ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

"Men who trust other men will make fewer mistakes than he who distrusts them." —Camillo de Cavour When you think about your friendships as a kid and as an adult a few things stand out and the research is supporting this. During childhood both boys and girls have friends and often make deep friendships. From roughhousing on the playground to building with Legos, from competing on the sports field t...

"We don’t grow when things are easy, we grow when we face challenges." —Anonymous You want to last longer and yet most of the time you ejaculate quicker than you'd like. When you orgasm within 1-3 minutes of penetration this is general considered premature ejaculation. 20-30% of men (and their partners) are impacted by what is considered the most common type of male sexual dysfunction. Here’s the...

"When you can’t talk about your sex life there’s a connection that the two of you are missing out on." —Anonymous The world that you live in is hypersexualized and yet couples struggle with talking about their sex life with each other. How-to talk about sex is everywhere... it's on TV, on magazine covers, right here on the internet, with your friends but, when couples are asked if they are talking...

"The moment when he rolls over, puts his arm around me and pulls me closer, in his sleep. I like that." —Country Thang Many marriages are suffering from some lack of connection. Often it’s due to our busy schedules and the commitments that keep us running around like crazy. Maybe it’s the kids or your parents who have you running around. Work, volunteering and keeping the house inside and out add...

"Sex solves most problems including headaches." —Anonymous You have a crazy headache, while on vacation, with plans to have sex, on the only night you have away from your kids. You take a nice nap to see if that would take care of it and it didn’t. You still have a headache. You're still in the hotel room you booked. And... you still have a spouse with the expectation that this is your opportunity...

"In life it’s not where you go, it’s who you travel with.” —Charlie Schultz There are times when your vacations don’t always go as planned. You have your expectations for everything. From how relaxing it’s going to be to how often the two of you are going to have sex. You think about the adventures you are going to go on, the shows you will see, the relaxing you are going to do and the money you w...

"Let’s cuddle so that I can steal your body heat.” —Anonymous There are different reasons and times of the year when your bedroom is cold. It could be winter time, the air conditioning is on to beat the summer heat or your bedroom is in a cool part of your home. On the other hand one of you may run colder than the other. (We live this in our marriage.) When you are cold it makes heating things up...

"Intimacy is not purely physical. It’s the act of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel like you can see into their soul.” —Anonymous Spiritual intimacy has a huge impact on you and your marriage. And yet it’s the one intimacy that often gets overlooked or minimized even though it’s just as important if not more so than the others. In our marriage there have been seasons when we are clicking...

"Money is an opportunity to reach unity in marriage. When couples work together they can do anything." —Dave Ramsey You have probably heard the quote, "You should never talk about money, politics or religion." Now, this might be true if you are at a dinner party and yet... You are taking this stance when it comes to money in your marriage. There is no connection, discussion, or even a conversation...

"So many people hear the words physical intimacy and think about sex. There are so many layers to being physically intimate with your spouse, choosing just one aspect shortchanges both of you." —Anonymous Touch is so important and yet touch in any form may be absent or inconsequential in your marriage at this time. This absence of touch or in the quality of the touch, leads to a feeling of being u...

"You define what is important to you by who you spend your time with." —Anonymous When you were dating there was no shortage of things to do or ways that you wanted to spend your time together. No matter where you were or what time of day it was you got creative. You would pick up on the smallest comments and run with it, turning that comment into an incredible adventure you would do together. And...

"When you forgive, you in no way change the past but you sure do change the future." —Bernard Meltzer The year started off with us discussing the importance of emotional intimacy in your marriage. This is how the two of you communicate and is the foundation for growth in the other five intimacies. How the two of you connect during both the good and tough times will make the difference. After last...

"Communication must be HOT...Honest, Open and Two Way." —Dan Oswald Do the two of you have time each week when you can connect with your thoughts and feelings?  We spent many years of our marriage, probably the first ten years with little to no emotional intimacy. We could talk about anything while we were dating and then after the ring and the wedding... crickets. It was easier to avoid confronta...

