OH-Kay, but seriously

Content Warning: This episode contains brief mentions of rape and infertility, particularly in the context of fears surrounding endometriosis. While these topics are not discussed in detail, they do form part of the conversation. Please listen with care, especially if you’re sensitive to these subjects. Thank you for taking care of yourself. Endometriosis often referred to as “endo”, is a conditio...

Why do some of us feel so called to be somebody. To make a mark, to mean something beyond our own lifetimes, even when it feels exhausting to try? There is a quiet heaviness of being a dreamer. Especially when you’re someone (like myself) who is living with depression. Let’s talk about to carry deep ambition, to crave legacy, and to want more than just survival or “a normal life.” This isn’t just...

I’d like to explore the phenomenon of identity disruption or transitional identity. The psychological experience of shedding previous ways of being, while not yet having fully integrated or embodied a new self-concept. This isn’t a complete loss of identity, but rather a liminal phase: a space between who one was and who one is becoming. During this period, a person may remain anchored by core val...

In this birthday episode, I’m sharing 12 lessons life has taught me so far—everything from the beauty of impermanence to the power of hope, friendship, and self-investment. These reflections are rooted in personal experience and wisdom passed down from loved ones. Join me as I explore how to embrace the present, nurture meaningful relationships, and live with intention, even when life feels uncert...

OH-Kay, Let’s Talk About It - Being back home reminded me how simple life actually can be — and how far we’ve drifted from that. In the city, it’s so easy to start believing that your value comes from what you post, where you’re seen, who you know. You get caught in this cycle of chasing validation without even realising it. But being in eNqutu, where people live slow, grounded lives, where nobody...

Grief is the echo left behind when love has nowhere to go. It’s the invisible weight pressing against the ribs, where laughter once lived and silence now lingers. It is love’s shadow, stretched long and dark across the days that follow a loss. This episode is dedicated with Love to Gogoshi Katlego and Wandile. In this episode, Thando and I talk about the loss of our beloved cousin and sister, Katl...

OH-Kay, let’s talk about it. In this episode, I speak about the topic of singlehood and what it means to me as a heterosexual woman. I talk about how I’ve embraced being single and why, for me, there’s minimal difference between being in a romantic relationship and being single. With my hyper-independence and a love language that isn’t particularly clingy, I’ve come to realise that being on my own...

OH-Kay, Let’s Talk About It. Welcome to a journey of two decades of friendship. Phindi and I met unexpectedly , but from that moment, a bond was formed that has withstood the test of time and change. Through countless versions of ourselves, we’ve loved each other unconditionally, embracing every phase with open hearts and no judgment. This friendship has been nothing short of divine, and we truly...

OH-Kay, Let’s Talk About It. How God is Helping With Suicidal Ideation | Part II ‼️Trigger Warning: This episode discusses suicide ideation, mental health struggles, and trauma. Listener discretion is advised. Welcome to Episode 10 of the Oh-Kay but seriously podcast! In this episode I will continue you my discussion on a deeply personal topic: my struggles with suicide ideation and how God has be...

OH-Kay, Let’s Talk About It. ‼️Trigger Warning: This episode discusses suicide ideation, mental health struggles, and trauma. Listener discretion is advised. Welcome to Episode 9 of the Oh-Kay but seriously podcast! In this episode, I'll be discussing a deeply personal topic: my struggles with suicide ideation and how God has been healing me through this difficult journey. l'll cover: • What suici...

OH-Kay, Let’s Talk About It. What I Have Learnt As a Specialist Wellness Counsellor Thus Far In this episode, I delve into the valuable lessons l've learned throughout my journey as a specialist wellness counsellor. As a registered counsellor with my own online practice, Serenity Spectrum Counselling, and an aspiring psychologist, mental health is something I'm truly passionate about. I'll share i...

OH-Kay, Let’s Talk About It. In this episode, I’m going into my struggles with “body dysmorphia” and “bulimia”, though I want to stress that I’m using these terms loosely. I’m not referring to the clinical definitions, but rather sharing my personal experiences with these issues in a more casual sense. I’ve spoken about difficult topics before, but I think this one is particularly deep for me. Gro...

OH-Kay, Let’s Talk About It. In Episode 6 of my podcast, I dive into the topic of emotional and psychological abuse, exploring how it manifests in different relationships—whether romantic, with family, or with friends. I break down what emotional abuse really is: the subtle yet deeply damaging manipulation, control, and degradation that can occur when someone uses power to harm your mental and emo...

OH-Kay, Let’s Talk About It. An emotionally abusive relationship is one where one person manipulates, controls, or belittles the other, causing emotional harm. This can include behaviors like constant criticism, humiliation, isolation, gaslighting, or making the person feel worthless or powerless. In Episode 5 I speak about how emotional abuse isn't confined to romantic relationships-it can happen...

OH-Kay, Let’s Talk About It. Imposter syndrome is when people feel like they're not as competent or capable as others think they are, often feeling like a "fraud" or that they don’t deserve their success. Despite evidence of their achievements, they doubt their abilities and fear being "found out." It can happen to anyone, especially when facing new challenges or roles, and it can lead to stress,...

OH-Kay, Let’s Talk About It. This episode was incredibly raw and vulnerable for me to record. In episode 3, I open up about how my diagnosed depression and anxiety have impacted my relationships—whether with friends, family, romantic partners, coworkers, or even strangers I wanted to connect with but couldn’t because of my mental health. It’s a tough conversation to have because I don’t want to ma...

OH-Kay, Let’s Talk About It. In this episode, I reflect on my roots, sharing the story of where I truly come from and the people whose love helped shape me. I explore how the collision of two worlds gave me the unique life experiences that have allowed me to thrive in so many diverse environments. I feel deeply blessed to have been influenced by such varied communities, all thanks to the love stor...

OH-Kay, Let’s Talk About It. Self-identity is the way a person defines and perceives themselves. It’s a combination of beliefs, values, roles, and experiences that shape how we view who we are. It’s influenced by both internal factors (like personality, thoughts, and feelings) and external ones (such as relationships, culture, and societal expectations). Our sense of self-identity can evolve over...

OH-Kay, But Seriously-a podcast where we talk about all the big (and sometimes awkward) stuff: love, mental health, personal growth, and everything in between. I want this to be a serious-but-not-so-serious podcast. An open and raw conversation on... well... anything. From the my comfort space to yours. ___________________________________________________ Follow me on IG: @Kay_Khuzwayo & TikTok @Ka...