ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

These nine words, "I Love You, But I'm Not In Love With You", when said in your marriage are a sucker punch to the stomach. They convey that you or your spouse are no longer willing to put forth any effort into the relationship. "In love" is really about the idea of being in love with the ideal spouse. Loving your spouse is love on a whole other level, it’s knowing what they look like when they do...

In your every day life you see the world and all that is around you in shades of grey. On the other hand you look at your marriage and there is only black and white, it's either all good or all bad. Your perception is that if your marriage isn't in one of these extremes then there is something wrong. Well, that place in the middle is where you want to be. This week Tony & Alisa share why it is imp...

When you get engaged and become newlyweds you get lots of advice from family and friends. They want you to start your marriage out on the right foot and yet the advice usually given is the same ole thing. After hearing, "don't sweat the little things", "hold hands all the time" and "be there for one another", for the hundredth time you want more. You're an engaged couple or married now and you kno...

At some point in time you have been interrupted while trying to have sex with your spouse. It’s not always the kids that interrupt you, but maybe a phone call, an alert on the phone or a knock at the front door. When interrupted there is a break in the connection you are experiencing with your spouse. It's the "Ughh! Interrupted Again" moment. What do you need to do to get back to being intimate a...

When you leave your marriage bed and begin to sleep in separate beds it can be the beginning to the end to your physical as well as emotional intimacy. Separate beds lead to separate lives and an up hill fight to keep your marriage together. What is it that has happened to you and your spouse that you would sleep outside of your marriage bed? Both of you need to take time and look back at why you...

If you allow you marriage to be stagnant for any amount of time you become distant from your spouse. This leads to a disconnect between the two of you and ultimately you become strangers. Be aware of the signs of stranger danger. It's a point where you or both of you are no longer able to recognize the person you married. You can reconnect again! This week Tony & Alisa share how you can put protec...

When your sex life has simple become a physical act that you and your spouse are doing it's time to evaluate what's going on. The quantity of sex you have each week or month is not a complete barometer of your relationship. Sexual intimacy is only one of the six forms of intimacy that the two of you should focus on to build a strong marriage. These six intimacies are vital to a marriage based on t...

You want spontaneous sex and you want it often and yet do you even know what spontaneous means? Dictionary.com says that spontaneous is: coming or resulting from a natural impulse or tendency; without effort or premeditation; natural and unconstrained; unplanned. How often is this happening in your life? Expecting to have spontaneous sex seems a bit unrealistic as you have many activities in your...

Recreational intimacy is being active together. Finding activities you both like to do and do them with each other. Take a walk, hike a mountain, go surf...whatever it is do something with your spouse that will bring the two of you together. When you spend time together you get your sexy back as you see each other excel and have a great time. Fitness doesn't have to be complicated. Get up and move...

You've been praying for healing, peace, forgiveness and change in your marriage for a long time. There are times when you wonder if God hears you or if He even cares about your marriage. It's easy to pray and then procrastinate. You've prayed and yet it is what you do afterwards that can have a profound impact on your life and marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share the what it looks like to pray a...

Words that you hear and then say back to your spouse can have a serious impact on the issue you are discussing in your marriage. The walls go up, the conversation stops and then the aftermath occurs. Your perception and the filters you have about what your spouse is going to say can lead to ineffective behavior and communication. There are two words that can change the entire conversation. These t...

Conceiving a child or not to conceive a child is something many married couples talk about. When it comes to knowing all the ins and outs of ovulation...well that is another story. When the two of you are educated on your (your wife's) menstrual cycle from month-to-month you are better able to understand your sexual intimacy. It's a way for each of you to connect because of the knowledge you now h...

You never plan to be out of work and yet there will probably come a time in your marriage when you or your spouse has lost their job. This can be a stressful time for you as you look for work again. The loss of a job can add financial stress, drive a wedge in your emotional intimacy and impact how you relate sexually with your spouse. It's during this time that you need to get out of the pity part...

Sexual intimacy is an important part of your marriage. There is a connection only you have with your spouse and it's amazing when you have it. The problem is that you're always initiating sex. After awhile it would be refreshing if your spouse were to pursue you. What would happen in your marriage if this were to happen? This week Tony & Alisa speak frankly about what it means to initiate sex. The...

There is so many things going on in your marriage that more often than not the connection you and your spouse have has been placed on the back burner. You can't even remember the last time you two had uninterrupted moments together. It's time to get back to the two of you. It's making a choice right now that your marriage needs to be in the forefront of your lives. Not only so you can talk, but th...

Every opportunity you have to fight for your marriage is one that you should take. There is so much out in your every day life that is trying to pull you away from each other. It is time for both of you to focus on each other and fight for your love. It may be for your spiritual intimacy, sexual intimacy, or for dates so you can be alone together. In this weeks show Tony & Alisa share that it is i...

There may come a time in your marriage when you and your spouse are miles apart. This may be due to a deployment, work, caring for a family member, a mission trip or many other reasons. It is during these time that you and your spouse need to have a mindset of togetherness. You'll also need to have a few ideas that will keep the two of you connected. This  week Tony & Alisa share how they have sta...

Temptation has been around since the beginning of mankind. It happened in the Garden of Eden and temptation may impact you and your marriage at one time or another. Even though temptation is present and will put your marriage in jeopardy there are safeguards that you need to put in place. These safeguards are set for the sole purpose of keeping your attention on what is most important, your spouse...

It is very easy after a confrontation with your spouse to say something like “Are we good?” and expect the issue to be resolved. In other situations you may not say anything and just go about your business with this unfinished issue hanging around you and your spouse. When you have many of these stacked one upon another there is going to be frustration and irritation in your marriage. In this week...

It's a fresh start, a clean slate and the beginning of a New Year! As you start a new year give serious consideration to where you and your marriage will be over the course of the next 365 days. What intimacy do you and your spouse want to focus in on for 2014. This week Tony & Alisa share the 6 intimacies and ideas that you can use starting now to have an impact on your heart. Man Up Gods Way Fac...

We know that you are busy with last minute preparations, trimming the tree, wrapping the presents, traveling and setting out the cookies for Santa. So we just wanted to take a few minutes to reflect with you on this season. As you unwrap this holiday season remember that the biggest and best gift that you can give your spouse is the gift of you. Your attention, your intention, and your commitment...

Reaching a milestone in your marriage, your 5th, 10th, 25th, etc anniversary, is a time of celebration. A time when you get to look back at all the amazing things you have done with your spouse. It's a time to share stories of how your spouse impacted you and your marriage. The two of you are the stars on this day. This week Tony & Alisa are celebrating. Not because the ONE Extraordinary Marriage...

Your spouse is asking you to get involved in the marriage because there is a problem. Ignoring it will not make it go away. Apathy will not make it go away. Getting involved with someone else will not make it go away. When this is happening you need to take look at all aspects of your marriage. More importantly you need to get involved with your spouse quickly. This week Tony & Alisa unwrap how yo...

Words are interesting and the subtle differences in meaning can often go unnoticed. Except that these words can be played over and over in your head. The words that you choose to use when you have to do something have meaning. These words carry weight not just to you but also for your spouse. This week Tony & Alisa look at two words that can lead to a ho-hum marriage or one that is extraordinary....

As the years pass in your marriage it is very easy to settle where you are. Between work, kids, church and other activities you aren't living your life out loud. It's time to bust out of your comfort zone so that you can go after that adventure that inside of you. Both of you will experience a new level in your lives and your marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share how they are getting out of their...