"Think as BIG as you possibly can and base what you do, how you do it and who you do it with on succeeding at that level." —Gary Keller & Jay Papasan If the two of you don’t have a vision for 2017, it’s going to look a lot like 2016. As you look ahead you need to know what areas of your marriage you want to focus on? These areas include: Financial intimacy Physical intimacy Spiritual intimacy Recr...

"Traditions remind us to stop the busy cycle of life long enough to reconnect and build bonds." —Sabrina Beasley McDonald It’s important for the two of you to have your own night before Christmas or Christmas Day traditions. Something that you do together, a gift or an adventure that is about you as a couple. This is about the two of you as your own separate entity, separate from the kids and from...

"Right NOW is the most important moment in your life." —Gail Lynne Goodwin Another day comes to an end and you and your spouse are tired. Earlier in the day you both were romancing each other and had every intention to enjoy one another. But it's another night of you falling asleep even before you start foreplay and leaving you both frustrated with your sexual intimacy. There is much on your plate...

"Sometimes all you do is smile. Move on with your day, hold back the tears and pretend everything is OK." —Anonymous The holiday season is a busy time of year. You are are pulled in many directions and feel overwhelmed with the responsibilities of job, family, kids, volunteering, Christmas parties, and everything else that is on your plate. It's a time when you may feel like there is too much goin...

"What do brushing your teeth, taking a shower and making time to shave all have in common? They all improve your chances in the bedroom." —Alisa DiLorenzo Interestingly enough we have never tackled the topic of personal hygiene, even though it’s something that we frequently discuss in our marriage. Things like morning breath, unshaven legs, and manscaping is what we're talking about. When you are...

"Showing gratitude is one of the most simplest yet most powerful things that human beings can do for each other." —Randy Pausch Thanksgiving. It's a time dedicated to giving thanks and expressing gratitude to those you love. The act of expressing gratitude is important for your spouse who receives your gratitude as well as for you who is giving it. When you do this for and with each other it chang...

"If her bra matches her panties when you take off her clothes, it wasn’t you who decided to have sex." —Anonymous When you are wearing sexy underwear it has a way of bringing you and your spouse together in a special way. A loose definition of sexy underwear is: underwear that has fun colors or patterns that hug you in all of the right places because they fit. Many folks dismiss the importance of...

"Once you lie to me the first time, I’ll question everything else you say." —Anonymous When you lie to your spouse it's a cancer that multiplies over time. The lie starts off small and then grows with one lie after another. Eventually you have something so large and unrecognizable that the pain you are experiencing has to go. We are experiencing an epidemic in marriages, an epidemic of lying and i...

"Snoring is a good indication that one person is asleep and no one else is." —Linda Poindexter It's been another long day as you prepare yourself for a good night sleep. You slide into bed, turn on your Sound+Sleep Machine as you enjoy a quiet house. Your eyelids begin to close and you are just about to fall asleep when… The snoring starts. Oh no! Another night of sleep is going to be a challenge....

"Circumstances may cause interruptions and delays but never lose sight of your goal." —Mario Andretti Has there ever been a time in your marriage when you and your spouse were about to enjoy sex and then you hear a knocking at your door? Maybe you can relate to this scenario… All of the kids are in bed (or so you think) The house is quiet You’re locked in your room Your Sound+Sleep Machine is on a...

"The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that is has taken place." —George Bernard Shaw When you have certain expectations, your spouse has expectations and yet neither of you communicate them to each other there will be unmet expectations. Each of you will have a level of frustration that you are experiencing. You may even be say things like: I don’t understand why he/she does...

"Desire creates havoc between two people when it is the ONLY thing between them or when it’s what’s missing." —Mignon McLaughlin Have you ever experienced: Lack of sexual desire Low libido No libido A take it or leave it attitude No expression of desire No sexual connection. A sexual connection with your spouse is a primary need. Unfortunately, a lack of sexual desire is impacting your marriage an...