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How do you go about forgiving a parent for how they affected you negatively in your upbringing? In this episode we are joined by our stepfather Sekou Rubadiri who shares some history of his relationship with his father and how he navigated forgiveness. We're so glad you made it to the end of season 4. We hope you have a restful and joy filled holiday season and we'll see you in the new yea...

In this episode, Gathoni prompts us to learn more about each other by asking us questions from her journal. Listen in to discover whose teddy bears move around at night, who the piano prodigy in the family is and what advice we would give our 7 year old selves. Get out a notebook and answer these for yourself.  You can follow us on social media at @okaykiasi https://linktr.ee/okaykiasi//   Music...

Following our discussions earlier in the season on having children and the framing of sex from the perspective of the church and culture, we invited a special guest, Mellap Murila, to share her journey of having a child while in college. We talk about the lessons her experience taught her, how she’s navigating parenthood and her babies also make a brief debut - never play with Bluey! We are gratef...

In this flag themed episode, we answer a series of scenario based questions and share our opinions on whether they are worth ignoring, putting up with or warrants ending the relationship. We also sprinkle some fun flag trivia throughout the episode.  You can follow us on social media at @okaykiasi https://linktr.ee/okaykiasi//   Music by Adri Ray - Watch Me - https://thmatc.co/?l=C9A2878B//

Is fear hardwired or learned? In this episode, we dive into our fears, exploring whether they're inborn or learned based on an article on the evolutionary purpose of fear. We chat about where we picked up some fears plus share tips from the book "You Are a Badass" by Jen Sincero on how to conquer fear. Also, here's an interesting article on why we fear the dark: https://www.science...

Does the title say sex? Yes it does! We are going into the conversation about our perspectives on sex, where we first heard about it and how our experiences have formed our relationship with it. Of course, it would not be complete without a bit of a science lesson! Get your headphones on if you don't want your mother asking you questions. Resources: Crave: https://www.instagram.com/lovecrave/...

How independent are you? In this episode, we discuss how our upbringing affects the level of independence we have and the rise of the label "toxic independence" when referring to women. Are there certain behaviors and traits that can be considered toxic in independent people? Find out in today's discussion! Article mentioned: https://www.powerofpositivity.com/independence-toxic-behavio...

Season 4 kicks off with an electrifying start as Nyam brings back her "It is to say" Kamusi definitions. In this episode, we delve into our experience with Spotify's AI DJ Xavier, affectionately dubbed ZayZay by Gathoni, the profound topic of parenthood and the factors that have shaped our decisions on whether to embark on this journey or not. We’d love to hear your thoughts on the con...

Spin spin spin spin mi yeh! To celebrate the end of season 3 and to thank you for over 15,000 streams, we reached out to some of our loyal listeners and had them spin the wheel. Hear some of their recommendations and our reactions to them. Thank you for all the support thus far! Season 4 is coming soon!  You can follow us on social media at @okaykiasi https://linktr.ee/okaykiasi//   Music by Adri...

We asked you on our social media to ask us anything and you showed out! In this bonus episode we answer your questions and give a quick catch up as we plan for Season 4. You can follow us on social media at @okaykiasi https://linktr.ee/okaykiasi//   Music by Adri Ray - Watch Me - https://thmatc.co/?l=C9A2878B//

In this last episode of season 3, Chiku surprises us with questions which will definitely help you get to know us better. We talk about funerals and discover which of our exes our sisters hate. If you do this question tag with your friends or siblings, please share the thing that surprises you most. Thank you for sticking with us through it all. We appreciate you! See you in season 4!! You can fol...

You asked us how we deal with conflict and we address it in this episode. We looked at different conflict resolution strategies based on the research of American educators Kenneth Thomas and Ralph Killman. Does accommodating others make you resentful? Does your conflict resolution style change based on the person and situation? We’d love to hear from you! Link to article: https://kilmanndiagnostic...

