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Today I am talking about "what happened" conversations.   A "what happened" conversation is a type of conversation that is incredibly useful when you are in a difficult, resentful, angry, or frustrated situation with someone.   In this episode I explain more about what a "what happened" conversation is, why it's useful, and when to do it. I get specific, sharing some scripts + common mistakes (and...

In this episode, I am talking about the pulling-the-trigger part of decision making. The part when you basically know what you want, but sometimes you hesitate, you feel anxious and indecisive and put off actually making the decision.   I come to this episode as someone who has struggled to make decisions in the past.   I'm sharing five practices or thoughts that have been helpful to me and my cli...

Sometimes what holds people back from getting support is that they don't even realize what kinds of topics coaches can help with.   So in this episode, I share the 10 most common topics that come up in my own life coaching practice. Specificity is so helpful, so as I go through each category, I also share real client examples.   I hope that sharing about these topics (and a peek into some of my cl...

One of the most common questions I hear from potential clients is: "What's the difference between coaching and therapy?"   In this episode, I answer that question in a few ways:   + I share my favorite metaphor about the differences between the fields.   + I talk more about the origins of the fields, differences in training, and also how it can feel different when you are actually in the sessions...

In part 2 of this conversation, I revisit a newsletter reader question about relationships + change.   The reader asks:   "I have done a LOT of work on myself, which has resulted in seeing the world differently, clarifying my values and what kind of life I'd like to live.   "How can I continue on my new path while still accepting if my partner wants to keep going in the old one? (Or how I can enco...

I am answering another newsletter reader question today, a question about relationships + change.   The reader asks:   "I have done a LOT of work on myself, which has resulted in seeing the world differently, clarifying my values and what kind of life I'd like to live."   "How can I continue on my new path while still accepting if my partner wants to keep going in the old one? (Or how I can encour...

On today's podcast, I'm sharing an interview I did with my client, Kara, about her experiences being coached.   Kara came to coaching not because her life was terrible — in fact, it wasn't! She'd gone through more challenging periods in the past, and did have a lot of things she really wanted.   But she felt like there was a disconnect between some of her values, and how she was actually spending...

I recently asked my email newsletter list if they had any questions they'd like for me to answer on the podcast. Today, I answer one of those questions. A high-level summary of the question is: How do I gracefully transition to motherhood, from a career-oriented 30-year old with no kids and no role models? While I don't particularly consider myself a parenting expert, to me this question is really...

One thing I do very, very frequently is help clients with problems like:   "I don't know what I want."   Or: "I don't know what to do about my job or relationship or where to live."   Or: "I feel like my life is off but I'm not really sure what that even means."   I call these "compass problems" — because clients don't know what direction they want to go in, and often, they fear their compass migh...

In this episode, I cover a topic that is close to my heart - adult friendship. And in particular, I talk about the mechanics of making and deepening friendships as an adult.   I share 8 concepts, most of them inspired by the work of Shasta Nelson, that have been extremely helpful for me, and have had very practical implications for how I think about friendship, and approach fostering friendships t...

Today I want to share with you a generally useful prescription.   This prescription is for you, if you're feeling more anxious, down, stuck, frustrated, or uninspired than you'd like.   This is for you if you're convinced you need to throw out all the sugar in your house, or get rid of your smartphone, or quit your job + become a late-night TV comedy writer.   This prescription is like Advil for a...

*"I was stuck…but not for lack of trying."*   On today's podcast, I'm sharing an interview with my client Olivia.   When I met Olivia, she was an engineer at a major corporation. She's a highly intentional, driven, resourceful person (you've gotta hear the story of how she worked the system in college) — but still, she felt stuck + bone-deep exhausted.   She knew part of the problem was *her* — sh...

In today's episode, I'm offering you a radical idea:   At work, your job is to add value . Your job is not to work a specific number of hours.   In 10 Hours Back, my small group coaching program, we put this idea into practice. But I think even sitting with this concept will help you reorient what your job actually is, + find opportunities to make that a reality.   Join the waitlist for 10 Hours B...

