ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

"A wedding anniversary is the celebration of love, trust, partnership, tolerance and tenacity. The order varies for any given year." —Anonymous When this show is first released on October 4, 2016, we will be 24 hours away from celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary. As with any milestone, we approached this anniversary with celebration. It also became a time to reflect on where we have been and...

"Knowing is not enough we must apply. Willing is not enough we must do." —J W Von Goethe When you don’t know what works in the bedroom (or what doesn’t) you may be paralyzed wondering... Does my spouse like this? Is this position OK? Are they initiating? Is this a good time? Think about this for a minute. If you don’t know what your spouse likes, it’s hard to be fully present in the act of making...

"In all things there is a law of cycles." —Tacitus (Roman Historian) It is absolutely critical that you understand the female menstrual cycle for your sex life and for your marriage. A woman’s body is absolutely amazing and it’s hard wired to ebb and flow as the hormones fluctuate each and every month. As a woman’s hormones change during the menstrual cycle so does her husband’s responsiveness to...

"Marriage doesn’t have the power to bind-only the actions of two people can do that. Forever and happy endings aren’t a given." —Leah Mercer You can make changes to your marriage no matter how long you've been married. For us it was at the 11 year make that we got radical when we started and completed the 60 Days of Sex Challenge. What you'll began to realize is that it’s never too late to stop th...

"When you start using senses you’ve neglected, your reward is to see the world [and your marriage] with completely fresh eyes." —Barbara Sher Your marriages may be experiencing some struggles due to the fact that you are loving each other with only one or two of the 5 senses you have. You may have fallen into what’s comfortable for you in your marriage and not necessarily what’s best for your marr...

"Never judge someone on their past because they are no longer in that stage of life." —Alisa DiLorenzo Sex before marriage can be a roadblock to deep sexual intimacy. If you had sex before marriage you may have feelings of guilt, shame, and resentment. On the other side your spouse may have had sex before marriage with other partners and now you question the level of their commitment, you compare...

You've been sharing with your wife that she is beautiful to you inside and out. You see her as this amazing, incredible gift from God. A gift that honestly you cannot wait to unwrap. You want her to realize that it's not a sin to acknowledge her own beauty and sensuality without feeling dirty and yet your wife doesn't see herself as beautiful. Your wife doesn't feel the same way about herself as y...

"I want a boring sex life, said no one ever." —Alisa DiLorenzo What would happen to your marriage if you broke the sexual routine you've been in and brought back some fun into your bedroom? Many couples are experiencing a sex life that has become one more thing on the to-do list. Same sexual routine time and time again that leads both you and your spouse to wondering why you even have sex. Your se...

It’s not your husband or your wife that’s the problem. The problem is the problem. Do you remember the part in your vows where it was spoken that the “two become one”?  That piece is talking about the two of you. The two of, now marriage, have became one. Newsflash: You are on the same team in your marriage and you need to start looking at life like you are on the same team not as rivals. You need...

Your wife does not want to be your mother! She is and desires to be your wife and your lover. Unfortunately, more often than not she is treat as your mother. She's the person in the house who picks up after you, makes sure your laundry is done for when you need it, and treated the same way you treated your mother when you were growing up. Here's the thing... She does not want to be your mothers. S...

Is there an emasculated man living in your home? For the purpose of this show emasculated means: Make a person weaker or less effective Deprive a man of his role or identity Wives, you have the opportunity to not have an emasculated man in your marriage by the thoughts and action you have toward your husband.  Husband's are being emasculated every day in their marriage, even ours has experienced t...

The Intimacy Lifestyle was introduced to the ONE Family as a way for you and your spouse to not have to wonder if you were going to have sex or not. Unfortunately, over the years we have heard from couples who have started to only get derailed for one reason or another. Some of these reasons are... "We agreed to The Intimacy Lifestyle but it seems like I am always having to remind my spouse". "My...

