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Today, I'm answering another question from a newsletter subscriber. Emily asks:   "When do you know if it's the right time for a career change? or How to deal with rejection?"   I answer these questions by offering a high-level concept, sharing 4 practical ideas, and discussing a bigger, deeper element that guides my own approach. I hope this episode is helpful to you, Emily — and to anyone strugg...

In the self-development space, there's often so much content about "seizing the new year."   I can sometimes find it exhausting, so today, I wanted to share a shortie episode with an idea that you might not even use just yet. Today, let's talk about *travel.*   I share the story of how I realized this little idea was worth sharing + a little more about how I implement it.   I hope this is helpful...

If you're starting to dream about the new year, I want to propose something that would significantly improve your year: Start a women's group in 2025.   I'm calling it a "women's group" - but this episode is for men, too. I talk about what this kind of group *is*, my own experiences starting one, how we run our meetings, and what I think works well for us.   Just having a richer, deeper support sy...

We are approaching a very particular time of year. There are holidays, extra activities and events, and it's a lot. So today I'm sharing what to do when you're not going to fucking meditate. Or do three pages of fucking journaling. Or take an hour-long fucking walk.   Even if you would, in theory, like to do those things. Even if you've done those things — or even one of those things — regularly a...

Today I want to share about "feeling held by the world." It's a desire, or need, that underlies many other problems - if you're frustrated in your friendships, if you can never be as productive as you might like - this might be a concept that helps you in unexpected ways.   It's also come up with two different clients recently, and is a deep-yet-simple concept that often brings me calm + groundedn...

I am answering another newsletter subscriber question today. Camilla asked:   "I've just gotten divorced and not worked for some time while we relocated abroad and tried for a family. I have to get back to work but I'm scared and worry about how to communicate my career gap."   Camilla's question is about charting a new path after a divorce, but I think it's also a question about much broader them...

Today I'm answering another question from a newsletter subscriber. J asks: "How do I find time and energy for friendship when I'm exhausted by work and parenting?"   I share 6 practical suggestions for maintaining friendships when you are tired and overwhelmed. And then I talk about a higher-level problem that I think may be at play here.   I hope that these ideas help you maintain those friendshi...

Here's something I've said to three different clients just this week:   It might not be a logical decision. (At least not in the way that you think).   So, today, I want to expand on that a bit – I want to talk about three main weaknesses that our logical brain can have in some kinds of decision-making. Then, I'm going to talk about what we can consult instead.   And finally, I'm going to flesh ou...

A newsletter subscriber recently asked: "How do I get my ego out of the way when approaching a career transition?"   She's used to having the "credibility shortcut" of being a lawyer, and a part of her mourns that she won't have it in the same way — even though she likes her decision to try a new direction.   Today, I'm sharing more about what I think *really* hurts when we feel like our ego is in...

Some time ago, I wrote about what I've learned about friendship from watching my dad. People tell me, over and over, that this piece about my dad really touched them, and really stayed with them.    So, today I am putting these same ideas into podcast form, with some edits and a bit more detail.   I think my dad has some pretty great — and even *radical* — insights on friendship. I hope these idea...

Today I'm interviewing my wonderful former client, Hannah.   Hannah came to me when she was going through an extremely tough season at work, and wanted to make sure she navigated that season skillfully, and also didn't let it completely negatively impact her personal life. So many people I speak with are dealing with a similar issue, and Hannah has a lot of great insights + practices to share abou...

Today, I'm talking about basking, a body-based way of relating to people. Basking allows us to take in different, often quite useful information, and often produces different results.   On this episode, I explain what basking is + how I learned about it originally. Plus, I share 5 different contexts in which you can use it, and why it's so helpful in each — using examples from one of my clients, a...

I recently asked my newsletter community if there were any questions they would like me to answer on the podcast. I got some really good ones and today I'm answering this high-level question:   "How do you advise people who are dealing with that general feeling of "stuckness"?"   I realized, that on some level, so much of my work with clients is helping them with issues just like this - but I have...

Sometimes we go through periods where we do not see outside progress or results, despite taking the action. And that can be....frustrating (to put it mildly).   Today, I wanted to share two ideas - one extended metaphor, and one short thought - that I've been reminding myself lately, in my own season of taking action without seeing a ton of results (yet). They've given me a lot of patience - and h...

This episode is about self-development realism. To me, self-development realism is acknowledging the *reality* of your limitations when it comes to implementing ideas from podcasts, on instagram, or books.   You can consume as much self-development content as you'd like, but I don't want you to get frustrated or overwhelmed by it. I strongly believe that the most meaningful change typically happen...

In this episode, I talk about agitation.   If you're thinking: "What the heck is agitation, and why does it matter?" - well, this episode is for you. I'll start by defining the term - and make the case for why you should definitely care. (A lil' hint: ever struggled to stop doing something that doesn't serve you?)   Then I'll share two general principles of how agitation works (including a slightl...

Today's episode is a rant that I would like to share with people who have Energetically Expensive Lives.   It's a rant that I have been sharing with some of my clients who have energetically expensive lives, and it's a rant that I just sometimes rant to myself, as I'm taking a walk, and feel fired up about these big, mistaken ideas that people with energetically expensive lives have.   If you don'...

Today I am sharing a concept I've developed over the past year or so. Like most of my best concepts, it came out of my work with my 1:1 clients.   One of my clients was extremely sensitive - which was both an incredible strength for her, and also caused some real suffering. I developed this concept to help her better understand what was going on for her - and also how to move forward.   It turns o...

I'm back with my husband, Gil, to share some ideas about how to communicate with men.   (This is part 2 of the series we started in Episode 31 , where we discussed communicating with women.)   In this episode, Gil and I share our best tips for communicating with men, and pull back the curtain of our marriage a bit, too. You'll hear:   + Why it never worked when I'd (emotionally) ask Gil to "take m...

​​In coaching my male clients, I realized that there were some common challenges that they encountered, in communicating with their female partners — and that I could often help them communicate far more effectively!   Truthfully, I hesitated to make this episode. I don't always love making gender-based generalizations - but I also felt like this was a topic that could help a lot of people.   So t...

On today's podcast, I'm sharing an interview I did with my former client, Julie.   Our coaching work together covered many things – including a deep dive into decision-making + how to get better at it. In our conversation, Julie and I talk about:   + The list of super-useful thoughts she cultivated about decision-making (which you should absolutely steal).   + The 4-part decision-making process sh...

​​One of the most common questions I hear is some form of: so what actually *happens* on a coaching engagement?   This is a great question. After all, life coaching is a relatively new profession, so many people aren't familiar with it. And different coaches run their coaching engagements in different ways.   Today I answer this question in two ways: from a more high-level arc of the overall engag...

In this episode, I talk about intentional technology.   I share the first two big things I did to get intentional about technology years ago.   These are honestly pretty small + easy, but they also give you a big bang for your buck.   So if you want the feeling of having done something for the new year, without actually doing a lot, I think these could be fun places to start.   Subscribe to my new...

Today I am sharing a very specific observation that has some interesting implications during the holiday season.   This is about people who grow up in generally loving, warm, functional families. Obviously this is a blessing, in so many ways.   And yet, I have also observed that people who come from loving and warm and functional families will sometimes have a very specific set of problems, that I...

As we enter the holiday season, I want to offer you an idea that has been really resonating with me in my life, and with my clients as well.   Here it is: Take the next day off.   If you're trying to make an improvement in your life - do the new practice for one day, and then *take the next day off.* Don't do it for two days in a row.   It might sound a little silly, or a little ineffective, but t...