ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

Ouch! My body hurts. Physical ailments can cause strife in your marriage when you are unable to be sexually intimate with your spouse. You are not doing this to hurt your spouse and yet there is frustration for both of you. Is the pain manageable? Can you make changes to your medication? Would non-vaginal sex satisfy both of you? This week Tony and Alisa share ideas that you may not have thought o...

There are times in your marriage when everything seems to not be going as you planned. It's easy to point the finger at your spouse for all that is happening and yet the issues may be with YOU. Yes, you may be what's wrong with your marriage. Most times it is easier to lay the blame on your spouse. Why do you have to go through all the work to change yourself when your spouse can do it. This week...

You feel alone, unworthy, spoken to like a child, or watched everywhere you go. Physically your spouse hasn't laid a hand on you and yet the verbal and emotional barrage that you get daily has you at wits end. Have you experienced: Humiliation, degradation, discounting, negating. judging, criticizing Domination, control, and shame Accusing and blaming, trivial and unreasonable demands or expectati...

Get out of your comfort zone and do something exhilarating with your spouse. When you do amazing changes can happen in your marriage. You're flying high as you face your fears and stay present in the moment. To often in your marriage there is so much going on, kids activities, electronics, church function, etc, that you put on the brakes before you ever get the chance to do something new. This wee...

Your marriage is a participation sport. There are no rewards for sitting on the sidelines watching as the weeks, months, and years pass by. It's time for the two of you to stand on the field together, playing together, and enjoying this game we call marriage together. When you do your emotional, spiritual, financial, and sexual intimacy are going to be in sync. This week Tony and Alisa share how y...

Those underwear you are wearing are dragging you down. Nobody except your spouse sees them and yet when you are wearing them you don't feel sexy. Why would you want to have them around any longer if all they do is bring you down? Git rid of those hoely underwear! It's time for some spring cleaning so get those holey underwear out of your drawer and put them in the trash. In the process you'll lift...

Cuddling up with your spouse after a great love making session can do wonders for both of you. Your skin is the largest organ on your body and when it is in contact with your spouse's skin it can do wonders for your marriage. The act of cuddling with your spouse releases the hormone oxytocin, "the feel-good hormone", which can lead to overall happiness. Cuddling can also release endorphins, which...

The amount of sleep you get can directly impact your vibrancy as well as the quality of sex you have in your marriage. When you are tired and worn out sex is the last thing you may want to be doing. If anything, you would rather roll over and get more sleep. Well, a good night of sleep will benefit your sex life and many other areas of your life as well. This week Tony and Alisa share how you can ...

You have waited to try something new in the bedroom for months. You purchased what you needed, set the ambiance of your room, and now it's go time. As the two of you begin having some fun you realize that this isn't going the way you had planned. The candles smell horrible. There are laughs when you turn on the vibrator. Your hotel room bed is bumpy. A long day traveling leaves you spent. Recently...

Fear can stop you in your tracks and hold you back from what God truly wants from you in your marriage. It's during these times of fear that you need to face what is holding you back and move forward. Peter walked on water, but it was only when he got out of the boat did this happen. (Matthew 14:29-30) It can be difficult to get out of the boat sometimes in your marriage. This week Tony and Alisa...

Love starts out as that butterfly feeling in the pit of your stomach; a physical emotion that washed over you when you first met your soon-to-be spouse. During this get-to-know-you stage you were swept up with everything they did with you, such as holding your hand, rubbing close to you, and those kisses. Your emotions were cranked to the hilt and everything was great. You're happy. You're in love...

You were raised in a family where talking about sex and your private parts was a bad. Sex was bad everywhere you went and then you got married. Now you needed to flip the switch to good sex. This has been tough for you and to this day you still have a bad sex view point even with your spouse. This week we are here to help you overcome the thoughts that are holding you back from have good sex if no...