Today, I'm sharing a high-level map of everything that you can do to reduce your working hours without sacrificing quality.   If that sounds like a big topic, I agree!   My goal is to share a comprehensive framework, so you can see everything you're doing well, and find your opportunities for growth. Even if you've tried things before, I bet this podcast will help you identify some new areas to wo...

Today I'm talking about a topic that is close to my heart: cultivating work-life balance. We want to show up for our jobs and do good work that we're proud of. And we also want to have time + energy for the things we love outside of work.   I tell the story of my work-life balance role model + inspiration. And I share a new offer I have for anyone looking to work fewer hours each week without sacr...

In today's podcast, I'm sharing an interview with my client, Matt Bruner.   When I first met Matt, he was exhausted, burnt out, and *very* dissatisfied with his job. In fact, he told me on our initial consultation that he'd already decided to quit; it was just a matter of when. Perhaps you can relate?   In our time together, Matt changed his work habits + his thoughts so significantly that he actu...

In a continuation of this two-part series, I'm sharing more of my story. This is where things really get juicy – I share two more big experiences of transformation for me: how they shifted my perspective, and why they led me to become a coach. I've been in the muck and swamp of myself, and I hope that hearing what I've found can be helpful to you, too. Subscribe to my newsletter for encouraging +...

Recently, I realized that people who are new to my work might want to know a bit more *about* me.  Like, who is this person who has this podcast? What's her deal?   So in this two-part series, I'll be sharing the story of how + why I became a coach. I'll also be sharing some of my core personal struggles + major moments of growth — because my personal journey is a big part of the reason I'm a coac...

From the moment I decided to launch a podcast, I wanted to bring on my husband Gil on as a guest. He. Is genuinely one of the most deep + insightful people I've ever met.   He happens to also have some unorthodox + really interesting perspectives on dating.   So, on todays' podcast, Gil + I answer some great newsletter listener questions about dating. You'll get a peek into some moments in our rel...

In part 2 of this series, I share insights 3 through 7 about recovering from burnout.   I discuss how long it may take to recover and how you may feel in the process. I also talk about how the actions you take and thoughts you think can affect recovery.   I had not heard all of these points in connection to burnout before, so I hope this is helpful for you.   Follow @thisiskatieseaver   Learn more...

I have a lot of experience with burnout, that feeling of "I'm completely empty. I'm tired and exhausted and I have nothing left."   In this episode I share two concepts to help you understand burnout and the 3 levels to the recovery process.   Learn what to do at each level, the common pitfalls, and how to progress through each level faster.   Follow @thisiskatieseaver   Learn more at katieseaver....

Today I'm interviewing my former client, Sunny, about her journey. She has so many great insights about being coached + life, more generally, including:    Sunny's initial impressions of me: kind of hokey; "This is white people shit."    Why Sunny used to get anxious on her birthday — and why she doesn't anymore.   The results of coaching that she expected — and the results she got that still shoc...

What can you make easier in your life? I share a story about "3 minute abs" and how I was inspired to make other things in my life simple and easy, so I could actually get them done. Learn how you can apply this concept for more success in your own life.   Follow @thisiskatieseaver   Learn more at katieseaver.com

Authenticity, along with energy, is at the core of the work I do with my clients. It's tempting to think that you don't need this topic, because you already know yourself. But I've found that most of my clients can be more skillful in their authenticity — and that doing so significantly improves their lives. Listen for more about how I define authenticity, and how you can cultivate more of it.   F...

This episode is all about energy. I share a concept I call "energy debt" and explain how energy and money work in surprisingly similar ways. So many of my clients who are very thoughtful with money are making a lot of mistakes when it comes to their energy — learn how to recognize those mistakes, and what you can do differently on today's episode!    Follow  @thisiskatieseaver   Learn more at  kat...