ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

Your brain can and does impact your marriage. Those negative thoughts and positive thoughts that play in your mind will determine the outcome of how you react to your spouse. These thoughts play like a broken record and can stop you from taking action to better your marriage. The power of your words come after the but. My Marriage is Great But... When you use a BUT in your sentence you only focus...

Your year is about to get even crazier. Thanksgiving started the season of busy for you and your spouse and it will not end until after Christmas if you are lucky. This is the time of year when you can feel completely overwhelmed! The obligations of the holidays on top of the busyness of your regular life has you grasping for some quality time with your spouse. Finding time for you and your spouse...

The key to thriving in your marriage each and every year is to take time to share what you are thankful for in your marriage. This is a time when the busyness of every day life is put aside so that you can  honor your spouse. Grab a piece of paper, write down 5-10 reasons why you are thankful for your marriage, and then sit down with your spouse and share. This week we go over our "I'm Thankful Fo...

You're hiding something from your spouse and it is weighing you down. Maybe you have an addiction that your spouse doesn't know about. Perhaps you've spent more money than you shouldn't have and you haven't told them. Has that lunch partner become something more? Living with these burdens can stop you and your spouse from connecting emotionally, physically, spiritually, and sexually. You are const...

It can be tough to bring two families together and blend them into one family. Between exes, kids, alimony, child support, and ex-in laws it can be a real challenge for the two of you to find time to make intimacy a priority in your marriage. It is time to fight for your marriage and your blended family. Communication is the key to making this marriage work. Take off your masks, place all of your...

You may have come to a point in your marriage where sexual intimacy isn't happening any longer. The thought of you and your spouse having sex brings up anxiety in you. This in turn is stopping the both of you from moving forward and having the sexual intimacy you desire. This week we answer in detail how you can get the sexual intimacy back in your marriage. It's simple and something the two of yo...

Sometimes it seems like life is just too busy. You are running around here, there, and everywhere. The thing is that you sense a distance from your spouse and you need to connect. You need to connect emotionally, spiritually, and sexually. It's time to get radical in your marriage and make a change! This week we share all about the Intimacy Lifestyle. That's right, scheduling sex so you can connec...

Trying different positions while making love is something that we struggled with early on in our marriage. Since we learned little about the birds and the bees it is no wonder we had a difficult time when it came to different positions. Have you experienced a wall when it comes to trying new positions in your bed? We totally get it! In this episode we talk about the fears each of us face when it c...

I sat in a conference room this weekend for Allison Maslan's Blast Off! Business Breakthrough. It started on my anniversary and I will have to say I was excited to be there. This was mine and Tony's way of celebrating. I know it's kinda weird, but heck we aren't normal anyway. Many of the attendees there thought we were a bit weird once they learned about the awesome ONE Community! Over the weeken...

Love is active and love impacts the world in very big ways. When you first meet your spouse love was active and running rampant in you. Love was active, making you do things that made an impact. This week we had the opportunity to experience Bob Goff, author of Love Does, share how he does love around the world. Bob is charismatic, animated, and in love with doing to make an impact in this world....

Live from the inside out for lasting satisfaction in your life and marriage starts with you being authentic with yourself. This authenticity is the DNA that God has placed inside of you that makes your heart sing when you are YOU! You are an amazing creation that has the ability to be the same person no matter if you are at work, at church, with a group of friends, or in your bedroom with your spo...

In your marriage the power of touch, non-sexual and sexual, are vitally important to your well being. Did you know that touch can ease your pains, lessen anxiety in your marriage, soften the blows of life that come your way, generate hope and has the power to heal you? Your hand upon your spouse can also slow their heart rate, give them a feeling of relaxation and the spiritual connection is long...

Sexual rejection is tough on the spouse who is initiating sex. In our society the focus has been that of the husband getting rejected when initiating sex. Unfortunately, it's becoming more common for the husband to reject his wife. Long hours at work, gaming late into the night, pornography, emotional affairs, and other distractions are contributing to this behavior. In this show we look at the ro...

This week Tony and Alisa catch you up on all of the exciting developments that are being worked on at ONE Extraordinary Marriage. Over the last year the growth of listeners and readers has been amazing. All of your input via email, voice mail, or commenting on Facebook or Twitter have had us discussing how we can impact you and more marriage now and into the future. We need your help and prayers a...

Facing those skeletons in your closet can be hard. This week Tony shares about getting his girlfriend pregnant in college and then paying for the abortion. This event still impacts him 21 years later. Bringing up the skeletons in you past might not be worth the anguish to you. Fear, anxiety, and judgement stop you from letting go and releasing the skeletons. Instead you are held hostage, afraid to...

Is sex a stigma in your marriage? Has the past held you back from completely enjoying the amazing bond you could be having with your spouse? Sex ed or learning about the birds and the bees are an integral part of how you view sex in your marriage. Parents or other respected individuals may not have talked to you about sex, told you it was bad, or mentioned very little that didn't help you prepare...

The lights are dim in your bedroom and in the corner there is a blue chair. Jesus is sitting there. He is omnipresent in your life and right now he is waiting for you to allow Him into your sex life. Unfortunately, the reality is that you are to quick to compartmentalize Him out of your bedroom. You want to control this area as the thought of Him being there is a bit weird. Instead of developing a...

Illness, sickness, injuries, and other long term ailments can change the dynamics of your marriage. When this happens you have to adjust to having "A New Normal." In this episode we share how you have to re-learn all of your intimacies in light of changed circumstances. In your marriage that may mean figuring out new ways to be physically intimate, exploring different types of recreational intimac...

The wedding bells ring, you say your "I do's", and the honeymoon is bliss. You're married, the two of you have become ONE and yet you're not on the same TEAM. Shortly after that blissful day you find yourselves on opposite sides working against each other. You didn't expect this to happen in your marriage, yet it has. In this episode, we introduce you to another way to focus on your TEAM. Looking...

This past week we received an email from a listener asking why her husband won't come right out and ask for sex. There is cuddling, kissing, and yet he won't come out and ask for sex. Join Tony and Alisa as they talk about the fear of rejection, the different love languages in marriage and why it's so important to have conversations about sex before they grow into something larger. The 5 Love Lang...

As you sit in your living room laughing from the depth of your belly, tears rolling down your face, the world is left behind and all you see is your spouse smiling and laughing too. Both of you enjoying a moment that has pushed aside the emergencies of the day and allowed the two of you to enjoy one another. Laughter is beneficial in many ways. In your marriage laughter allows for you to let loose...

It's natural to fantasize, but are you fantasizing about your spouse or someone else? Fantasies can be a great way to spice things up in your marriage by changing things up. The opposite side is that they can also tear down the foundations of your marriage. In this episode we share the bad and good of fantasies in our marriage and how you can have mind blowing sex when you approach fantasies the r...

What kind of checking account do you have? The truth is that finances are always going to be a part of your marriage and how you come to handle money will color many aspects of your married years. Each of us comes into marriage with financial baggage. Learning how to join that financial history together is one challenge that ALL married couples face. For us, the decision to have a joint account wa...

Men it's time! It's time to show your wife how much you honor and cherish her. In this world where battles are raging against marriage every minute of the day your wife needs to know that the two of you are on the battle field together. She needs to know that there is nothing that you wouldn't do for her. Make a decision that after God she is next on your list of priorities. Do it today! Ephesians...

Many of us don't like confrontation. To avoid a confrontation we'll us different strategies. One of the most damaging is by saying one thing to our spouses with the full intention of doing something else. Instead of being honest with our spouse, we sabotage our marriage with these deceptions. This behavior requires us to expend so much more energy in trying to keep up pretenses then if we had just...