpacks the psychology behind self-abandonment, and shares a personal story of what changed when she started honoring her no. Consider this One Question: What do I keep saying yes to that I don't actually want? This is a reflectio...

When we think about who we wanted to be as kids, we often focus on the job title. But what if we looked deeper? In this episode, Leah shares a tender story of childhood dreams, chaos, and healing—and invites you to ask a question that reframes your inner narrative: What would my 8-year-old self cheer me on for today? With warmth, honesty, and a dose of psychology, this reflection will help you rec...

Joy isn’t always loud—and it’s not always easy to find. In this episode, Leah shares why joy runs deeper than happiness, how it often shows up in moments of flow or connection, and what neuroscience and research tell us about choosing joy on purpose. With personal stories and a warm invitation to reflect, this episode asks: Where is the joy lately? And have you been following it?

Avoidance feels protective—but it often keeps us stuck in pain far longer than necessary. In this episode, Leah shares a personal story of heartbreak and the moment she stopped avoiding the truth. With a grounding reflection and a powerful prompt, this episode invites you to ask: What am I avoiding, and what might happen if I faced it instead?

After years of burnout and bending to everyone else’s needs, one question changed everything for me: How do I want my life to feel? In this first episode, I share the story behind that question and why I still use it as my compass today.

Welcome to One Question —a short weekly podcast hosted by Leah Farmer. Every Sunday, I’ll share one powerful question worth sitting with. Not to fix or figure out—but to feel into. These are the questions that changed my life during burnout, heartbreak, and reinvention. In each 10-minute-or-less episode, I’ll tell a short story, and leave you with one question to walk with through the week. The fi...