ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

In the hustle and bustle of the holiday season it is so easy to lose sight of one another. Between holiday parties, buying gifts and making sure everything gets done you often find yourself putting your spouse at the bottom of the to-do list without even realizing that it has happened. Unfortunately, every day that goes by without connection, without investing in your relationship can make it hard...

When tears are withheld and emotions are stuffed down inside of you this is a recipe for disaster over time. Stuffing it down again and again lead to frustrated people. Frustrated people lead to angry conversations and than more hurt. As a society and more specifically as married couples you need to make your marriage a safe places to cry. A place where you can release your emotions to be real wit...

There are many benefits to touch that have been studied over the years. They range from increased levels of oxytocin to lower blood pressure as well as an increase in overall connection. Physical touch that doesn't lead to sex is important. It's something that you should be doing in your marriage for your benefit and that of your spouse's. Three ways you can have non-sexual touch are when you hug,...

Woman's health may have an impact on your marriage when the time comes for a mammogram, ultrasound or when sterilization is brought up. These are just a few of the health procedures your spouse can have. The emotional toll these may take can lead you both feeling drained and on an emotional roller coaster. Through effective communication you can get through these woman's health issues together. In...

Whether you are celebrating your first wedding anniversary or your fortieth, this is a time to celebrate the good times you've had together. It's a time to look back over the past year and then look forward to what's ahead. Make it a day where you celebrate one another and your marriage. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about celebrating those good times on that annual milestone in your marri...

Pornography is becoming the drug of choice for many individuals. It's easy to conceal, doesn't cost as much as alcohol or drugs, but gives them the same euphoric high that they enjoy. Unfortunately, pornography in marriage is destroying the sexual intimacy that you desire. The sex is not what it used to be, your spouse has become withdrawn, or you may not be getting straight answers from your spou...

Common courtesy is something that you know you should extend to your spouse and yet it's not happening. It may be because you allow your spouse's actions to dictate if you will be courteous or not. The thing is that true common courtesy should not be a reaction but instead a heart attitude. This means that you say "please" and "thank you", you call to let your spouse know that you are running late...

Your job as a parent is to have your children for a season in your house. While they are there you must equip them with the tools that they need to leave your house and live on their own. Being your child's savior, rescuing them and providing for all of their needs and wants impacts three generations. These three generations could be impacted for the positive or for the negative. You get to decide...

Fear or worry can stop you in your tracks when it comes to moving forward in your marriage. Events in the past, words spoken or unspoken, or what may happen leave you feeling helpless. Fortunately for you love is great than fear. The love you have for your spouse can overcome the fear that is holding you back. It's time to push past the fear. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the impact...

You and/or your spouse may struggle with how to be vocal and speak up during sex. There isn't a one-size fits all, but there are a few different ways that you can speak up. Vocalization during sex is one way to encourage your spouse during sex. Both of you share in the enjoyment and excitement. Incorporate any of these and you will transform your sex life as it brings another form of communication...

There will come a time when you will come to a point in your life when you feel depleted, whether it is because of circumstances at home, at work, with family or health. At some point you are going to run out of steam and hit the wall. Your marriage is great when all is running smooth and yet it is what you do in those times when you bonk. You will either push through and let your ego take over, y...

When your spouse gives you advice that is unsolicited you may become defensive toward them. It's times like these that you need to check yourself and understand where they are coming from. Advice that is given in love without complaining or grumbling could very well be one of the most important things you can do. When you do this you show your spouse that you value them for seeing something you ma...

You are uniquely made as there is no one else on this earth that is like you. Even though this is true, you have a personality type that can be learned to better understand yourself and your spouse. The Ennegram with it's nine personality types is a tool that should be used by you so that you can grow in your life and marriage. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about how personality types im...

The Intimacy Lifestyle at it's core is about being able to set specific days that you initiate sex and the days your spouse will initiate sex each week. It's also a fantastic way for the both of you to not put off sex to another time, but to make it a priority in your marriage. By having days where both of you initiate sex it ultimately brings you closer together. There will be times though when b...

In your marriage the vulnerability you experience sexually with your spouse can be a challenge. Trying any position outside of the missionary position feels uncomfortable. For you it may be that the missionary position is efficient. Your spouse does this, you do that and wham bam it’s all done. You’re on your way and the next thing on your to-do list. Or maybe it’s routine. No need to think outsid...

There are many ways that you can connect with your spouse. The way that you do this depends on where you are and the time you have scheduled for each other. You may even FaceTime your spouse if you are traveling or away from each other. FaceTime is important in many ways as you get to experience more than just their tone of voice. The same goes for us here as our main way of connecting with you is...

Low libido due to stress can be frustrating to you and your spouse over time. You want to have a libido that is ready to go and yet the stress you endure has impacted you. This may be a phase or it may be going more prevalent due to work demands, family or other issues that you face. Stress has a direct impact on you libido because there is an increase in hormones such as cortisol and epinephrine...

The words you never thought you'd hear in your marriage, "I want a divorce", have been uttered by your spouse. They hit you as if you slammed into a brick wall and at that moment you're back against the wall. Your mind is flooded with all the reasons why this is happening to you right now. As you get your wits together you begin to recall all the times you've been asked to make a change. In this w...

You are constantly sending your spouse facial expressions. When things are going well you give a smile, bat those loving eyes, as well as radiate joy. When things aren’t going as well those facial expressions are not positive. From grunts, to the raised eyebrow, the looks of frustration and irritation. You send out these messages expecting that your spouse will make a change. Unfortunately, sendin...

When your marriage is pushed to the bottom of your priority list you can sense a disconnect with your spouse. Our priorities have been messed up in our marriage as well. Kids are one of the biggest reasons that your marriage has a lack of priority. How do the two of you expect to grow your marriage and your relationship if you don't put yourselves at the top. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk...

Summertime is here, the kids are out of school, and learning is the last thing on their mind. Unfortunately many of you have taken the same attitude in your marriage. School has been out for awhile now. You know what you know about your spouse and you don’t need to learn anything more. We can relate this to the high school senior that has stopped studying after receiving their college acceptance l...

Summer is a time when your sexual intimacy can take a back seat. There is no down time for you and your spouse with the kids home. The thought of having sex during the summer is the last thing you even think about. We’ve been there! The awkward moment when you hear the footsteps in the hallway. A knock on the door at an inopportune time. Or you're having a fantastic love making session and the kid...

When you participate in activities that are going to impact you, your spouse and your marriage these are not good choices. These choices don't foster trust, nor do these choices bring the two of you together. In fact it’s just the opposite. Knowing what to do so you don't make these choices is half the battle. It's the actions you take daily that allow for growth in you and your marriage. In this...

How many times have you had a conversation with someone about their marriage and heard, “Well, we’ve been married (insert number of years) years", as if that’s all their marriage is about. The longevity of their relationship means so much more instead of the quality of their relationship. We've been there too. When it comes down to it you can be married 6 months or 50 years and yet it's about the...

Foreplay is an opportunity for the two of you to mentally and physically get in the same place before intercourse. It's a time when you are brought into the present with your spouse as you enjoy one another without the distractions of your daily lives. During foreplay the two of you have time to love on each other in anticipation of what is coming up. And yes, both MEN and WOMEN need and desire fo...