Hopefully you haven't actually had sex on a roller coaster. That would be very difficult to say the least and a bit dangerous too. No, this roller coaster is the parenting kind. The one that you a part of each and every day of your life if you have little ones to adult children living with you. The stress of raising, disciplining, educating, and being active with your kids can put the breaks on yo...

Stop the Glorification of Busy! It's not uncommon for you to ask someone how their day is going and the response you get is, "I'm really busy". You may even answer the same way when someone asks how your day, week, or month is going. Unfortunately, if you and your spouse are "so busy" that you don't have margin in your life you are missing opportunities when the two of you can seize the day. Yes,...

Consider yourself warned. Any time that you choose your parents over your spouse you are setting yourself up for heartbreak. Making sure that you have boundaries that will protect you, your spouse, and your marriage are needed. You love your parents, we love our too, and setting boundaries can be tough. Before we were married and after we were married we had to take time with both sets of parents...

It’s the time of year when cupid is abuzz with love in your marriage. The cost of chocolates, roses, and jewelry double or triple and a night on the town will set you back a Benjamin or two. The card isle at Target is filled with pink, red, and purple for you to profess you love with a card in any shape, style and size. As marriage educators we are not head over heels excited about Valentine’s day...

Your desire to be closer and more  intimate with your spouse. Emotionally, financially, and sexually you are there and yet your spiritual intimacy is lagging behind. Maybe you've even tried a few times (or many times) without success. We get it! We've been spiritually empty in our marriage. One thing though is that when you come together and dive into your spiritual intimacy it will take your marr...

In this digital age that you live in how often do you write a hand written love letter or get a romantic love letter? There is something to be said about this lost art of letter writing to that connects you to your spouse. The few moments it takes to express your love on paper can last a lifetime. This week we share how you can write a quick romantic love letter to your spouse so that you can expr...

Professional football is coming to a close with only one game left, the Super Bowl. The tryouts, practices, scrimmages, and the start of the season started long ago. The players began preparing themselves as well as the cheerleaders many months ago. It's the players on the field playing for that Super Bowl ring, but the cheerleaders on the sideline play an important roll on the field as well. Toda...

Taking time away and enjoying a sensual shower or bath can do wonders for your marriage. It's a time where you and your spouse are showing everything to one another and yet it brings you closer together. This time in the shower or bath can enhance your emotional, physical, and sexual intimacy in ways other places can't. This week we share 9 reasons why you should be taking a shower/bath with your...

It started out innocently. The conversation was fun, the walks were refreshing, you were losing weight together, and you were connecting. It wasn't that you were physically attracted and yet you became emotionally attached. Without you realizing it you are now in an emotional affair. This week we share a listeners experience with an emotional affair. She goes in depth on how it started, it's progr...

Whether you are kicking off the New Year or looking to set goals that will impact your marriage you need to get Ready, Set, Go! Making time for the two of you to be on the same page and what you'd like to accomplish is the first step toward an extraordinary marriage. The two of you may want to connect emotionally, spiritually, sexually or this may be the year you tackle your finances together. Wha...

The excitement of Christmas or vacation can have an impact on when and if you are able to make love. Being somewhere other than your house, kids, relatives, friends, and the like make having sex on these occasions a little tougher. It doesn't mean you can make it happen though. Have you ever wanted to make love on Christmas or steal away for some alone time on vacation? You have the best intention...

The events that unfolded at Sandy Hook Elementary School rocked us as we heard about what happened. We sat in our chairs after we recorded this podcast as tears filled our eyes. How is it that this week we would be talking about grief during the holidays and this tragic event happens? We do not know why, but we serve an awesome God.  Our prayers go to the families and marriages that have been impa...

What was marriage like before we did our 60 Days of Sex Challenge? This was a question we were asked from a listener who is going through a tough time right now. When you are in the depths of those valleys it is sometimes hard to see what's ahead. Your ability to look down the path and see what's ahead is squelched. We know where you are! We've been there before. This week we go back 5+ years to s...