Resentment is a poison that builds slowly as it snowballs into extreme disconnect. What starts out as one disappointment becomes a laundry list of all of the ways that your spouse has hurt you, disappointed you, not been there for you, etc. The resentment that you harbor toward your partner can be masked as: Anger Boredom Indifference Withdrawal Disconnect What started out as something manageable...

Married couples perform both sex and making love. Would you agree? Sometimes it is intentional and sometimes it's because of circumstances. Sex happens when you only have 10 minutes before dinner for a quickie. You only have 10 minutes so it’s not going to be a marathon love making session. But if you are on vacation by yourselves with no kids now there’s no need to just have sex. You plan on maki...

Last week we returned from our 20th anniversary trip to Peru. Our travels took us from San Diego to Lima, Peru, Cusco and then on to Machu Picchu.  The international trip involved two red eye flights through Dallas on the way there and then Miami on our way home. Once in country... 2 flights from Lima to Cusco and back. 5 van rides from various points of our travel 4 tour buses including one that...

What's the risk reward in your marriage? There's a risk in any relationship between two people. You risk being vulnerable. You risk being rejected. You risk being misunderstood. You risk hurt feelings. You risk anger. You risk silence. You risk the distance growing in your marriage. You risk losing your marriage. In many marriage the idea of risk reward is a recurring theme. Here's the thing about...

What would your marriage look like if you and your spouse were having sex on a consistent basis? Maybe for the two of you it would be one, two or even 4 times a week and yet your not quite sure how to make this happen. For this to happen it takes planning and a clear understanding of how it will benefit your marriage. It doesn't just happen. You will need to be intentional as you invest your time...

The truth is that every couple goes through cycles of good times and tough times. The bigger issue is when those cycles last indefinitely and no one takes action. I want out. I don’t want to do this anymore. It’s too hard. You may have said these to your spouse or vise versa. Either way it's time to shift the tide in your marriage before it is to late. According to couples therapist, Carrie Cole:...

It’s summertime and like a lot of things your sexual intimacy can take a back seat to vacations, family visitors and even the kids being home. Make sure you have a plan for summertime sex this year and for years to come. The areas that you need to be aware of when it comes to summertime sex are: Setting expectations BEFORE you travel on vacation. When family or friends are in town how do you make...

Do either of these sound familiar… "I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded(husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part." OR "Will you have this woman/man to be your wife/husband, to live together in the covenant of marriage? Will you love her/him, comfort her/him, honor, and k...

"Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present." —Jim Rohn Have you ever said: My husband doesn’t make me happy anymore My wife doesn’t make me happy anymore I’m not happy in marriage This isn’t making me happy Don’t I deserve to be happy Where is my happiness Why can’t I be happy There is an epidemic... An epidemic of people who aren’t happy in...

Day after day we hear from couple after couple that their marriage is not what they wanted or expected. There is no romance. The sex is OK, at times. There is a struggle with communication. There are many disconnects. Digging deeper into each relationship, sex has been a part of most of these relationships from the very beginning. Before these couples truly knew each other, they were involved in o...

Knowing how to initiate sex in your marriage can be a very real challenge. You're not sure what to do or when you do if your spouse even realizes that you're initiating. On the other side of this is a frustrated who doesn't understand why you can’t or decide not to initiate. For them it’s similar to living in a constant state of rejection. Think about it. If you rarely initiate then it is always u...

To get married you had to have a marriage licence. Here's the thing though... This is the only license that you are never required to renew. You are not required to go to class, spend time and money, or become more informed to grow. On the other hand you have to renew your driver’s license, retake the written test and sometimes take the driving test. There are many professions that require continu...

When you move into a new house there are... New bedrooms, living areas, bathrooms and other place to explore to enjoy sex. And yet, you may find yourself night after night in the same spot. Your bedroom! What do you do as doing the same thing over and over again, in the exact same way is become to routine. And... Routines leads to boredom and boredom leads to disconnect. When anticipation and exci...