You asked and we listened! Navigating female friendships has been a requested subject and in this week’s episode, we're diving into it. Friendship between women is complicated but do female friends just expect too much? Can you have a male BFF with no feelings attached? Tune in to find out!  You can follow us on social media at @okaykiasi https://linktr.ee/okaykiasi//   Music by Adri Ray - Wat...

In this episode, we take a look at our individual journeys with body image and physical fitness. We would love to hear you chime in on the conversation on our social media You can follow us @okaykiasi https://linktr.ee/okaykiasi//   Music by Adri Ray - Watch Me - https://thmatc.co/?l=C9A2878B//

In this episode we talk about our career journey’s and how they are linked to the courses we studied at university. We host Baraka Mwaura who has had several career paths in different sectors, each one very divergent from his Law Degree. He talks us through his decision making process and what factors led to each change. We also discuss if we should be asking children what they want to be when the...

This episode continues last week's discussion on ending period stigma. We hosted Janet Mbugua who is a media personality, advocate for social impact and boy mum. She shares the story of her first time and let’s us know how we can play our part as individuals to amplify and advocate for period justice. Here are the resources mentioned of organizations playing their part in ending period injusti...

Menstruation, Shark Week, Red Robot, Aunt Flo, Crimson Tide, Code Red! This week we talk about all things period. For something that is experienced by 49.5% of the world population, there’s a lot of hush tones and secrecy around it. Did you know that on average, a woman menstruates for 7 years during her lifetime? In this episode we share our experiences as we add to the conversation on a normal p...

We’re so excited to be back! We decided to start off season 3 discussing our hair journey. In this episode, we explore the things we thought/were taught as young girls, Kenyatta market visits, our loc journey and what cutting our hair meant to each of us. You can follow us on social media at @okaykiasi https://linktr.ee/okaykiasi//   Music by Adri Ray - Watch Me - https://thmatc.co/?l=C9A2878B//

Thank you! Thank you for getting us to 10,000+ streams!! Thank you for your patience too. In our first episode back, we catch you up on what’s been happening in our lives. You took the journey with us as we learnt about ourselves and in this episode we share a key learning we each had in 2022. We’re planning for Season 3 and would love to know what you’d like to hear. We can’t wait to hear from yo...

Do you ever have a win and immediately start worrying about what is about to go wrong? Gathoni had introduced the upper limit problem as written in the book The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks. The goal in this book is to accept the possibility of always feeling good and having things go well for you. In this episode we discuss the four hidden barriers to achieving impact and how we have seen them in ou...

In this week's episode, we talk about our view on money and how our parent's approach to finances affected our outlook. We also take a deep dive into understanding what our relationship with money looks like based on the article below. https://www.wespath.org/health-well-being/health-well-being-resources/financial-well-being/understand-your-relationship-with-money

How does your education affect your thinking? In this episode we discuss our education history and the importance our parents placed on doing well at school. We also discuss the 70-20-10 rule developed by the Center for Creative Leadership. While the theory is used in organization training development,  we explore how much of our learning can be attributed to experience, exposure and education.

Have you heard of attachment styles? According to the attachment theory, there are 4 attachment styles which develop early in life and affect your relationships. After our chat in the last two episodes, we decided to take the free quiz and share our results and our thoughts about them in this episode. As always, we encourage you to also do the quiz and learn how it affects your relationship behavi...

We’re talking about loin springers! This week, we take a deep dive into our individual relationship history and how we feel about marriage and children. We also had a special guest, Chiku’s husband Christian, join us to share his perspective on our family dynamic and how it has affected their relationship. You can follow us on social media at @okaykiasi https://linktr.ee/okaykiasi//   Music by Adr...

At the end of season one we asked you what you want to hear from us in the upcoming season and relationships was the number one response. In this episode we talk about how our upbringing affects our relationships, both romantically and within friendships. This episode is very vulnerable. We give a trigger warning (very on brand for us) so grab your box of tissues and enjoy the episode! You can fol...