On Attachment

If you're someone with an anxious attachment style, there's a good chance you've really struggled to cope with relationship break-ups at some point in your life. And while break-ups are hard across the board, anxiously attached people tend to have an especially hard time wading through this emotional experience.  In this episode, I'm sharing 5 reasons why break-ups are so chall...

In this episode, I'm answering all your break-up related questions! We're covering whether and when to break a "no-contact" period, how to navigate jealousy and comparison around an ex's new partner, what to do when you feel blindsided by a break-up and have no closure, and more. Further resources: Click here to sign up for my break-up course, Higher Love Follow me on Inst...

In this week's episode, we're talking all things closure: what it is, why it's so elusive, and why certain people are more affected than others by an ending that lacks closure. I'll also share some tips on steps you can take if you're finding yourself wanting (but struggling to find) closure after a break-up, so you can take back control and let go with grace.  Links: Clic...

In this episode, we're diving into the challenging topic of how to know whether and when to walk away from a relationship that isn't working. I offer you five guiding questions that will lead you to greater clarity, insight and awareness in making the decision of whether to stay and keep trying, or whether it's time to go. Click here to sign up for my break-up course, Higher Love Hi...

In this episode, I'm sharing with you 5 of the red flags that I see in relationships, along with their healthier, "green flag" alternatives. We'll talk through things like knowing where you stand with someone, communication of needs and concerns, trust and commitment, how integrated you are into each other's lives, and how you approach conflict (and repair). To join my upc...

Ever wondered what differentiates the fearful avoidant and the dismissive avoidant attachment styles? In this episode, I'm breaking down 5 key differences between these two types. We cover things like level of emotional attunement, relationship to boundaries, shame and guilt, and openness to personal development work. Click here to sign up for my live masterclass "How to Navigate Anxious...

In this episode, we're talking about anxious attachment, conflict & communication. We'll dive into why anxiously attached people struggle with identifying and communicating their needs, how to navigate conflict aversion fuelled by a fear of abandonment, and tools to navigate communication and conflict in your relationship in a healthier, more adaptive manner so you can avoid the cycl...

In this episode, we're diving into 5 ways to support an anxiously attached partner. This is a follow-up to our previous episode which discussed how to support an avoidant partner. We'll discuss things like openness and transparency as an antidote to uncertainty, how to manage your need for space in relationship with an anxious person, how to give them reassurance and help them to feel lo...

In this episode, we're diving into 5 ways to support an avoidant partner - so that you can cultivate greater understanding and connection, and build a safe, secure relationship. We'll touch on whether it's a good idea to tell your partner that they're avoidant, how to communicate your needs in a way that your partner can receive them, how not to communicate with an avoidant par...

In this episode, we're diving into the fear of rejection. Rejection is something so many of us struggle with, but for some people it can be really debilitating. We'll discuss how to navigate the fear of rejection and how this fear interfaces with other behaviours like approval-seeking and chronic people-pleasing.  Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously...

In this episode, we're talking all things boundaries - what they are, what they aren't, how to figure out what your boundaries are and how to set and enforce them. We'll also discuss why boundaries are the antidote to people-pleasing, the saviour complex and burnout. Click here for $50 off my signature 6-week program, Healing Anxious Attachment Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Traini...

In this episode, I'm giving you the lowdown on my signature methodology for how to heal anxious attachment.  We'll discuss exactly what's involved in learning to shift from anxious to secure attachment, including reprogramming core beliefs and learning to regulate your nervous system. We'll also cover tools and skills like boundaries, communication and managing expectations. To...

In this episode, I'm offering 5 tips for processing and navigating a break-up. We'll be discussing topics like managing expectations around the challenges of a break-up, shifting how you relate to seeking closure, the stories we tell ourselves, and how to rediscover who we are after a relationship ends.  Click here to sign up for my break-up course, Higher Love Highlighted Links Free Bre...

In this episode, I'm diving into 5 steps to working through a trigger. I'll be discussing the importance of nervous system regulation to your healing journey, why talk therapy alone doesn't work, and what to do to self-soothe and self-regulate when you feel activated and overwhelmed so that you don't sabotage your relationship with unhealthy, fear-driven behaviours. Join the wa...

In this week's Q&A episode, we're exploring a mixed bag of love & relationship questions. Topics include how to navigate conflict with a partner who won't engage, how to manage your anxiety when physically apart from your partner, why you might be attracted to unhealthy people, and what to do when you're one foot in, one foot out of a relationship. Click here to join th...

In this episode, we're diving into the anxious-avoidant trap - aka, what happens when an anxious and an avoidant person end up in a relationship. We'll cover what the anxious-avoidant trap usually entails, how these two attachment styles clash, why they're so often attracted to each other, and most importantly, how to make it work. Click here to join the waitlist for my signature pr...

In this episode, I'm answering your questions around how to navigate relationships with avoidant partners. We're covering topics like how to effectively communicate with an avoidant partner, whether an avoidant partner will ever realise they're avoidant,  whether an anxious person can be in a healthy relationship with an avoidant person, and how to reconnect with an avoidant partner...

In this episode, we're exploring 5 traits of the lesser-known fearful avoidant (or disorganised) attachment style. We'll cover the fearful avoidant's conflict between wanting intimacy but also fearing it, their combination of anxious and avoidant behaviours, their difficulty trusting others and fear of betrayal, their high levels of emotional attunement, and their struggles with sel...

In this episode, we're unpacking 5 traits of the dismissive-avoidant attachment style.  We'll cover the dismissive-avoidant's fierce independence, their struggles with intimacy & commitment, their high self-esteem, their sometimes rigid boundaries and expectations, and their use of distance as a protective mechanism. Click here to join the waitlist for my signature program, Heal...

In this Q&A style episode, we're diving into questions from the audience around dating - and particularly, dating as an anxiously attached person. Some of the topics covered include how to regulate anxiety around dating, how to manage expectations and let go of the idea of "the one", how to know when to stop giving someone another chance, and what to do when they say they don&ap...

In this episode, we're unpacking 5 key traits of the anxious attachment style - particularly in the context of adult romantic relationships. We'll talk about the anxious person's high need for love and affection, the fear of abandonment, struggles with uncertainty and inconsistency, overthinking, and jealousy. Join the waitlist for my signature program, Healing Anxious Attachment Fo...

Most of us have heard about attachment styles and attachment theory - but in this episode, I'm breaking down some common misconceptions and clarifications. Join me as we discuss things like whether attachment styles can change,  whether you can fall into multiple attachment styles, and whether it's possible to shift from insecure to secure attachment. Click here to join the waitlist for...